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2023.03.06 02:39 rrpt Question about Business Visas
I work for an international company with offices in Canada in the UK. Unofficially (ie not sponsored by my company for various internal political reasons which aren’t important), I plan to visit for 3 reasons:
1) To visit my boss and colleagues whom I’ve never met but worked intimately with for many years.
2) To train a new guy starting in my team and perhaps some training myself
3) A holiday.
I obviously plan to be working while I’m over but I won’t be paid by any Canadian arm of my company but won’t have any documentation from my company sponsoring my visit.
It’s unclear what I need visa wise. Canadian government websites indicate I’d be a business visitor and need proof from my company but my boss contradicts this and stresses it’s OK since I’m not visiting to make money and still being paid back home.
Does anyone have any advice? Additionally, I if this is the wrong sub, could someone please kindly point me somewhere more relevant!
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2023.03.06 00:55 b8m88 stacked wow account dragonflight
hey guys im new to this subreddit, looking to get a gauge on my wow account. I have 4 70s (417 evoker, 391 rogue, 390 monk and fresh 70 ele sham) i have 2750io raiding aswell as AOTC and 4/8M. also comes with 500k gold and tons of alts from 50-70. If anyone is interested or knows the market well enough to value my acc (USD or CAD) id love to hear from you.
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2023.03.06 00:32 smokie_ghost I can't do anything anymore, and I'm so so ashamed of it.
I'm so tired and I'm not even sure what the purpose of writing this here is, I guess I just need to vent or have someone tell me I'm not going as insane as I think I am. I've gotten out of highschool, back where my depression and anxiety started showing. It was a very hard time, I also got in hospital so keeping up with school wasn't easy at all, even though I've been able to get out of school without even studying much (thanks god). Since then I felt as if my energy batteries were slowly dying or something... the more I go on, the more I feel so tired I can't keep up with any sort of activity. I do force myself to do stuff even if I don't feel like it, but again, everything I do has become so... little in general, but I can't help but feel tired everytime. I try to get attached to hobbies, and before I do I'm so scared that I won't like it, because I get easily tired, just immediately. And if it were only that, people around me really don't help me. They just make me feel a lot more stressful than I already am. Right now I am attending a music school, which isn't as stressful as university (I wouldn't be able to keep it up otherwise). All I have to do is literally study my instrument everyday, but I can't even do that anymore. It's not like I don't like it, but I'm so tired I can't bring myself to do it. Then again, music schools are the ones you usually attend while you're also attending university, right? In the past year, after I left university because I couldn't keep it up anymore (despite the fact that I liked it, as in learning specific subjects), and I didn't even study or anything. I just followed classes. So right now a lot of people just come up with "advices" such as "why don't you attend university?". And I can't help but replay in my head people telling me that "I should study my instrument more because that is all I do, I don't attend any other school". Yeah man, I wish. No, these people do not know that I've been depressed for the past 2 years, it almost has been 3 by now, it has gotten worse, not to talk about the fact that I'm pretty sure my anxiety has taken over my body somehow (as in somatic anxiety) I feel numb and I can't even bring myself to cry anymore. But what can I do? Go to my professor and say that I have a hard time cause I'm depressed? I'm so tired of it, and the last thing I want is to be pitied. I know that doing something like this would only bring to a brief conversation of "Yeah I'm sorry don't worry..etc". I've become so ashamed of all of this I feel like a worm who gets out of bed and eats, sometimes, or something. Also I feel like my depression has had the chance to show itself in so many ways it doesn't even have any other to try out; you know how it shows itself differently for everybody right? Through different symptoms and such. Sometimes I just realize that some symptoms are adding and it makes it a lot worse. I haven't been able to sleep, eat or take care of myself properly because of it. If I felt good at eating and going to sleep with a certain schedule, now it doesn't because I rarely can bring myself to like some food and I've grown pretty insomniac. I feel so bad about this and I know I can't get better, I don't want to search for support by the ones around me anymore because my depression got so bad that I can't bring up a normal conversation about my life without generalizing all the details about it, cause I don't want to end up saying that "yeah my life is either empty or full of shit cause I suffer from depression", cause I know it's just gonna make it awkward, I'm gonna be pitied and there's gonna be this whole atmosphere of "how are you doing". I just think about my situation a lot when I don't talk to anybody, I really don't want to bring it up when I'm trying to have a better time than usual, I'm trying not to think about it for just a second, okay? Then again I can't explain anything about myself, I've literally become my depression. And because of the fact that mental illnesses have never been neatly explained to those who have never experienced, I would also feel much weirder talking about it, so sometimes I just think of explaining it by saying that I'm ill. Cause society never acknowledged that, but WE all are ill. I wish it were treated as an illness, so that I don't have to go through explanations all the time... My energies are also dying faster because I'm so tired of this pain, that I don't want those close to me know how much in pain I am. I've gotten used to this pain, It has been like this forever, but nobody knows that I am really in pain right now. Can't really hide it to my parents, and that weights on me a lot, but at least I can hide it to other people. But, oh dear, lately I forced myself to lie so bad that I've been feeling so terrible about it. But there's nothing else I can do. My misery stays there, makes me feel like the worse person alive, but at the very least I'm not going to make others feel bad about it. At this very point I feel like leaving this world is the best choice for everybody, not only me as I've desidered this for so long, but also for everyone else. I would leave them behind without a proper reason why I did that, it would just be a mistery to everyone, but no one would need to look after the mess I am anymore.
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2023.03.05 23:49 Alarming_Fun5549 Advice on a possibility of allowing a friend
Okay so this a continuation of a post from about a year ago. In short term I had broken a friendship due (let’s call her Alyssa. Not her really name) Alyssa drinking uncontrollably and harming herself all while blaming me at the same time. There was at a time where we both thought about being a relationship would be a good idea but we decided not to. After that night happened I completely cut all communication with her and told if she contacted me again I’d expect the money she borrowed ($400) back. I knew this would be a impossible for her because she was paying for college and couldn’t keep a job down for more then a year.
So now the present. Thanks to a great job I have I was able to get a very cheap therapy and go to it about once a month. I always wanted to go to therapy because of the physical and verbal abuse I was dealt by my father, it also didn’t help that I saw my oldest and closest friend cut herself and blame me. Anyway I’m in a better mental health space and I have a good work out routine. Yesterday I received a FaceTime call from an unknown number, I of course answer and the minute I did I saw her face everything rushed back good memories along with the bad ones. Alyssa started by asking if it was okay to talk and I could hear her daughter run around in the background. I said yes and she started by apologizing how she was a bad friend, she missed me and missed how close we were. I mean we would talk almost everyday about everything, playing pigeon games, and just send dark humor jokes. I couldn’t lie to myself I did miss her but she definitely messed me up. We talked on the phone for over an hour. I asked her about college, her sobriety, and her daughter. Her daughter (let call her Anna again not her real name) use to call me uncle and when she heard my voice she came over to see who Alyssa was talking too. Immediately Anna start say how she missed me and if I would come visit them again. Of course her attention didn’t last to long when Alyssa put on frozen so that we could keep talking. Towards the end of the call she told me if there was any chance in me forgiving her and being friends again. I told her honestly I had forgiven her because I didn’t want to live my life holding grudges but I didn’t know about being friends. I asked her to give me some time to think and she agreed and understood.
So if anyone could tell me your advice or opinion that would be great and I’d appreciate it a lot. Thank you and I hope you’re all doing well
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2023.03.05 23:47 Safe_Entrance_8524 Is it time for me 19F to let go of my ex 22M
I 19F have one 22M ex from 2 years ago. I won’t get too into it but we broke up because he was no longer putting effort into the relationship. After breaking up the following two years we were on and off talking, fwb, just friends, and sometimes not in communication at all. Throughout this time I stopped caring if he texted, called, I didn’t expect it from him anymore and I feel unbothered. At the beginning of this year I realized it would be 2 years since we broke up and after the endless last chances I’d given him to show me he was changing it never happened. For the past month or so I’ve been talking to a new guy 20M. We’ve only hung out 3 times but we already have so much in common and share many interests. I really like him and want to see where things go, but I am still in communication with my ex. I want to cut off my ex but I don’t if I’m being unfair if I just do it out of the blue, I haven’t been in love with him for a long time, at this point I pity him and feel bad for him. Whenever I tell him I’m done with him and am not interested in seeing a future with him he gets desperate and will say anything to make me stay. Should I feel guilty or just be stern and cut him off without looking back?
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2023.03.05 22:51 sweaty_garbage [TOMT][book][pre-2000] Mythology/legends illustrated book series with big two-page spread illustrations in the center and smaller drawings and text boxes on the edges. I remember specific pages on Robin Hood and I think Samson and Delilah, and one really scary image of Loki destroying the world
I'm losing my mind trying to remember these old books I used to look at in my school library in elementary school. I have vague memories of the books having black or dark covers, but I vividly remember that the drawings were really realistic and often times sort of disturbing, and I just have to lay eyes on those images again.
The things I can remember include them being a series of books. One of them was on Robin Hood, and I think the image in the center had Robin Hood shooting someone's hat or something? But I remember distinctly a quote that said something along the lines of, "it's two birds with one stone," and the Sheriff of Nottingham saying, "I don't want to kill birds, I want Robin Hood," as well as a little illustration of Robin Hood robbing a poor lady with a text box that said the real Robin Hood probably stole from rich and poor alike.
I remember very distinctly a page on Ragnarok, or at least I remember the picture in the middle. It's someone with flaming hair and a flaming sword and this fucked-up wild smile, and I think he's like bringing the sword down to destroy the earth below him, and I think his legs are in the air? It's a weird pose but I remember being really disturbed by it as a kid. I remember the text thing describing it as Loki destroying the world, and something about him letting out a howl before bringing flame to the entire world. I also remember it saying that hordes of monsters overwhelmed the Norse Gods and killed them.
I can't tell you the age of the books, I saw them when I was a little kid in the early 2000s but my school library was old and had some really old books. If I had to guess I'd say they were from the 90's or maybe the late 80's.
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2023.03.05 22:00 Divasf Arthritis 15 year old terrier
My rescue mixed terrier 15 years old - 21 pounds. He’s slowing down with arthritis. Younger days this guy jumped like Jack Russell - no longer anymore ☹️..he’s our baby we don’t have kids. He’s got a heart murmur (had this from beginning when we adopted at 1 year old)…vet has him on prescription medication for arthritis & heart murmur. I’m research what I can do to make him comfortable- I have arthritis know the pain . Im getting him a pet specific heating pad - any recommendations?
Arthritis care recommendations?
Pet stroller for city apartment (small & folding)? Recommendations?
Thank you 😊
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2023.03.05 20:50 throwaway36628127 Abusive ex & his friends are threatening me because he r* me
Hi guys, I’m kind of at a loss and need some advice or space to just vent. I don’t know what I should do in the situation and honestly I’m quite scared. Basically I dated this guy for a little bit and I am a virgin by choice, I’m trying to wait for marriage. He is an insane drunk, drinks ruthlessly no matter the situation, I’m talking 12 packs a night. He understood this for the entirety of our relationship, and waited for me to get drunk for him to stick it in me, basically, for lack of better words. I try not to tell many people, but I will not hide the fact that he is abusive. His new girlfriend has been hitting me up, she’s pretty crazy, and I’ve been trying to help her to figure out a way out of the relationship with him because she has told me that he verbally abuses her. I basically said to her “I care about ur well-being. He is extremely abusive & I care for you” despite how mean she’s been to me, I rlly only care. I didn’t think much of this message, but the next morning I get blown up with messages from his best friend & cousin, calling me delusional, a liar, fishing for drama, that I’m trying to ruin maxs life etc. I don’t even know how to feel, they don’t know what he did to me & it hurts to know my names going to be connected to these hurtful words, all because I got r***d. Some of their messages felt almost threatening. Out of respect for myself, I explained to them my side of the story. Of course they both had nothing to say & left me on read, I’m sure deep down they know he hurt me, but they can’t admit it to themselves. Then my ex calls me at night screaming at me, saying he put it in “as a joke” & I need to understand that. He said how dare I spread rumors about him on the internet & I was trying to tell him I literally haven’t told anyone about what you did to me I just called u abusive, I started being so submissive & telling him it won’t happen again. He said to stay out of his life (I haven’t reached out to him in MONTHS, & he has blown up my phone with hurtful messages about once a month that I don’t take the time to reply to) despite him calling me about 10 times last night. The last call ended with him telling me he loved me, & he was obviously wasted. After we got off the phone he started blowing my phone up again with texts with just drunk nonsense. I’m so scared these people are gonna ruin my reputation by telling people I’m a liar & completely disregard the personal information I told them about my trauma. I want to cry, why do men do this to women.
Screenshots for context: https://imgur.com/a/9Wkiosj
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2023.03.05 20:47 kobazik First Meshlicious water cooled build
I'm about to build my first water cooled PC inside Meshlicious case and I'm not sure about how big radiator I should pick and will it fit.
I'm planning to use 7700x or i5-13600k (yet to be decided) and for GPU I already got Sapphire Nitro+ RX 6900XT.
I would like to use new pump+res combo EKWB EK-Quantum Velocity2 DDC 4.2 PWM D-RGB and for GPU I saw EK got EK-QUANTUM VECTOR N+ RX 6800XT/6900XT D-RGB - NICKEL + ACETAL on sale now due to old gen GPU.
Will something like EK CoolStream PE 240 Performance Series Dual 120mm Fan be enough for both CPU and GPU or should I go for EK Water Blocks EK-Quantum Surface S280 Dual Fan Radiator ?
In terms of tubes will 12mm be ok I should I go 14mm?
I got Corsair SF750 SFX PSU so I think there should be enough space for 280mm rad and cables.
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2023.03.05 18:39 attyisaway I can't do this
I want to die I tried slitting my own throat but all I could think about was what would my baby brother think of me he's only 2 now but in the future will he think I'm a coward? Or even be disgusted with me for giving up? I very recently turned 16 and I've already dropped out all I do is cry I have no hope anymore I get no support from my "family" and they're very abusive and toxic I just want out I want to die and finally be at peace for once I don't know what to do anymore please I need help
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2023.03.05 18:03 SchlesingerMindy323 [HIRING] 25 Jobs in ID Hiring Now!
Hey guys, here are some recent job openings in id. Feel free to comment here or send me a private message if you have any questions, I'm at the community's disposal! If you encounter any problems with any of these job openings please let me know that I will modify the table accordingly. Thanks!
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2023.03.05 17:58 notusedaccount12 I’m so tired of my best friend constantly venting to me
I have been friends with her for almost ten years, but during these years I have felt like a therapist. I get it that her life has been hard and she has some issues, but she just constantly nags. Each day she sends me a message every 30 minutes complaining about something.
“My head hurts!” “Ugh I can’t stand that this bus is full!” “I am depressed”
Then I offer her advice and she says:
“I can’t do that because of reason x”.
Most of her issues stem from her being extremely overweight. I have made diet and workout plans for her and even offered to change the gym I go to so she can workout with me if she feels scared to go to the gym. But no. “I can’t do that I have work”.
I’m tired. I used to care about her issues but honestly I don’t give a fuck about her anymore. I know, it sounds harsh, but I don’t. I have offered her help and advice, but she just want to complain.
I told her once that she should stop being so negative and our friendship fell apart for a year. We reconciled and she was good for a while. But lately it has started again.
I think I am going to cut her off forever, but I just needed to let this frustration out first.
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2023.03.05 17:26 D_J_E Hoping to grow.
I am a new streamer and had just finished up my third ever stream the other day. At the moment it is just me streaming myself doing some (hopefully) cool drawings and giving some live commentary over the top. I am happy to talk about pretty much any topic with chat and am looking to have a good laugh with whoever might be interested in my work. I am also looking to hopefully expand my streams outside of just doing drawings in the future and moving onto streaming other things such as video games. You can find me here, https://twitch.tv/d_j_e_2001
I hope to see you there! :)
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2023.03.05 17:08 Professional-Jump864 Looking for support
Sorry in advance for the length:
I'm less than 24 hours into NC, and I'm struggling. I know that this is what I need to heal and move on, but I suck at letting go of control. I know that's fucked up.
I'm getting out of a very toxic relationship. We did love each other I think, or at least had a deep caring and attachment for the other and we shared a lot. My dad died right as we got together and it made me feel so close to him. But we were mean to each other and were not able to properly support ourselves let alone each other. We seemed to have an awful time communicating and we were constantly fighting and breaking up (mainly me running - yeah, that's a me issue again, I know). Plus we both had other exes in the picture.
Neither of us was in a good place mentally and I've been trying to take steps towards feeling better and being a better person. I'm far from perfect and have made choices I'm really not proud of, I acknowledge I have many things to work on before I can be a good partner. So lately I have focused more on being a high performer at work, being a good mom, I work out, I'm sober, I'm starting therapy and I've stopped isolating myself from friends and family.
Fast forward to yesterday, things were as they had been. But he got super cold out of nowhere, he was drunk and decided to pick a fight and share everything he'd been holding in I guess. He brought up everything wrong I've done and accused me of lying and manipulating and basically that he knew me and that I wasn't a good person and that he was done with me. My rational mind says, okay this is it, even if my actions hurt him, I had my reasons and I deserve a happy and healthy relationship when I'm ready.
Basically, we fought for hours, mainly me pleading with him and trying to explain myself and apologize for the things I've done wrong. He chose something small to cling on to as the "final straw" and he blocked me. Hurt like hell. I emailed him a short message to please unblock me - feels pathetic but I was desperate.
Anyways, he responded this morning to say how we are bad for each other and he has nothing left to say and it's done. He's right, and I haven't responded. He is entitled to that feeling. But I'm just struggling to get through the initial "this is really over" feeling and come to terms with being alone. I'm riding a wave of emotions.
Thanks for reading.
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2023.03.05 16:47 traitor_19 Help! My DA suddenly changing behaviors (or is it me healing?)
warning: uber long post
First, English is not my first language, so please bear with me :)
Second - I’m gay :) hoping that this is an open space for all genders. So this is going to be a long story (not in chronological order), just trying to connect things I guess IDK lol help me.
I’ve broken up with my longtime partner of 12 years - mostly due to me having mental issues during the pandemic (my mom had breast cancer in 2020, my dad has a stroke in 2022) - me the only able person to take care of the family took a toll on me, but wasn’t internalized until late 2022 where I felt so alone and lonely so I became depressed and sought mental counselling.
Within the relationship, I felt like I fell out of love, and boxed myself in a relationship that I forgot who I am and what I want. It may have been a quarterlife? Midlife? Crisis (I just turned 34) but I felt like my feelings for him became platonic. We saw each other on a weekly, routinary basis where we meet and eat and I stay in his place and leave - no touching, no sex. We did not have sex for like the last five years. Some of my other needs were not met (the needs I didn’t realize just recently) - assurance, validation, all those things.
Anyways, somewhere along the way the anxious activated in me that I became heavily anxious - I resorted to sex and other things to fulfill whatever the need that I have (which I have stopped and I was taking pRep / always safe).
Before the new year ended I met someone who is 10 years younger from me (he’s 23). We started contacting each other starting December of last year and has not stopped since.
The parts that confuse me.
So I would categorize him as someone who is avoidant. All the things are there - our conversations are mostly surface level conversations. He shuts down when I express my feelings or any time when our conversation would involve mentions of feelings. He’s always the first one to apologize whenever we have conflict. He is disinterested about my day or my life. He often fails to validate or assure me. You pull up a video about DA and he fits like a glove.
Since December we have only seen each other less than 10 times and maybe and we only see each other for like 3 hours, 5 hours tops when we do. But, he lives a little far away and my place is the only place available for us to meetup so I definitely appreciate his efforts to come over). However there were times when he would promise to come over or visit but would not - that’s when I realized that he might be an avoidant. Because of that I just took whatever he says as it is lol.
Because of my AP being activated I had some behaviors that may not be acceptable, but I also have (always have had it) great instincts. One time he was telling me his whereabouts and somewhere deep in my heart I knew there was something he was not telling me. So I did check some of his friends profile and I saw one of his friend’s story that they saw each other.
It was honestly fine for me, as I appreciate him updating me about his whereabouts (our messages are just him updating where he is, what he is doing, etc, nothing deeper than that. I do the same to him), but he did not admit it not until the very last minute (when I directly accused him of lying). At first I really was telling him to be honest with me and that did not work so I had to directly tell him that I knew he was lying. I am not the jealous type and tbh even tho he is dating others I would be okay, but honesty is very big for me.
He apologized and he said the reason he hid it is because he’s afraid I might get jealous. As usual the discussion didn’t last very long as he shut down and had to decompress.
Early on in our relationship, because he is “discreet” and his friends are not aware, I wasn’t known to his circle (as he is to mine, but I am the more open one) - so there was one time when he did not update me for a day and he told me that they would go somewhere. I called him a lot of times just to make sure he is safe. He responded the next day saying that his friends were teasing him. I just told him that if he does not want me to contact him in any time of the day and just he just need to tell me, as I also tell him when I’m at work or I’m busy etc. No big deal to me.
Here’s the part that’s weird: on two occasions now that I was with friends. First time he called me, but we were cooking something so I was not able to answer. He got mad at me for not answering my phone. I just told him you can’t make me do that he can’t do for me - so again he apologized and blamed himself (“I’m so stupid” he said to himself and other things).
Second time he called me too while eating out with friends when I explicitly told him that I am eating out with friends. It’s fine that he called, it’s just weird that he is choosing to do so whenever I am with people around. Also in relation to this, because of his situation (he’s not out in his circle), I never called him. He’s always the one calling me whenever he wants.
So we’ve been together for more or less four months now. And since we started being together (I was the one who asked him the DTR lol) I have been studying about DAs and how to communicate with them). I think I’m making huge progress because there were moments that he was able to open up to me. For the argument part, he said he sorts to just apologizing because he did not want to argue as he thinks I’m too “deep.” So in cases when I had something to say I either make it too literal and not really touch the feelings portion, or turn it into humor - all these are easier to digest.
Earlier on we had an argument, because I showed him my suggested friends in Facebook (lmao sorry FB is popular here) where his old account appeared, but then instead of that what he noticed is the other suggested friends which are his friends. He got mad and accused me of planning to add his friends.
I told him that it’s not my fault that FB has suggested friends feature and that I have my own friends so I don’t need to befriend his friends LMAO. So again he apologized and decompressed.
When I asked him about it, he said he had a FUBU that had grown attachment to him.This person recorded of videos of them having sex and so he blocked the person but the person was blackmailing him.
So I knew he was very secretive and private and independent and I get that. I am also very independent and as an AP I am working in healing my own attachment and because I know he is avoidant, I have been trying to “lessen” my connection to him. When before I was always the first to send a message or ask him or just generally the first one to start a conversation, now he was always the first one to message me. When before his responses would be just one liners now its becoming a full blown conversation, he also always sends pictures for some reason.
Here’s the confusing part. It’s confusing to me because I know he is a very private person. Recently he videocalled me and low and behold - we were having video sex lol. I am not new into this kind of thing but I just could not connect how he would be open to such a thing when I knew he had privacy issues in a past.
Also, because I love to give gifts (my love language is quality time BTW) I often give him small gifts here and there. He gives me food always which I love but he always reprimands me whenever I give gifts because he did not want to me spend for him (again my AP activating by overcompensating with gifts). Also whenever I offer him to get food delivered to his place (he stays at his sibling’s old condo sometimes) and he was telling me there was no food he always told me off.
But there is this one time when he would deliberately send me a picture of a pair of shoes he wanted to buy so badly (it’s not expensive) I offered, he did not reject me but said he would pay me.
It’s just weird that he declines some and accepts others. He is also going out in the sea for a year for his on the job training (he’s a marine engineer) - I was thinking that could have been the cause of his extra sweetness lately - because we won’t meet for a year. For the past two weeks he has been telling me that he misses me, he’s always the one to initiate a conversation, and even promised me to see me next week. I thought that it could be because I bought him the shoe but that was weeks ago. Also the last time we saw each other, he said it’s okay for me to meet other people while he was away. I asked him why and he said because he knew I had other needs aswell that he might not be able to provide, and that he might not be able to contact me because there will be no signal on wherever they’ll be on training.
So there. I am a bit confused because there are times when I feel I’m being love bombed, but there is really nothing that he could get from me. I don’t even know if it’s because I am starting my own healing process that I find his current behavior a little bit weird for me (UGH I’m gonna hate my self so much, but I feel like he is starting to cling onto me). I’m confused because, of this situation that he’ll be away I have started to detach myself. He told me his plans (he plans to have a family or a child - which I am not planning lol), of his brother taking him overseas (and him jokingly telling me that he would bring me, but I have no plans of going abroad).
I don’t really know what to do next other than to just maybe enjoy the moment and not think about this too much. I’ve been studying avoidant behaviors for awhile now and it is now becoming a little bit exhausting to me (I mean, I still have my own attachment style to heal lmao).
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THE SPACE :) IF THIS CONFUSES YOU TOO I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND YOU LMAO.
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2023.03.05 16:29 Ambitious-Celery-223 35 [M4F] friend ermita area
Just looking for someone to have a constant hang out with. Open with anyone mapa boomer or gen z ka pa. I'm super kaladkarin, G ako from kape lang sa Mary Grace to walwalan sa pobla. HAHA
Heads up tho, sana okay ka sa talking stage muna coz I'm a bit busy this week.. we can prolly meet sometime next week pa.
Preferably tiga ermita (or at least very near) lang talaga para mabilis ayain at puntahan- for 2 bots or midnight coffee run.
A little about me (if this matters)
Pretty chill guy
looks ok naman (looks young for my age)
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2023.03.05 16:06 intrepid-jellyfish49 STBXW using financial concerns as a reason to minimally engage with planning out separation. She works part time, has significant savings/wealth, receives 30K inheritance $ annually, has potential to earn more than me through her work, and is seeking spousal support. Any wisdom to offer?
Two part question here. Any wisdom to offer on (1) navigating my separation process when one spouse has near sided financial concerns and is stalling and (2) navigating negotiations for spousal support.
STBXW worried we can't afford two houses in the short term. This is legitimate if you consider status quo earnings vs expenses but not if you consider savings. We both have plenty of savings, and she has about 6x more than me. Obviously nobody likes to withdrawal from savings but yeah. I just started a full time job 4 months ago that pays well (high 200s) and she makes low 100s working about 2 days a week. She doesn't seem to want to work more than about 2 days per week and I think that's part of why she's stalling. She's agreeing to 50-50 custody. She prefers to keep our shared house (I would like it too but since I'm initiating the divorce I don't want to push on this one) but is worried she won't be able to cover the mortgage and is asking me to make sure she has enough $$. I gently point out that we'll go through mediation, see what the calculators say we owe each other, and figure it out. I've made it clear I'm not interested in trying to go after any of her wealth nor do either of us want a dog fight btwn lawyers. The calculators show that based on current income, I'd owe her about $1200 alimony and $800 child support. I'm open to paying that if she asks for it but Im just baffled by the financial concerns particularly since I'm the one with much less wealth, just happened to start a higher paying job 5 months ago that I work full time at and she doesn't want to work more but could easily earn more than me. Maybe it comes down to a values / ethics question but frustrating bc I just want to freaking separate, tell our kids that we are separating, but need a clear plan for housing first and not making progress. I've proposed working with a mediator and that hasn't gotten anywhere so far.
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2023.03.05 15:32 Crapricornia HELOC for Down Payment Thoughts
I own a condo in Chicago. I don't want to live there anymore (family is far too big now.) We want to relocate just over the border to IN where cost of living is cheapebetter school/I keep my job in IL.
We have 0 money for a down payment. Dream scenario would be magically selling our condo, getting that money, using it as a down payment, moving. But that's not going to happen.
Is a HELOC an OK idea for getting a down payment? Our current condo isn't 100% paid off, but it's about 75% paid off. We bought in 2010, though the market is rough now (I'm told) I still think it's worth more than what we paid in 2010. The plan would be to get the HELCO, buy, move, sell, pay off HELCO with selling money. WORST case scenario we rent the condo out to cover the HELCO costs until we can sell (we can get double what we pay mortgage/assessments/taxes monthly in rent, give or take based on location/market.) I don't want to be a landlord, I don't have the motivation, but if forced I could deal with it.
Also, we want to be moved by Aug 1 because we need residency in the town to get the kids into school. So there's a deadline working against us.
Is there a factor I'm missing that would make this an AWFUL idea? Or other options I'm not considering? After going over all other options, this SEEMS like the best one. We get our down payment, we can actually get our new loan, we can move in time, and then pay off what we need to when we sell OR use rental income to cover it.
FINALLY- I'm a dum dum when it comes to housing/real estate. I just don't "get" it, so talk to me like a child about it because it's not my field of study. I'm in healthcare and IT and not into this sort of stuff, which is why I'm coming to you all.
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2023.03.05 15:32 crimewatchramuy Most successful conman in Malaysia
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2023.03.05 13:45 aFinapple I have some questions with my build
Hey all. I wanted to get some opinions on build, mainly what I should upgrade because it’s been about 4 years since i last upgraded my PC.
I actually should say I did just go from a Ryzen 5 2600 to a 5600x, and a Vega 56 to a RTX 6700 XT. I’m able to play most games at around 120fps on 1440p, and all of the other parts in my PC are from about 4 years ago, and I’m wondering what else would complement this recent upgrade.
Here is what I’m running:
ASUS Prime B450 Plus GSkill 3000mHz ram, 2x8 in dual channel Ryzen 5 5600x with a Cooler Master Hyper Evo 212 RTX 6700 XT Crucial 500gb SATA SSD A 1000 watt PSU that I don’t know the name of, but it’s a name brand one
I know I want to get a M.2 SSD because I don’t have a lot a space with 500GB of storage, but I’m not sure about my RAM. I’ve read that the 5600x supports up to 3200mHz, and some say it does better with 3600mHz. I have pretty good air flow in my case, with 3 fans as intakes and 4 as exhausts, at least I think if I remember right
I’m also unsure if I should upgrade my motherboard, and I’m not really sure why I should do that in the first place if I did need to upgrade it.
I would also love to hear some opinions on my current upgrades, because I went from doing 60 FPS on most games at 1080p to doing 120+ FPS on most games at 1440p, and couple that with FreeSync and 144hz, I seriously can’t get enough
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2023.03.05 13:26 low_temperature920 do I have a bad mom?
All she does is yell and get mad at me, either she hits me physically, throws glass at me, or by bare minimum gets angry at small things I'm basically just forces to follow at this point because genuinely I have no other choice. She forcefully let me down in the worst way. I hate how she favors every other kid more than me how she throws kitchen knives at me and tells me to kms on the spot because that's how much I am as a bad duaghter, she never tells me what I did wrong. Tbh she treats me like a punching bag, I feel more free in school than at home. I don't even know if it can be considered abusive? Or shes just strict..idfk myself, I don't even know if it's a big problem I have to bare with it no matter what I do it UPSETS HER. ussualy I'm late to school because of her. She struggles with money because all she does it spend it all and blames me she begs me and my non-existant dad for money when I'm litteraly younger than 16 and she expects so much, I'm emberrased to be accociated with her makes me vomit she does worse things than this though, if she wants money so bad can't she just get a job? I have to explain to her so much how I can't get a fucking job and she thinks I'll end up as a s3x worker because of it, (look who's talking....) I'm litteraly a fucking child she has no excuse for her behavior I fucking hate it, I don't know what to do with her anymore Im hopeless for me and my brother
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2023.03.05 12:33 Inevitable-Chest412 I’m falling for you but maybe you don’t feel the same way.
I overthink all the little things in our interaction. Like how you take more time to reply or how you never say I look lovely anymore. You used to say you missed me but now you don’t even when I say I miss you first.
We have a trip planned but I feel like I’m the only one who’s excited for us to see each other when you’d rather be putting off the trip. I doubt you would even remember to book a plane ticket if I wouldn’t pester you. I’m enthusiastic enough to book my own ticket months ago. It just seems like I’m the only one looking forward to it.
It sucks because I am in a vulnerable position to get hurt by falling for you when you don’t feel the same way. You admitted to not thinking about us or about what our future together holds. Do I fall in love so easily when we’ve been dating for 10 months now? Maybe I should let you go by April if still you don’t seem like you have feelings for me.
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