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2023.03.21 21:23 mavericklovesthe80s Had my 1st intake today
Like it says on the tin, I had my first intake today at a genderclinic. It will be long just so you know. Tw: female body parts, dysphoria, mentioning of genitalia and sex.
I am just going to write down how the conversation went and what questions were asked in case anyone wants to know what to expect. Now this is in the Netherlands so I don't know how other countries work. I had to send a autobiographical intake list beforehand which basically asked me to describe when the dysphoria started, when I realized I am trans, what my family looks like, how my childhood was, etc. It also asked me to put down a timeline of all the things I have noticed from the age of 0 to now regarding gender. This resulted in a 20 page intake form. Could be shorter for other guys, but I've just had an eventfull life lol. So today was the actual intake. They asked why I was there and to describe what my issues were in my own words. I said that I wanted to start my medical transition as I have already socially transitioned. They asked why and I answered that I continue to feel trapped in my feminin body and I want my body to reflect how I feel inside. They asked why now (I am 44). I answered that up until then I did not feel the space or had the safety nor had the opportunity to start. I also for the longest time did not connect the does, that I could be trans. I just felt awkward and disconnected the whole time and thought that it was linked to other stuff in my past. But as those were taken care off and I processed them, did therapy etc, the awkwardness remained. They asked me where I had therapy and what my diagnoses was. Now I don't think that was very relevant, because it was more than 20 years ago, but I answered them. They seemed surprised about the lack of diagnoses ( I was diagnosed with evasive personality trades and borderline trades). I think that in that time that was rather the fashion. Everyone who went to therapy was diagnosed with borderline trades. Only because I said I feel angry all the time and I don't know why (I do now by the way). Obviously women don't get angry, anyways I am digressing. The awkwardness was with me the whole time as I went through live. Occasionally flaring up but I would just push it back down again, because I didn't know what to do with it. Until I lost 30 kg of my weight due to healthcare reasons and due to corona lockdown I could not get my hair cut. I felt hugely uncomfortable in my own body as it became more and more recognizably feminin. They then asked me to describe my dysphoria, which in itself was dysphoria inducing. So be aware of that. I described my hate of my chest, my wide hips, small shoulders, feminin curves, high voice, feminin jawline and hair, lack of facial hair. They asked what I wanted. Which threw me a bit, because I thought I had to defend why I thought I am trans enough some more. So she started writing down what I wanted. And it was very matter of factly, like do you want your brests removed, do you want to have a lower voice, more masculine feature etc.. Eventually she asked what I wanted to do about my genitals. I said what do you mean ( I was a bit shocked by the point blanc question tbh)..So she said do you want a penis. And I was a bit taken a back by her forwardness in this. I said that I was not sure. She asked me why. I replied that I am not sure because if I look at the results online and how other transmen describe it, it's not risk free and a lot can (and does) go wrong and that made me kinda wary of it. She pointed out that there are also positive results online and how I felt about those when I looked at them. I replied that "in a perfect world" if someone would asked me that, I would say "yes off course", but that that's not the case and I still need to be fit enough to be able to take care of my son and support my wife. She asked me what my greatest concern was. First thing that popped in my head was, for example you don't feel anything anymore, ever. So she said like you wouldn't be able to orgasm anymore. I said yes to that (because for me that is a big deal). I am mean why would you want a dick if you can't have fun with it? I kinda felt a bit embarrased by this whole part, because these are like my very personal private thoughts and now they are in the open. They then went on about who new already that I am a transman which, for me, is basically everyone now. She asked about my wife and son and my family. How is my support system. Do I know off any other trans men irl. Which, thank God, I do. She then explained that next time my partner needs to come with me and they will try to get a better picture of what kind of man I am. I need to fill in a lot of psychiatric assesment lists, which will be emailed to me. Then they will ask an inhouse psychiatrist for a 2nd opinion, who will, most, likely will want to see me too. And if they are satisfied with the results, I will be referred to a hospital to start my medical transition. So the story continues in 8 weeks.
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I am just going to write down how the conversation went and what questions were asked in case anyone wants to know what to expect. Now this is in the Netherlands so I don't know how other countries work. I had to send a autobiographical intake list beforehand which basically asked me to describe when the dysphoria started, when I realized I am trans, what my family looks like, how my childhood was, etc. It also asked me to put down a timeline of all the things I have noticed from the age of 0 to now regarding gender. This resulted in a 20 page intake form. Could be shorter for other guys, but I've just had an eventfull life lol. So today was the actual intake. They asked why I was there and to describe what my issues were in my own words. I said that I wanted to start my medical transition as I have already socially transitioned. They asked why and I answered that I continue to feel trapped in my feminin body and I want my body to reflect how I feel inside. They asked why now (I am 44). I answered that up until then I did not feel the space or had the safety nor had the opportunity to start. I also for the longest time did not connect the does, that I could be trans. I just felt awkward and disconnected the whole time and thought that it was linked to other stuff in my past. But as those were taken care off and I processed them, did therapy etc, the awkwardness remained. They asked me where I had therapy and what my diagnoses was. Now I don't think that was very relevant, because it was more than 20 years ago, but I answered them. They seemed surprised about the lack of diagnoses ( I was diagnosed with evasive personality trades and borderline trades). I think that in that time that was rather the fashion. Everyone who went to therapy was diagnosed with borderline trades. Only because I said I feel angry all the time and I don't know why (I do now by the way). Obviously women don't get angry, anyways I am digressing. The awkwardness was with me the whole time as I went through live. Occasionally flaring up but I would just push it back down again, because I didn't know what to do with it. Until I lost 30 kg of my weight due to healthcare reasons and due to corona lockdown I could not get my hair cut. I felt hugely uncomfortable in my own body as it became more and more recognizably feminin. They then asked me to describe my dysphoria, which in itself was dysphoria inducing. So be aware of that. I described my hate of my chest, my wide hips, small shoulders, feminin curves, high voice, feminin jawline and hair, lack of facial hair. They asked what I wanted. Which threw me a bit, because I thought I had to defend why I thought I am trans enough some more. So she started writing down what I wanted. And it was very matter of factly, like do you want your brests removed, do you want to have a lower voice, more masculine feature etc.. Eventually she asked what I wanted to do about my genitals. I said what do you mean ( I was a bit shocked by the point blanc question tbh)..So she said do you want a penis. And I was a bit taken a back by her forwardness in this. I said that I was not sure. She asked me why. I replied that I am not sure because if I look at the results online and how other transmen describe it, it's not risk free and a lot can (and does) go wrong and that made me kinda wary of it. She pointed out that there are also positive results online and how I felt about those when I looked at them. I replied that "in a perfect world" if someone would asked me that, I would say "yes off course", but that that's not the case and I still need to be fit enough to be able to take care of my son and support my wife. She asked me what my greatest concern was. First thing that popped in my head was, for example you don't feel anything anymore, ever. So she said like you wouldn't be able to orgasm anymore. I said yes to that (because for me that is a big deal). I am mean why would you want a dick if you can't have fun with it? I kinda felt a bit embarrased by this whole part, because these are like my very personal private thoughts and now they are in the open. They then went on about who new already that I am a transman which, for me, is basically everyone now. She asked about my wife and son and my family. How is my support system. Do I know off any other trans men irl. Which, thank God, I do. She then explained that next time my partner needs to come with me and they will try to get a better picture of what kind of man I am. I need to fill in a lot of psychiatric assesment lists, which will be emailed to me. Then they will ask an inhouse psychiatrist for a 2nd opinion, who will, most, likely will want to see me too. And if they are satisfied with the results, I will be referred to a hospital to start my medical transition. So the story continues in 8 weeks.
2023.03.21 21:22 junipergardens My opinions on Assassins Creed: Valhalla as a heathen. Just some thoughts.
Many fans of the Assassins Creed franchise disagree with this, but I thought it wasn’t that horrible. Unlike many Assassins Creed games in the past, this isn’t a stealth based game, but as always, the creators of the Assassins Creed franchise always try and stay true to the time period they are in.
Here are things I liked about the game:
the graphics were absolutely outstanding and the amount of visual detail put into this is just… wow.
I loved being able to explore the map, it was huge and overwhelming, but the possibilities of exploration were endless. There is so much to do around the map, I can never stop myself when I get sucked in.
*There were also a variety of weapons an armor sets to at your disposal to collect, and upgrade. My favorite sets of armor include
*None of these characters are One Dimensional, they have many complex personalities and aren’t just one thing. It is the same even for the Gods.
DISLIKES AND CONS IN THE SECTION OF THIS POST WHICH WILL BE A SEPARATE COMMENT
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Here are things I liked about the game:
the graphics were absolutely outstanding and the amount of visual detail put into this is just… wow.
I loved being able to explore the map, it was huge and overwhelming, but the possibilities of exploration were endless. There is so much to do around the map, I can never stop myself when I get sucked in.
*There were also a variety of weapons an armor sets to at your disposal to collect, and upgrade. My favorite sets of armor include
The Huntsman Set: It reminds me a lot of the rituals Beserkers would engage in to invoke the spirit of the bear and the Wolf using skins and furs from those animals for trance work prior to going into battles or raids.The option to choose and customize your Male/Female character Eivor, with body mods and different hair colors. I chose Female Eivor because I heard you could have sapphic relationships in this, and I am a lesbian, so of course…
As a fan of previous Assassins games wear this often, it makes it easier to assassinate enemies undetected, and as a completely upgraded outfit. It’s so beautiful.
*None of these characters are One Dimensional, they have many complex personalities and aren’t just one thing. It is the same even for the Gods.
DISLIKES AND CONS IN THE SECTION OF THIS POST WHICH WILL BE A SEPARATE COMMENT
2023.03.21 21:21 Johanna-Draconis Ep100 - Let me reintroduce myself - The Deconstruction Of C-PTSD - Johanna Draconis
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Transcript: https://www.johannadraconis.com/episode-81-100
In this episode we do things a little bit different. With this being the 100th episode, I thought it would be a good time to redo the introduction, as quite a bit has changed since then.
We will go chronically from my earliest years to the most recent perspective. I will summarize a lot to keep the size manageable and try to avoid being graphic or anything the like. This should help not to overwhelm people.
I have more information in episode 1 and there will be more on the website or in doubt just ask me. That being said - lets get started.
I suffered through every version of trauma at least once, except being penetrated - before I even entered primary school around age 6. This also includes the torture. I also lived in constant fear of dying through the whole time. Non stop. 24/7.
I had a main abuser, no not my parents, but also a wide array of lesser abusers in my family. I was able to identify some now on the narcissism spectrum - which is rather hard given the subject matter.
So one can say I have an extensive knowledge about trauma - to put it mildly. Despite being the perfect little girl they told me to be, so the bad things wouldn’t happen. And did I try to be that good girl. But it was set out to fail from the start.
Which was a trade in for my brain, that I desperately tried to protect and succeeded to do so. But as bad as the beating were, they were on a schedule. The surprise attacks during the day were worse and more dangerous.
While in the evening it was just to let out all the anger - during the day he exploded and had no limits how far things could go. This was when he went the farthest and was the most unhinged. Where he liked to experiment. Where my suffering was the focus.
Around age 12 it started getting more towards psychological torment. Despite that, one of the consequences was that my body started to deteriorate slowly, but steadily. Something I still feel the consequences of to this day… and likely will stronger in the future.
At age 16+ it came to a showdown which ended with the whole ordeal ending… the physical side mostly at least. But my mental state nonetheless kept getting worse - slowly, but inevitably.
Despite my attempts to get help as soon as possible - no one accepted me. I was an old case. Hopeless. The chances of treatment were low and no spots available or none at least for an old case.
I ended shortly in a spot with an unfinished psychology student, but had to give that up, when my state worsened and I had to move back with my mother. There I got no help. Which meant I was doomed to die.
It gotten worse and worse. I was in a state of intense pain, it felt like my body was torn apart, but slowly and without me dying. I slept… when I could… in short patches. Hours of sleep became more and more a rarity.
Even if I slept I had horrific nightmares and kept waking up. I couldn’t eat. When I was able to eat I just stuffed my face to not starve. I couldn’t focus - I could barely do anything at all. This was PTSD in end stage for me. Agony - without any chance of distraction.
But there was literally no other choice besides lying down to die and that was never my way. So - not an option. I had no hope of healing, I just tried to apply my knowledge to reduce my suffering and make my remaining time less painful.
I was actually shocked how easy and successful I was - despite it taking weeks to do so. I had no help, the support of my surrounding could be boiled down to “Are you healed yet?”, despite knowing C-PTSD was incurable. At least to our knowledge back then.
Suffering less and getting more time sounded like a pretty good deal to me, so I tried again. And kept going and going and going… until after years I had bitten enough down and had conquered my first C-PTSD. I was healed, but not cured.
Which meant now I had the choice, do I return back to normal life or continue what I started? And… after that absolute agonizing experience I decided I want to NEVER EVER deal with this nightmare again.
So I went underground to deal with it once and for all. In the end with great success. Better than anything I had dared to dream for.
The club house was empty. And it dawned on me what happened to those I lost track along the way. I knew the state of others. That was the moment I developed survivor’s guilt and got my PTSD symptoms back. Which slowly started to escalate again.
I will stick to my comparison of a burning building. You get out, completely blinded still by the smoke that made seeing inside almost impossible. Only to discover you are the only one who made it out of the building - while you can still hear the screams.
Or sometimes only the body that is left from their attempt. What do you do in such a situation? Going back in isn’t going to do any good. So you try to shout instructions. Which is how the idea of this podcast was born.
The plan was to give the instructions on how I left the building and help so others to leave the building.
During the podcast I realized, that I hadn’t gotten any help not only because I was an autist and it was harder, but also because how horribly bad the situation was for everyone. How lacking resources and information and available treatment was.
Which made me change my podcast to cover more and me starting to offer therapy. But then - once again - tragedy hit at the second half of last year and I was confronted with a horrendous situation that would last for months and cause a cluster trauma.
This lead me to cancel and stall my plans. But the worst was that at the end of the last year - I had to deal with 3 cluster traumas at the same time. That was a lot - even for me. While my success wasn’t in question - that did block and slow down me quite a bit.
Which lead to a noticeable chaos and change in podcast - which I am sorry for, but it was outside of my control. The aftermath of it sadly still causes for stumbling in my everyday now and then. Nothing serious, but enough to cause trouble occasionally.
My trouble with putting that knowledge into words that people understand is sadly the biggest slowdown and something I can’t just change, because the reason is my autism. Which also makes it possible for me to visualize PTSD.
And this helped me to be able to say, that I can cure a base C-PTSD within a few months. It of course depends on how strong the patient is going and if life doesn’t sabotage. Which it realistically does most of the time. That is just how it is.
This is what makes me hopeful - that my experiences will help eradicate or at least constrain this illness as much as possible. And rid humanity of this bane as much as possible.
More information and transcript you can find as usually under johannadraconis.com/Podcast, information regarding therapy you can find under johannadraconis.com/therapy/ and links are in the description.
I hope to see you next time. Watch yourselves and have a wonderful time.
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Intro [0:00]
Hello my dears! My name is Johanna, and I welcome you to the Johanna Draconis - The Deconstruction Of C-PTSD podcast.In this episode we do things a little bit different. With this being the 100th episode, I thought it would be a good time to redo the introduction, as quite a bit has changed since then.
We will go chronically from my earliest years to the most recent perspective. I will summarize a lot to keep the size manageable and try to avoid being graphic or anything the like. This should help not to overwhelm people.
I have more information in episode 1 and there will be more on the website or in doubt just ask me. That being said - lets get started.
Early years [0:47]
We start… with me being a baby. Even that early the abuse started, not that I have any memories of that, but there are family videos with strong indication of what is happening off screen, but not off sound. The body remembers and it causes a unique trauma.I suffered through every version of trauma at least once, except being penetrated - before I even entered primary school around age 6. This also includes the torture. I also lived in constant fear of dying through the whole time. Non stop. 24/7.
I had a main abuser, no not my parents, but also a wide array of lesser abusers in my family. I was able to identify some now on the narcissism spectrum - which is rather hard given the subject matter.
So one can say I have an extensive knowledge about trauma - to put it mildly. Despite being the perfect little girl they told me to be, so the bad things wouldn’t happen. And did I try to be that good girl. But it was set out to fail from the start.
It gets worse [2:12]
And it only gotten worse from there - as in starting around age 6. Besides the daily beating - the other behaviors became more and more escalating. All while the daily beating just got worse and will end up causing nerve damage in my arms.Which was a trade in for my brain, that I desperately tried to protect and succeeded to do so. But as bad as the beating were, they were on a schedule. The surprise attacks during the day were worse and more dangerous.
While in the evening it was just to let out all the anger - during the day he exploded and had no limits how far things could go. This was when he went the farthest and was the most unhinged. Where he liked to experiment. Where my suffering was the focus.
Around age 12 it started getting more towards psychological torment. Despite that, one of the consequences was that my body started to deteriorate slowly, but steadily. Something I still feel the consequences of to this day… and likely will stronger in the future.
At age 16+ it came to a showdown which ended with the whole ordeal ending… the physical side mostly at least. But my mental state nonetheless kept getting worse - slowly, but inevitably.
Breakout and the time after [3:48]
Until it completely broke out during my psychology study. It is truly never a good sign to see your symptoms on the screen during class… I remember just thinking “Fuck me”. I also knew I had to move fast and get help ASAP.Despite my attempts to get help as soon as possible - no one accepted me. I was an old case. Hopeless. The chances of treatment were low and no spots available or none at least for an old case.
I ended shortly in a spot with an unfinished psychology student, but had to give that up, when my state worsened and I had to move back with my mother. There I got no help. Which meant I was doomed to die.
It gotten worse and worse. I was in a state of intense pain, it felt like my body was torn apart, but slowly and without me dying. I slept… when I could… in short patches. Hours of sleep became more and more a rarity.
Even if I slept I had horrific nightmares and kept waking up. I couldn’t eat. When I was able to eat I just stuffed my face to not starve. I couldn’t focus - I could barely do anything at all. This was PTSD in end stage for me. Agony - without any chance of distraction.
The End of the line [5:24]
Which lead inevitably to the end of the line for me. My body told me, that I was a few months at best away from dying. Whatever I was doing needed to change. That was the point, where I decided I couldn’t make things worse - as if I am an optimist.But there was literally no other choice besides lying down to die and that was never my way. So - not an option. I had no hope of healing, I just tried to apply my knowledge to reduce my suffering and make my remaining time less painful.
I was actually shocked how easy and successful I was - despite it taking weeks to do so. I had no help, the support of my surrounding could be boiled down to “Are you healed yet?”, despite knowing C-PTSD was incurable. At least to our knowledge back then.
Suffering less and getting more time sounded like a pretty good deal to me, so I tried again. And kept going and going and going… until after years I had bitten enough down and had conquered my first C-PTSD. I was healed, but not cured.
Which meant now I had the choice, do I return back to normal life or continue what I started? And… after that absolute agonizing experience I decided I want to NEVER EVER deal with this nightmare again.
So I went underground to deal with it once and for all. In the end with great success. Better than anything I had dared to dream for.
Survivors guilt and this podcast [7:17]
Now that I was fully cured I tried to get to the club meeting of C-PTSD cured people, and as I had taken so long with all those wrong paths I had chosen and with no help - I lost track of many of my fellow sufferer on the way. I thought I was dead last.The club house was empty. And it dawned on me what happened to those I lost track along the way. I knew the state of others. That was the moment I developed survivor’s guilt and got my PTSD symptoms back. Which slowly started to escalate again.
I will stick to my comparison of a burning building. You get out, completely blinded still by the smoke that made seeing inside almost impossible. Only to discover you are the only one who made it out of the building - while you can still hear the screams.
Or sometimes only the body that is left from their attempt. What do you do in such a situation? Going back in isn’t going to do any good. So you try to shout instructions. Which is how the idea of this podcast was born.
The plan was to give the instructions on how I left the building and help so others to leave the building.
Changing the theme and therapy [8:48]
While preparing and doing the podcast I began to cure myself from more and more C-PTSD s and PTSD s, that I had to change my position on either you have it or you don’t - and started making a list. I also kept learning about PTSD and everything around it.During the podcast I realized, that I hadn’t gotten any help not only because I was an autist and it was harder, but also because how horribly bad the situation was for everyone. How lacking resources and information and available treatment was.
Which made me change my podcast to cover more and me starting to offer therapy. But then - once again - tragedy hit at the second half of last year and I was confronted with a horrendous situation that would last for months and cause a cluster trauma.
This lead me to cancel and stall my plans. But the worst was that at the end of the last year - I had to deal with 3 cluster traumas at the same time. That was a lot - even for me. While my success wasn’t in question - that did block and slow down me quite a bit.
Which lead to a noticeable chaos and change in podcast - which I am sorry for, but it was outside of my control. The aftermath of it sadly still causes for stumbling in my everyday now and then. Nothing serious, but enough to cause trouble occasionally.
The silver lining [10:46]
I want to end this episode on a silver lining after all this rather dark content. I gained intense and deep knowledge of trauma and how it is structured and works. This knowledge I believe can be used to help so many people who have little hope right now.My trouble with putting that knowledge into words that people understand is sadly the biggest slowdown and something I can’t just change, because the reason is my autism. Which also makes it possible for me to visualize PTSD.
And this helped me to be able to say, that I can cure a base C-PTSD within a few months. It of course depends on how strong the patient is going and if life doesn’t sabotage. Which it realistically does most of the time. That is just how it is.
This is what makes me hopeful - that my experiences will help eradicate or at least constrain this illness as much as possible. And rid humanity of this bane as much as possible.
Outro [11:56]
That was it for todays episode, I hope you found it insightful. Hope you are safe and well. And as always, if you have any questions or feedback and the like, please let me know at [[email protected]](mailto:[email protected]).More information and transcript you can find as usually under johannadraconis.com/Podcast, information regarding therapy you can find under johannadraconis.com/therapy/ and links are in the description.
I hope to see you next time. Watch yourselves and have a wonderful time.
2023.03.21 21:20 RJcametoplay Puppy has bloody mouth and is acting up again. Teething? Hormones? Something else?
We have a 5 month old mastiff mix. He is clearly teething as I got a tooth from him just this morning (just one I’ve got from him. He’s swallowed the rest. I believe this was a molar) and since then, he lost his first canine tooth when he was in his crate. Since he’s losing teeth, I would assume some of his mouth bleeding is from that but it’s bleeding a lot and in areas that don’t appear to have had a tooth just fall out. I didn’t brush his teeth last night because the night before I felt like maybe it hurt him and toothbrush was covered in blood. So I figured it’s okay to skip a day here and there. He’s also been extra naughty the last few days. Really restless. Jumping up on the counters and table right in front of us and ignoring “off” which he definitely knows. He’s jumping up on my partner a lot (male dog. Male partner) and humping him a lot. He’s biting us both pretty hard. Me especially. It is clearly when he’s getting too excited not out of aggression but it hurts. Be cannot be redirected and will not listen to any commands when he gets like this. It’s almost impossible to get away too when he’s like this. I have to run to the bathroom and close the door between us. He sometimes has not calmed down when I come out and I have to keep going in. I try putting him in his crate for a calm down but sometimes that won’t work either. I also don’t like him being in the crate all day and he’s already in there while we’re working (Max 3 hours at a time. I try to keep it less). If it’s just a phase of teething and hormones that we have to wait out, that’s understandable b but I’m worried maybe there is something wrong with him health wise. He has a vet appointment this week but wondering if anyone has thoughts or suggestions. PS we do lots of different things to keep him engaged and exercise his mind and body. Training, “find”, puzzles, new tricks, walks, yard time, new places, new people, puppy dates, swapping out toys often etc. So I can’t imagine he’s that bored. If he is, I am running out of things to do.
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2023.03.21 21:19 Lemongirl11 Is this groomer incompetent or totally right?
For the second time I have taken my 3 year old shih tzu to the groomer and it didn't go very well. We have a 3 year old shih tzu (Arya) and a 2 year old bichon/shih tzu (ollie). Ollie was adopted and has done great with grooming. We got Arya from a breeder as a puppy and she has always had an extreme fear of the vet, being groomed, etc. She has been treated exceptionally well all her life but will even duck her head when we go to pet her. When taking Ollie to his groomer, I spoke to the owner about how I would love to take Arya but she was very fearful so we have always scissor cut her ourselves. She recommended starting to take her in for a bath and nail trim and work up from there. We took her in November but our children (1 and 2 year old) have been plagued by illnesses and We've been overwhelmed this winter. Today I took her back to the groomer with Ollie (he goes every 8 weeks), and the groomer came out and said she had to have a talk with me. She said that Arya was very afraid during the bath and so scared she couldn't even clip half of her nails. She let me know that she saw it had been five months since Arya had been in and if I couldn't commit to taking her every four weeks or less for a bath and nail trim she would refuse her from the salon and we would need to take her to the vet for sedation and grooming. Number one we wouldn't do that because we can scissor cut her ourselves and we don't want unnecessary sedation. I did ask her if Arya was aggressive and she said there was no aggression just shaking and being scared but no nips or aggression. She said that it was our fault for not bringing her before 3 years old and she was willing to try to change her bad disposition at the groomer if we were willing to commit to her the groomer but if not she was too bad. Supposedly this girl is the best they have with anxious dogs but she seemed very rude and short.
I feel like her attitude was offensive. She didn't act like that at all the first time and said she did well with Arya back in November (but the owner was standing beside her at the time). I tried over 40 groomers in our area before finding them. No one else was accepting new dogs after the pandemic. This is a brand new boutique so they had openings when we started taking ollie. Our PetSmart does not have a good reputation.
Are there any groomers who have experience with nervous scared small dogs. Is there any advice? Is this what you would say to me as well? New to the grooming experience but I felt as if it was such an attitude and fait accompli to take her every four weeks. I had already talked to the owner about bringing her on the 8 week schedule same time as our other dog. We really don't have the money for $100 bath and nail trim every four weeks, but I don't want to give up on our dog getting groomed professionally. Any advice?
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I feel like her attitude was offensive. She didn't act like that at all the first time and said she did well with Arya back in November (but the owner was standing beside her at the time). I tried over 40 groomers in our area before finding them. No one else was accepting new dogs after the pandemic. This is a brand new boutique so they had openings when we started taking ollie. Our PetSmart does not have a good reputation.
Are there any groomers who have experience with nervous scared small dogs. Is there any advice? Is this what you would say to me as well? New to the grooming experience but I felt as if it was such an attitude and fait accompli to take her every four weeks. I had already talked to the owner about bringing her on the 8 week schedule same time as our other dog. We really don't have the money for $100 bath and nail trim every four weeks, but I don't want to give up on our dog getting groomed professionally. Any advice?
2023.03.21 21:19 Meadow_of_Roses I'm drawing OCS again with my improved art style! (Check flair and read the images please)
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2023.03.21 21:18 BronxLens What strategy to use to spread the word about one’s work?
Other than ‘have your own website’ and ‘crosspost to your social media’, what else is a must for artists not new in creating content/body of work, but in promoting / letting the world know about it, in order to generate traffic to their store? If it helps, i do street photography and am in the US.
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2023.03.21 21:17 jsgunn The Mother of Heroes Part 11
I remained the RA of my dorm for the rest of my undergrad career. Then, after I graduated, there were some problems lining up a job. Apparently Stewart Newman's father was a biochemist, and little Stewart was destined to fend off extradimensional invaders (and yes, I know there is one reader who is now furiously typing up a letter explaining that the Chchshiuuni are NOT from another dimension, but I've read the Wikipedia article three times and I don't understand the distinction. You're reading my memoir, not my scientific explanation of extranormal invaders). His father, Victor Newman, was killed when the laboratory he worked at was hit by a meteorite, which, according to the investigative report, passed through 6 cylinders of various compressed gasses, ricocheted off a 7th, broke through a water line, shattered 9 containers of various other chemicals, then cracked the isolation unit on some kind of algae they were breeding for research on biofuels. This happened at 4:41 AM. Apparently this created something of a perfect storm as the chemicals reacted with the water and a very specific molecule produced by the algae acted as a catalyst which worked together to form pentanitroethyltoluenic acid, which is, according to the laws of chemistry, a chemical which desperately does not want to exist. For those not versed in chemistry, this stuff makes TNT look like HBO. That was supposed to say "H2O" but the I actually like it better this way. Anyway, the molecule was being synthesized in the laboratory for over four hours, until Victor arrived at a little before 9:00. His foot crossed the threshold and the laboratory detonated.
Prior to this event the company that ran the lab had just spent a bundle on a new security system with off site recording. This was the only evidence that could be used to put together the events, as according to the official report it "was as if God pressed the delete key".
So now that that story is floating around on Google there weren't a lot of labs that wanted to hire me. So I said fuck it. My ride is being paid for, let's go for a master's degree. Not like I had anything better to do. So I stayed in my dorm, working on my masters, and continued to be the RA.
A lot of the other RAs had horror stories about their dorms. About the nightmares they put up with. For me, for the most part, it was a breeze. If you want to become an RA and have an easy time with it, I have a few simple steps to insure you have it good.
Step 1: inherit the position from someone who's widely respected (thank you Helga)
Step 2: that person who is highly respected should make it known that you're carrying on their torch. (Thank you Helga)
Step 3: have really great women in your dorm. (Thank you Mr Pols)
Step 4: do your very best to fill the size 19 clogs that have been left for you to fill (wait, are clogs German? Oh who cares, I just said the Chchshiuuni were from another dimension)
That's not to say it was easy. I just didn't get the horror stories that others got. I never had to deal with Shane the Showerless or the Roach Incident. What I did have, however, were a lot of young women to look out for. And a lot of young women who came to me with their problems.
By the 2nd week I'd learned everyone's names, knew their majors, had a general idea about their schedules, home lives, and study habits. I knew who was a hard worker, who could keep a secret, who could hotwire a car, who could safely and reliably distill liquor and extract THC (It was me for those last 2 things. Hooray for biochemistry!) Not that I admit to having done any of those things, at least until the statute of limitations has passed. I also knew who needed help in their classes, who was too naive to go to a party alone, and who I could send them with to be sure they had a good time and made it home safe and sound.
In my third week as RA I called Helga because I missed her (I LOVE YOU HELGA) and we talked for like four hours and I gave her the rundown on everyone there and my assessments of such. Helga is many things, but a braggart is not one of them. It came as a surprise when Helga gloated for a full ten minutes about how she was right in her assessment of me. And yes, I guess it was pretty clever of me to "throw together five Amy's and a Rachel for frat party safety patrol." Rachel and Amy 3 were eye candy to serve as a diversion, Amy 2 and Amy 5 were recon to search for overly intoxicated girls, and Amy 1 and Amy 4 could either extract said girls like a SEAL team or steal booze like a… uh… SEAL team, as the situation dictated. By the end of the year they all had radios they used to stay in communication. I don't know where they got them, but they said they didn't buy them and were really evasive when asked about their origins.
Having taken over for Helga, I also grew something of a reputation. I kept her open door policy, any time, any problem, come talk to Shannon. You didn't need to be in my dorm. You didn't even need to be a woman. Hell, you didn't even need to be a student at our school. If you had a problem, I was available.
No one has problems at 2:00 on a sleepy afternoon when you've got a lot of energy and not enough to do. So this policy did make things a fair bit harder for me. Don't get me wrong, I've never regretted my policy, but problems did happen at almost comically inconvenient times.
For example, when I was having a really, really bad period and throwing up every six seconds, Amy (which Amy? I'll never tell. Just kidding, it was Amy 4) came to me because she'd just found out her childhood dog had died. What did I do? Chug half a bottle of pepto and force down half a pint of butter pecan. I kept it down, too, until she was back in her room asleep.
Little innocent Hannah got invited to a party the day of her last midterm, and really wanted to go. I had 4 mid terms left, and AMY team 6 was out or commission studying along with all my other go tos. So I went with her.
I don't think I'll ever forget that night. Hannah, sweet little innocent Hannah. Gorgeous, doe eyed Hannah. Naive, sheltered, quiet Hannah. Hannah is stunningly beautiful, and anyone who has met Hannah will know she has a very sharp wit and a way with words. What I didn't know is that she had a tongue sharp enough to kill a man at five paces. Hannah got rip roaring drunk (she did five shots in the 30 seconds it took me to pee) and then proceeded to massacre the entire fraternity.
Gary Fogelbaum was a senior, and a total dude bro. He was alright in a crisis and I do appreciate what he did when Pepper broke her leg, but at this point his respect for women left a bit to be desired. He could talk shit with the best of them, and he could take it better than he could dish it out. Five words. Five fucking words, and she left Gary Fogelbaum crying. He earned it. To be clear, she hadn't met Gary before. He sauntered up to her and hit on her, right in front of me. After her second no, he grabbed her hand and put it on his stomach and said "how can you say no to those abs."
Before I could knock his teeth out, Hannah, kind, caring, compassionate, saintly, Hannah disemboweled him. Right there in front of everybody. "Abs won't make daddy proud."
After that it was like something out of a Tarantino movie as I tried to steer her towards the door. Guys got in her way to try to avenge Gary and were verbally slaughtered without mercy. Heads were rolling, viscera was flying, blood was gushing. Nearly to the front door, someone grabbed her wrist.
Hannah spun with a gaze that could vaporize lead and her eyes landed on a short, skinny guy with glasses, who said "you almost forgot your purse" before handing it to her. She snatched her purse, shoved him against a wall and kissed him so hard I think his soul briefly left his body. And then we left. He's engaged to Hannah now, and I've got to say I'm a little jealous.
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Prior to this event the company that ran the lab had just spent a bundle on a new security system with off site recording. This was the only evidence that could be used to put together the events, as according to the official report it "was as if God pressed the delete key".
So now that that story is floating around on Google there weren't a lot of labs that wanted to hire me. So I said fuck it. My ride is being paid for, let's go for a master's degree. Not like I had anything better to do. So I stayed in my dorm, working on my masters, and continued to be the RA.
A lot of the other RAs had horror stories about their dorms. About the nightmares they put up with. For me, for the most part, it was a breeze. If you want to become an RA and have an easy time with it, I have a few simple steps to insure you have it good.
Step 1: inherit the position from someone who's widely respected (thank you Helga)
Step 2: that person who is highly respected should make it known that you're carrying on their torch. (Thank you Helga)
Step 3: have really great women in your dorm. (Thank you Mr Pols)
Step 4: do your very best to fill the size 19 clogs that have been left for you to fill (wait, are clogs German? Oh who cares, I just said the Chchshiuuni were from another dimension)
That's not to say it was easy. I just didn't get the horror stories that others got. I never had to deal with Shane the Showerless or the Roach Incident. What I did have, however, were a lot of young women to look out for. And a lot of young women who came to me with their problems.
By the 2nd week I'd learned everyone's names, knew their majors, had a general idea about their schedules, home lives, and study habits. I knew who was a hard worker, who could keep a secret, who could hotwire a car, who could safely and reliably distill liquor and extract THC (It was me for those last 2 things. Hooray for biochemistry!) Not that I admit to having done any of those things, at least until the statute of limitations has passed. I also knew who needed help in their classes, who was too naive to go to a party alone, and who I could send them with to be sure they had a good time and made it home safe and sound.
In my third week as RA I called Helga because I missed her (I LOVE YOU HELGA) and we talked for like four hours and I gave her the rundown on everyone there and my assessments of such. Helga is many things, but a braggart is not one of them. It came as a surprise when Helga gloated for a full ten minutes about how she was right in her assessment of me. And yes, I guess it was pretty clever of me to "throw together five Amy's and a Rachel for frat party safety patrol." Rachel and Amy 3 were eye candy to serve as a diversion, Amy 2 and Amy 5 were recon to search for overly intoxicated girls, and Amy 1 and Amy 4 could either extract said girls like a SEAL team or steal booze like a… uh… SEAL team, as the situation dictated. By the end of the year they all had radios they used to stay in communication. I don't know where they got them, but they said they didn't buy them and were really evasive when asked about their origins.
Having taken over for Helga, I also grew something of a reputation. I kept her open door policy, any time, any problem, come talk to Shannon. You didn't need to be in my dorm. You didn't even need to be a woman. Hell, you didn't even need to be a student at our school. If you had a problem, I was available.
No one has problems at 2:00 on a sleepy afternoon when you've got a lot of energy and not enough to do. So this policy did make things a fair bit harder for me. Don't get me wrong, I've never regretted my policy, but problems did happen at almost comically inconvenient times.
For example, when I was having a really, really bad period and throwing up every six seconds, Amy (which Amy? I'll never tell. Just kidding, it was Amy 4) came to me because she'd just found out her childhood dog had died. What did I do? Chug half a bottle of pepto and force down half a pint of butter pecan. I kept it down, too, until she was back in her room asleep.
Little innocent Hannah got invited to a party the day of her last midterm, and really wanted to go. I had 4 mid terms left, and AMY team 6 was out or commission studying along with all my other go tos. So I went with her.
I don't think I'll ever forget that night. Hannah, sweet little innocent Hannah. Gorgeous, doe eyed Hannah. Naive, sheltered, quiet Hannah. Hannah is stunningly beautiful, and anyone who has met Hannah will know she has a very sharp wit and a way with words. What I didn't know is that she had a tongue sharp enough to kill a man at five paces. Hannah got rip roaring drunk (she did five shots in the 30 seconds it took me to pee) and then proceeded to massacre the entire fraternity.
Gary Fogelbaum was a senior, and a total dude bro. He was alright in a crisis and I do appreciate what he did when Pepper broke her leg, but at this point his respect for women left a bit to be desired. He could talk shit with the best of them, and he could take it better than he could dish it out. Five words. Five fucking words, and she left Gary Fogelbaum crying. He earned it. To be clear, she hadn't met Gary before. He sauntered up to her and hit on her, right in front of me. After her second no, he grabbed her hand and put it on his stomach and said "how can you say no to those abs."
Before I could knock his teeth out, Hannah, kind, caring, compassionate, saintly, Hannah disemboweled him. Right there in front of everybody. "Abs won't make daddy proud."
After that it was like something out of a Tarantino movie as I tried to steer her towards the door. Guys got in her way to try to avenge Gary and were verbally slaughtered without mercy. Heads were rolling, viscera was flying, blood was gushing. Nearly to the front door, someone grabbed her wrist.
Hannah spun with a gaze that could vaporize lead and her eyes landed on a short, skinny guy with glasses, who said "you almost forgot your purse" before handing it to her. She snatched her purse, shoved him against a wall and kissed him so hard I think his soul briefly left his body. And then we left. He's engaged to Hannah now, and I've got to say I'm a little jealous.
2023.03.21 21:16 Ok-Recording2620 Boots caused ruptured tendon- 4 stars, still worth it
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2023.03.21 21:15 DaniJaaay Need Donations for our unhoused neighbors!
Hey, Everyone! I’m a Case Manager and Employment Specialist for an organization called Downtown Streets Team and I work with women experiencing homelessness at a shelter in South Sacramento. I’m going to be doing a raffle on April 4th as part of a monthlong Employment Initiative that we have happening. It’s going super well, and the ladies are loving it, but we are in desperate need of Raffle Prizes. If you or someone you know is able to donate a prize we would be most grateful and would love to have you attend the final drawing! Ideas include (but are definitely not limited to):
Fuzzy/cozy blankets (this is a great one!), Gift Certificates (Nails, clothes, spa day, what have you), Bath and Body care packages, Makeup kits (all skin tones needed!), Journaling kits, Movie tickets, Adult coloring book kits, A new bike (no pressure on this, it’s a big ticket item!), Haircut (if you are in the profession! All textures), Easter Baskets, Earbuds
You name it, get creative!
I can absolutely come grab it from you, I live in Midtown but will travel around. Let me know if you’re interested, feel free to DM me as well 💕
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Fuzzy/cozy blankets (this is a great one!), Gift Certificates (Nails, clothes, spa day, what have you), Bath and Body care packages, Makeup kits (all skin tones needed!), Journaling kits, Movie tickets, Adult coloring book kits, A new bike (no pressure on this, it’s a big ticket item!), Haircut (if you are in the profession! All textures), Easter Baskets, Earbuds
You name it, get creative!
I can absolutely come grab it from you, I live in Midtown but will travel around. Let me know if you’re interested, feel free to DM me as well 💕
2023.03.21 21:14 purposefulOtter05 How do I deal with a doctor that doesn't believe me?
Hi all. I'm having issues with my doctor, (and another doctor at the same clinic that I sometimes see when I can't see my regular GP), who doesn't believe me/says they can't do anything more. Since about DecembeJanuary I've been having some symptoms that have been steadily getting worse. The biggest one has been the fatigue. It started out slow-I would maybe have a day where I was just so exhausted I could barely make it through the day. But I was working out 5x/week, plus my sport, and overhauling my diet, so I just put it up to that. Then I started getting nauseated and not feeling like eating. That lead to headaches, and general muscle weakness. I started noticing tremors in my hands. Then I started seeing petechiae all over my body-not a lot, but definitely new, obvious spots. Then two weeks ago I woke up with a very itchy rash all over my body, especially on my shins. I noticed that underneath the rash there were more petechiae. Now I'm just bone-numbingly exhausted. My lymph nodes in my neck and armpits are swollen, and I'm finding my extremities are constantly cold and go numb really easily, (toes and fingers). I tried to bring this up to my doctor, and a walk-in doctor, but I was told there was nothing more they could do until the specialists call me. One specialist said, after I called to confirm they got the referral, that it would take at least 6-8 months before they could see me. I cannot go on like this for another 6 weeks, let alone 6 months. What do I do? My mother has been telling me I shouldn't go see my doctor anymore because they'll think I'm attention seeking, and now I'm worried I'll be labeled a hypochondriac. Has anybody else had issues being taken seriously about their symptoms?
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2023.03.21 21:14 ArtJones6 Recovery from injury
Dr Peterson,
I am a healthy, active gentleman in my early 40s who recently injured himself while working out. I received treatment through surgery and I'm facing about a six month rehab before becoming fully functional again. What is the best way to keep my mind and body healthy during this rather drastic change in lifestyle?
Art
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I am a healthy, active gentleman in my early 40s who recently injured himself while working out. I received treatment through surgery and I'm facing about a six month rehab before becoming fully functional again. What is the best way to keep my mind and body healthy during this rather drastic change in lifestyle?
Art
2023.03.21 21:14 fandom1111 All About Subliminals
Subliminals are a manifestation method that comes in audio format. It targets the subconscious mind and the subconscious mind basically contains your beliefs that controls your reality. A Subliminal has affirmations hidden within that audio where you can't hear it consciously but your subconscious hears it and it changes your subconscious beliefs which changes your reality. It's not a type of thing where you get full results from it in 1 listen. It takes repetition to get full results from it. Some get full results within a year, 6 months, etc. It's different for everyone. Subliminals challenges the old subconscious beliefs and they compete which can also start negative emotions during the process of subliminals like feeling not good enough, depressed, etc. You have to keep listening and ignore those negative feelings and emotions. And once you keep doing that, your new beliefs will overpower the old one and then you'll start to see more and more results overtime. Everything is energy. Including you that is also how supernatural subs work. Energy can only be transferred and not destroyed. Your whole body is a whole nuclear explosion of energy itself. Everything is energy including you. Energy can't be destroyed. Only transfered which makes your Physiology transform into a species based on the subliminal or get powers. Flawless proof of this is a corpse can turn into soil. You don't need any method for faster results. Methods were introduced because some people are not dedicated and so this new beliefs of methods came about and thought of and is not needed. When you stop listening to a sub and listen to a new one, because it’s different affs, your your subconscious is listening to a new one. So it’s receiving the new sub affs and forgetting the old one at the same time. You'll get your desired stuff. Also, if you don't know exactly what you want in a sub, your subconscious already in knows so it'll manifest your desired stuff even if you don't know what your desired stuff is consciously. If you listen to desired face subs for example, you don't have to keep looking at your desired face picture because everything that we ever seen, heard, Touch, felt, and tasted are stored in the subconscious mind so you don't have to keep trying to remember consciously. And that's with any sub. A new method by me to get faster results, not the youtube methods. Let go of your current reality which means to forget about it and allow the new reality / subliminal affirmations to come into you and allow it to change your reality without letting the current reality impact you. You can also use that with any law of attraction which is to let go and bring in. It is Law of attraction but not detaching from the subs but detaching from the frequency of the past reality into the new one. When people are telling you to detach from subs, that's backwards. You detach from the past reality and align yourself with the new reality that you're creating. So basically you're also changing your frequency as well that changes your reality. Your reality doesn't have to change your frequency unless you allow it to. That's also the reason why subliminals work better while you sleep because while you are sleeping, your mind is doing exactly that. You are more suggestible to programming and that is called theta. You can also do that while you're awake and I just explained to you how. For how long subliminals takes, It depends on how much your subconscious believes the sub and how much it has been brainwashed into thinking that it's not. The more mental strength you have to keep going with subs, the better you'll be able to handle your journey. Also, for people listening to subs, I had a phase once where I had like 2 or more playlists and wanted multiple lives and didn't know which one I truly wanted so I did meditation on it and figured out my life path subliminals that I wanted truly for my soul. Subs are a lifestyle choice and not just something to try out. The meditation method to figure it out may not work for everyone but it worked for me. I just put my phone down, took off my headphones and meditated on what I truly wanted in life.
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2023.03.21 21:14 Agitated-Cut2234 New diagnosed
Hi new here I just got diagnosed with diverticul(osis) after the colonoscopy my stomache went haywire. I just switched to an alkaline based water with electrolytes and also taking activia probiotic dailies almost over night my stomache is emptying everything. Did anyone have issues with their liver ? I'm still concerned my body can't process medications I was getting night sweats and since I stopped the medication no night sweats it's been crazy but at least I'm seeing what works and doesn't I do still have pain but less - anyone relate ?
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2023.03.21 21:14 Certain-Activity-910 Hey everyone, new to here but would love some advice.
I'm just going to start this prefaced with I have literally no idea what I'm doing and where the next 12 months of my life will lead me.
Around 4 and a half years ago I reunited with an ex girlfriend who happened to have fallen pregnant (we split up around a year and a half prior and both had a string of relationships / and a couple of 1 night stands).
We really didn't know what to do at that point as she was pregnant, it wasn't mine but we were getting on really well again. Literally were sat in the bath in a travelodge debating our future.
We decided we'd try and make a go of it but would be clear that I wasn't daddy.
The pregnancy was rough and the lack of physical contact as she didn't like being pregnant at all.
Soon as he was here, everything changed, our closeness from the early pregnancy /our previous relationship had returned and I took to my big lad straight away. That's it, he was my son and no one would ever take that away.
It didn't take long for us to become pregnant with our second. We were scared to have 2 in such a small space of time but excited.
Then the lack of physicality came back and I'll be honest, I was an utter cunt. I began messaging other women from my past, sexual messages and nudes were exchanged both ways. While she was pregnant with my son.
We got past that or so I thought but the damage was done and our close bond was virtually ruined. So I returned to my shitty ways.
Especially as at the time I did night shifts with not a lot to do on shift. 12 hour shift with rarely more than 5 hours work. She worked 3 of the 4 nights I would have off so we had no time, virtually being single parents.
One night when I was working on a traction motor on a train and I dropped a 90kg prop shaft on to my finger. My accident was judged to be my fault and I lost that job.
I then I had to find a new job, where my wage was a third of what I was earning. And we had to figure out a new rotation for caring for our children.
This led to severe financial worries to add to the ruined trust. We lost use of our second car so she became trapped in the house but her stress with that meant that I could never do over time to top up my crappy wages.
Now things have come to a head, we've split, but we live in the same house, somewhere between best friends and mortal enemies.
We need to figure out a plan so not to disturb the children too badly, get her into a new home and figure out how we'll split our responsibilities to the lads.
All this while both battling severe depression. I have no idea what this next year will hold, but I'm not holding my breath for it to be good.
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Around 4 and a half years ago I reunited with an ex girlfriend who happened to have fallen pregnant (we split up around a year and a half prior and both had a string of relationships / and a couple of 1 night stands).
We really didn't know what to do at that point as she was pregnant, it wasn't mine but we were getting on really well again. Literally were sat in the bath in a travelodge debating our future.
We decided we'd try and make a go of it but would be clear that I wasn't daddy.
The pregnancy was rough and the lack of physical contact as she didn't like being pregnant at all.
Soon as he was here, everything changed, our closeness from the early pregnancy /our previous relationship had returned and I took to my big lad straight away. That's it, he was my son and no one would ever take that away.
It didn't take long for us to become pregnant with our second. We were scared to have 2 in such a small space of time but excited.
Then the lack of physicality came back and I'll be honest, I was an utter cunt. I began messaging other women from my past, sexual messages and nudes were exchanged both ways. While she was pregnant with my son.
We got past that or so I thought but the damage was done and our close bond was virtually ruined. So I returned to my shitty ways.
Especially as at the time I did night shifts with not a lot to do on shift. 12 hour shift with rarely more than 5 hours work. She worked 3 of the 4 nights I would have off so we had no time, virtually being single parents.
One night when I was working on a traction motor on a train and I dropped a 90kg prop shaft on to my finger. My accident was judged to be my fault and I lost that job.
I then I had to find a new job, where my wage was a third of what I was earning. And we had to figure out a new rotation for caring for our children.
This led to severe financial worries to add to the ruined trust. We lost use of our second car so she became trapped in the house but her stress with that meant that I could never do over time to top up my crappy wages.
Now things have come to a head, we've split, but we live in the same house, somewhere between best friends and mortal enemies.
We need to figure out a plan so not to disturb the children too badly, get her into a new home and figure out how we'll split our responsibilities to the lads.
All this while both battling severe depression. I have no idea what this next year will hold, but I'm not holding my breath for it to be good.
2023.03.21 21:13 Mosely5567 Books/Articles on CPTSD 101 in Arabic
I know this is a shot in the dark but if there's anywhere I'll find it it's probably here. I'm trying to explain to my Arab parents what CPTSD is and begin to work on them respecting my boundaries and triggers and such. They absolutely refuse to take anything I say at face value (part of what caused all this) but consistently when I've put them in front of a doctor or a scientific source they'll budge. Issue is while I speak fluent arabic, I speak it at the level of an average 15 year old (im a 21 year old psychology major) This makes trying to explain these concepts pretty much impossible because the level at which I understand them mentally is so much more complicated than my ability to speak Arabic. If anyone is aware of any resources which are in Arabic it would be a huge huge help. Links to books (I've been scouring the web for an arabic version of The body keeps the score) which have been translated to arabic from english would be deeply helpful as well.
Thank you so much for any time you may end up putting into this, even if its just a friendly message of encouragement. I wish you nothing but ease and happiness in your life from here on out. God knows we deserve it.
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Thank you so much for any time you may end up putting into this, even if its just a friendly message of encouragement. I wish you nothing but ease and happiness in your life from here on out. God knows we deserve it.
2023.03.21 21:12 SadLilBean2223 Zoloft for the first time? Need help! (Health anxiety, suicidal thoughts, etc)
Hey,
I have been struggling with anxiety and deep sadness for as long as I can remember. I’m now 23.
I have already seen a lot of psychologists but it has never worked for me. I think I was around 13 when a doctor offered me for the very first time some antidepressants. I have always refused until now thinking that there is a way for me to figure my problems out by myself, I just haven’t found it yet.
Today, I’m still suffering daily and I’m fed up. Even if I have had ups and downs, I have the feeling that my life has been mostly so hard and sad. I just would like some ease. I feel so exhausted of all of that. I have the feeling that more the time flies, more the downs are longer and deeper. At the opposite, my energy to get up again becomes lower. I have the feeling that I don’t know anymore what to try and people who were beside me during those tough years either…
Last morning a doctor in a walk-in clinic prescribed me 50mg sertraline (zoloft) and I feel so bad, I don’t know what to do. Should I take this med or not? In one hand I have the feeling that it’s the last thing that could help me and on the other one just the thought of taking it makes me so anxious and asking myself so many questions. Actually, that why I’m here, maybe some of you can help me.
PS: sorry for the mistakes in my text, english is not my first language.
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I have been struggling with anxiety and deep sadness for as long as I can remember. I’m now 23.
I have already seen a lot of psychologists but it has never worked for me. I think I was around 13 when a doctor offered me for the very first time some antidepressants. I have always refused until now thinking that there is a way for me to figure my problems out by myself, I just haven’t found it yet.
Today, I’m still suffering daily and I’m fed up. Even if I have had ups and downs, I have the feeling that my life has been mostly so hard and sad. I just would like some ease. I feel so exhausted of all of that. I have the feeling that more the time flies, more the downs are longer and deeper. At the opposite, my energy to get up again becomes lower. I have the feeling that I don’t know anymore what to try and people who were beside me during those tough years either…
Last morning a doctor in a walk-in clinic prescribed me 50mg sertraline (zoloft) and I feel so bad, I don’t know what to do. Should I take this med or not? In one hand I have the feeling that it’s the last thing that could help me and on the other one just the thought of taking it makes me so anxious and asking myself so many questions. Actually, that why I’m here, maybe some of you can help me.
- I have a bad health anxiety (hypochondria) and just thinking about all the potentials side effects makes me panic. If I experience one or many of these side effects and I panic, how will I be able to know if it’s a true side effect which requires medical attention or if it’s just a panic attack because of my anxiety? Do you get me?
- I’m wondering, am I depressed / anxious enough to take those meds? I’m a “legit”? Shouldn’t I try again and again, for longer other options first (talk therapy, exercice, meditation, supplements or just be strong enough to “be happy by myself”). How can I know if I reached or not this point where I can tell myself it’s ok to try? I want it to be really a last option, not to give up too early…
- I’m afraid to “loose myself”, my personality, everything. What if I become crazy, no more able to earn my life, to take care of my loved ones? Is that possible with that kind of medication? Maybe it’s just an assumption but I have the feeling that “playing with the brain” is dangerous, isn’t it? Will I still be « me »?
- If I don’t tolerate it (even after weeks or months) and get prescribed a new med, will it be hard to change (withdrawal symptoms)? If none of the meds available on the market work for me and I have to stop, will I be able to? I’m so afraid to be even more depressed after this experience if it doesn’t work because it was my “last option”. Has someone experienced that?
- Even if it works for me, does it mean that I’ll have to take them for years or even all my life? Is it possible to stop when you feel better and keep being good without them? Or will I feel bad again as soon as I will stop? It’s so scarring… and is it safe on the long term? Does it affect any area of your brain or body? Memory, reproduction, etc?
- I have read that while you take sertraline you have to avoid certain things such as alcohol, St John’s Wort, grapefruit, etc and I have the feeling that my list of « forbidden » things is far from being complete. What if I do something wrong and die because I wasn’t aware? Can someone add things to the list please?
- I have also read that when you start taking antidepressants, your depression might get worse, you can have suicidal thought / suicidal ideation especially for young adult who have or have already had suicidal thoughts. Actually, it describes me pretty well (no more suicidal thoughts now but I have had in the past) so I’m even more scared. What if I absolutely want to suicide and that I can’t control myself? What if I kill myself because I took a med which is supposed to help? Are those thoughts bearable?
- With this med, can you keep working, doing your groceries, etc (things that I have lost interest in but that I manage to keep doing even depressed)? Can people notice that you are taking meds (co-workers, etc)? Do you usually let know people around you that you are taking antidepressants?
- When you start taking antidepressants, do you need to have a particular mindset? Is it similar to recreational drugs I mean better your « set and settings » are, bigger will be the chance to experience positive effects instead of the opposite? Or is it better not to expect anything to avoid being disappointed if it doesn’t work? What is your opinion?
PS: sorry for the mistakes in my text, english is not my first language.
2023.03.21 21:12 mindvarious2 I just need to rant about being xx for a moment
So, CW, insanely triggering post ahead. Will mention all aspects of female body and list off why I hate them. I need to put this somewhere and co-misserate and just vent.
I hate my fucking body. Even on T, I fucking hate it. I hate the memes of the thighs "doing the thing" and how my thighs spread out like a fat pancake when I sit down and I just look so... weird and unnatural. Even after years on T, even after my beard growth and my muscle-building regime. This shit happens to me and it clocks me and I fucking hate it.
I hate it. I hate the fact that I still menstruate and it controls everything about my digestion. I don't start getting regular until PMS, and then I basically have IBS symptoms for 2 weeks and I fucking despise it. I hate it. I hate how that organ in my body controls me. Like I'm in an abusive relationship with someone who hacks down my house every month when I don't want to have a baby, then builds it back up in hopes I will actually have one.
I went over to my gay cis bf and felt where his foot left the floor. It was a warm spot. It blew my fucking mind that cis guys have this ability to warm up where they sit, and not need heaters at their feet lest they turn to total ice. My feet are always cold. I just want to have a functioning human adult body. I hate how inadequate my hormones are. I am happy I'm getting more T. I am hoping I can have a body that doesn't fucking "cycle" and fuck me up with back pain... and make me fill up with fluid and pain and make me irregular, and make me want to shove cake into my face, and make my appendages so fucking cold I can't sleep at night. I want a body that fucking FUNCTIONS, not one that works against me because I'm not having children. I'm so fucking sick of it. I'm sick of it. End of rant.
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I hate my fucking body. Even on T, I fucking hate it. I hate the memes of the thighs "doing the thing" and how my thighs spread out like a fat pancake when I sit down and I just look so... weird and unnatural. Even after years on T, even after my beard growth and my muscle-building regime. This shit happens to me and it clocks me and I fucking hate it.
I hate it. I hate the fact that I still menstruate and it controls everything about my digestion. I don't start getting regular until PMS, and then I basically have IBS symptoms for 2 weeks and I fucking despise it. I hate it. I hate how that organ in my body controls me. Like I'm in an abusive relationship with someone who hacks down my house every month when I don't want to have a baby, then builds it back up in hopes I will actually have one.
I went over to my gay cis bf and felt where his foot left the floor. It was a warm spot. It blew my fucking mind that cis guys have this ability to warm up where they sit, and not need heaters at their feet lest they turn to total ice. My feet are always cold. I just want to have a functioning human adult body. I hate how inadequate my hormones are. I am happy I'm getting more T. I am hoping I can have a body that doesn't fucking "cycle" and fuck me up with back pain... and make me fill up with fluid and pain and make me irregular, and make me want to shove cake into my face, and make my appendages so fucking cold I can't sleep at night. I want a body that fucking FUNCTIONS, not one that works against me because I'm not having children. I'm so fucking sick of it. I'm sick of it. End of rant.
2023.03.21 21:09 nigaesekijjambbong Did I get this job offer way too quickly?
I was laid off last Thursday morning. I shot my resume to about 50+ firms that afternoon and had interviews with 9 of them from Friday through today. One firm was really eager to hire me. I had an audio call with their senior associate on Friday morning (20 min) and a Zoom interview with the senior associate + founding partner (he joined in audio only) this morning (15 min). I received an offer letter two hours after that.
The salary was appropriate - neither too good nor too bad given my credentials. Also, it is a growing boutique firm in need of additional associates, so I assume they have less bureaucracy and need additional bodies quickly. (They went from n(<10) in 2021 to 5n in 2023). In fact, I had applied to them before working for my latest employer.
But an offer two hours after the second interview? When the two interviews combined took less than 40 minutes and the partner does not even know what I look like? Not sure if I should be fully happy about this. They said the senior associate who interviewed me really liked me, but anyone can say that. Besides, how could he? We did not talk about anything personal, including his favorite football teams.
To give more context, I am rising to my third year with 1 year of WC Defense and 1 year of ID experience. The offer-extending firm is an ID firm.
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The salary was appropriate - neither too good nor too bad given my credentials. Also, it is a growing boutique firm in need of additional associates, so I assume they have less bureaucracy and need additional bodies quickly. (They went from n(<10) in 2021 to 5n in 2023). In fact, I had applied to them before working for my latest employer.
But an offer two hours after the second interview? When the two interviews combined took less than 40 minutes and the partner does not even know what I look like? Not sure if I should be fully happy about this. They said the senior associate who interviewed me really liked me, but anyone can say that. Besides, how could he? We did not talk about anything personal, including his favorite football teams.
To give more context, I am rising to my third year with 1 year of WC Defense and 1 year of ID experience. The offer-extending firm is an ID firm.
2023.03.21 21:08 Bebylicious Why is Vitamin K2 taken with Vitamin D?
TLDR: why is vit D paired with k2? How do they work together? How much K2 should I take with vit D3 2000 IU each day? And how much Magnesium should I take for suspected magnesium deficiency? Will too much k2 harm me?
(Sorry for so many questions)
I have a vitamin d level of 18 as of now.
& i took one 50,000 iu capsule of d2 but hated the effects.
So doc told me to rake 2,000 IU of d3 each day.
I’ve also started taking magnesium glycinate supplements yesterday (took 1 cap instead of 2 just to see how my body reacted).
I am pretty sure I’m deficient in magnesium because I get muscle cramps, palpitations started a few months ago (presenting sort of like POTS, doing heart tests currently to rule out cardiac issues), brain fog, obviously anxiety and muscle twitches!
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(Sorry for so many questions)
I have a vitamin d level of 18 as of now.
& i took one 50,000 iu capsule of d2 but hated the effects.
So doc told me to rake 2,000 IU of d3 each day.
I’ve also started taking magnesium glycinate supplements yesterday (took 1 cap instead of 2 just to see how my body reacted).
I am pretty sure I’m deficient in magnesium because I get muscle cramps, palpitations started a few months ago (presenting sort of like POTS, doing heart tests currently to rule out cardiac issues), brain fog, obviously anxiety and muscle twitches!
2023.03.21 21:07 Network_Rude [WTS] [ON] *LOT* HPA builds, Hi Capas, Pistols, GBBR…..
- Elite force uzi ($320) New in box minus some plinking. Includes:
- GBBR
- Leak Free Mag
- box Shoots amazing with great recoil.
3.JW TTI hi capa Trigger is very light and recoil is snappy and fast. Build is TM compatible, do more upgrades can be done.
Upgrades include: - TTI JW hi capa (Threaded outerbarrel) - Upgraded grip - 140% Cow Cow recoil spring - Cow Cow short stroke kit
Price with attachments: $530 Price for just pistol with upgrades: $350
- WE REX hi capa ($250) Brand new pistol never used, doesn’t come with mag
- KWA ATP compact ($230) Works amazing, leak free mag.
- MINI pistol grenade launcher ($100) Works awesome, used great to clear hallways and rooms
- Primary HPA adapter ($150) Brand new, used twice
- Complete glock lower, comes with leak free mag ($100)
- Two PTT’S ($30)
- Leak free desert eagle mag ($30)
- KJW RIS 3 GBBR ($600)
Package includes: - m4 - one leak free mag - OG box/hardware
Can include attachments for extra.
- G&G HPA m4 build ($975) personal m4 built that has never let me down, and always performed incredible. This rifle shoots easily over 250 feet, very accurately with great groupings. Gun has been fully upgraded with nothing left to do. Super fun and quiet gun to use. Package/upgrades include:
- GTW91 Base rifle
- Wolverine Inferno Gen 2 engine
- MAXX pro hop up
- Maple leaf bucking
- PROMMI tightbore
- CNC trigger
- CNC bolt catch
- CNC mag release
- CNC selector switch
- HPA LMG ($900)
SAFE SEMI AUTO- unlike most other LMG, this gun DOES have full auto, so you can shoot indoors, in hallways, out windows ETC at milsims or other events. Also great to conserve ammo.
Upgrade/Parts list: - CM16 LMG base gun - Wolverine inferno gen 2 engine - Braided IGL
Attachments are included for extra.
- KWA QRF MOD 1 HPA ($975)
https://imgur.com/a/URZwbmK
Located in Niagara. Shipping available. Open to trades.
2023.03.21 21:06 chaosdunk69 32 [M4F] #LosAngeles - Last Semester Grad Student Seeks End of Semester Stretch Birthday Hookup
Hey friends! Hows it going, post title spells it all so bottom line, I'm a busy, successful grad student pushing towards graduation in May, my birthday is at the end of March and I'm trying to get a little birthday sex/end of semester hooking up going. I had posts on and off the last few months because i'd been house sitting and had great success with pics/vids to prove it. But right now it's ideal if you can host because I have room mates so fill this inbox/DM if I seem like your type. Read below for details.
Here's my stats just so you can size me up: I'm 32, 6'0 tall, brown hair and eyes, 175lbs, fit but not jacked, think a dad bod, 7 inches and thick package, college educated, drink but don't smoke unless its 420 but mostly stick to edibles, have a car, have a job, easy to get a long with and have had successful meetups/hook ups from posting recently. Also tested and vaccinated with proof.
As far as hobbies and interests: I'm big into video games, I like to collect and learn about old and new projects and try out new games as much as I can. I also like following movies and shows. I'm also a big fan of new cooking recipes and traveling. If you're a fellow nerd we'll probably get along real well.
Work and career wise I work for small businesses as a media and digital comms consultant, usually helping them grow. Currently I'm with an electrician contractor and I help them manage projects and their digital media output (mostly advertising but how they do it on social media accounts) and I have my bachelors in communication, I'm also currently in grad school finish up so still on that education grind. I used teach music on the side but don't anymore because of how busy i am.
Now for YOU and what I'm looking for; I don't have major preferences stat wise. I'm dead open age range wise, 18-60 but would most likely get along and vibe better with more experienced partners, race/ethnicity I have zero preference but have noticed I tend to have white, latina and asian women find me most frequently attractive but I have no preference really, and as far as body type while I'm not picky, I tend to favor thickecurvieBBW women so thick thighs to the front of the line is guaranteed. Beyond that, you being able to host for the time being is a necessity because of my roommate situation (I moved back in with family when the pandemic started a few years ago and stayed for grad school, will be moving out again this summer when my masters is done but its my situation for now). Beyond that, being fellow nerds is a big plus.
Anyways, hope I didn't talk your ear off! Get at me if you think I'm your kind of guy. I'm in the So Cal. Los Angeles area in the South Bay would be down to meet or even get coffee first to see if everything clicks. I'm also COVID free and vaxxed. Your pic gets mine and we can swap other messaging apps if we seem interested. Talk soon! Looking forward to another round of LA are hook up fun
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Here's my stats just so you can size me up: I'm 32, 6'0 tall, brown hair and eyes, 175lbs, fit but not jacked, think a dad bod, 7 inches and thick package, college educated, drink but don't smoke unless its 420 but mostly stick to edibles, have a car, have a job, easy to get a long with and have had successful meetups/hook ups from posting recently. Also tested and vaccinated with proof.
As far as hobbies and interests: I'm big into video games, I like to collect and learn about old and new projects and try out new games as much as I can. I also like following movies and shows. I'm also a big fan of new cooking recipes and traveling. If you're a fellow nerd we'll probably get along real well.
Work and career wise I work for small businesses as a media and digital comms consultant, usually helping them grow. Currently I'm with an electrician contractor and I help them manage projects and their digital media output (mostly advertising but how they do it on social media accounts) and I have my bachelors in communication, I'm also currently in grad school finish up so still on that education grind. I used teach music on the side but don't anymore because of how busy i am.
Now for YOU and what I'm looking for; I don't have major preferences stat wise. I'm dead open age range wise, 18-60 but would most likely get along and vibe better with more experienced partners, race/ethnicity I have zero preference but have noticed I tend to have white, latina and asian women find me most frequently attractive but I have no preference really, and as far as body type while I'm not picky, I tend to favor thickecurvieBBW women so thick thighs to the front of the line is guaranteed. Beyond that, you being able to host for the time being is a necessity because of my roommate situation (I moved back in with family when the pandemic started a few years ago and stayed for grad school, will be moving out again this summer when my masters is done but its my situation for now). Beyond that, being fellow nerds is a big plus.
Anyways, hope I didn't talk your ear off! Get at me if you think I'm your kind of guy. I'm in the So Cal. Los Angeles area in the South Bay would be down to meet or even get coffee first to see if everything clicks. I'm also COVID free and vaxxed. Your pic gets mine and we can swap other messaging apps if we seem interested. Talk soon! Looking forward to another round of LA are hook up fun