A few years ago, half the Armenia was looking to buy a junk car from international car auctions for a few hundred dollars due to a strange tariff benefits (maybe someone can explain). A car has been a dream for Armenian guys as a proof of status, toughness, self determination.
What do we have today? Yerevan streets are suffocating from the exhaust gases, super nervous drivers cursing and honking at each other and passengers, ‘tough’ guys who turn on loud rabis and drive at crazy speed risk everyone’s lives. Junk cars that are not roadworthy and almost falling apart are parked at every possible and impossible spots. In my opinion, we are facing a major ecological and healthcare issue unless introducing tough technical tests to remove half the cars from streets. But instead, what I hear from the taxi drivers, new requirements are introduced to just collect more money from the car owners.

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I am meeting a friend in Rome on the 23rd of June. Florence + the Machine, one of my favorite artists is playing in Milan on the 22nd. The concert is at I-Days in Monza park.
My primary concern is safety, as the concert starts at 7pm. There is one hostel at the park (ostello costa Alta) 20 minutes away from the stage which I would probably end up staying at. Public transportation would mean an hour long journey back into Milan. My flight would arrive around 12 PM, and I would spend the day prior to that exploring the city.
Is this plan a good idea? I am sure there is lots to do and see in Milan, and while I arriving day earlier and staying at a Milan hostel for the first night would make storing my small suitcase a bit easier it could also make the experience of being in a country where I don’t speak the language for the first time more overwhelming and take away from the concert experience.

If you recognize my username and play in my group, stop reading now.
Hey everyone! So I'm in a bit of a pickle here and could really use some help! I'm a fairly new DM but ive read through both the PHB and DMG.
A while back i found this thread about a monster under the bed.
https://www.reddit.com/DnDBehindTheScreen/comments/rkvi4w/the\_monster\_under\_the\_bed\_a\_frightful\_fey\_packed/
I loved the theme and really wanted to work with it one day so i saved it and moved on with my life. Now recently in my first ever campaign im DM'ing we had two people interested in joining the group on a semi pemanent basis which would bring the PC count up to 7. Hefty number i know, a misstake i know., I'm getting to that hold on for a sec.
To introduce them to the group we decided to do a shorter adventure during the groups "downtime" between quests to introduce the new people to the group. Everyone was level 4 with the plan to reach lvl 5 after the day was saved. A perfect opportunity to save some kidnapped children and beat the monster under the bed i thought!
Anyhow, my first challenge was to pump up the CR of the bedmonster from 1 into something more apropriate, but how do you balance an encounter with 7 lvl 4s, cant be that hard i thought to myself. Off to Kobold fight club, find something apropriatly deadly since its a fight after a long rest. Add a dash of Fey based creature for the flavour. Autumn Eladrin seems like a good choice. CR10 with a medium difficulty.
The plan was to stop the monster from kidnapping a new child, the monster escapes, and then the group follows the monster into a well to save the quest child. Where they find a crying child, and run into the monster, slightly hurt from the previous scuffle. Enter the plottwist, the crying child turns into a second monster. Boom, Deadly fight. Very deadly fight. Boom, the group struggles but comes out on top in the end. Saves the children. Boom, the players are super satisfied with their achivement and that their grit and hard work payed off and they won a great victory. Boom, great session with great reviews of me. Everyone is happy.
Day of the adventure. The plothook sinks in deep, everyone is invested. They feel for the children. They end up at an orphanage where a child has already gone mising and a little 9 year old girl is putting on a brave face defending her adopted siblings from this monster with nothing but a wooden sword and a toy wolf. She pickpocketed gold from one of the adventurers a few days earlier to be able to equip all the kids with protective toys and wooden weapons. The girl is the monsters next target. The party has no idea what the monster is, all they know is that he has told the girl he is after her and that is enough for them to come for him. It's no longer about the money.
They all hide under blankets (Except the Goliath barbarian, they park his bum outside because he cant fit in a childs bed). While waiting they hear the monster taunt and try to lure Lily away from her blanket. He wants to play with her, give her candy, give her toys, the missing boy/brother misses her so much because she abandoned him, he calls for her in his sleep, he misses her so much that he cries every night. The table is shaking right now. Lily screams, everyone throws off their blankets in true super hero fashion witnessing Lily heroicially standing on her bed, wooden sword just dripping with the freshly cut smokey substance the monster is made of. By her side, her toy wolf Wilbur has grown in size and come alive, with buttons for eyes and yarn for fangs he growls at the monster while protecting Lily with his body. The monster, creaming in pain and reaching a panic from all the "grown ups" in the room.
Que an epic battle.
https://imgur.com/GJp1vVA
Monster statblock
Yeah nope. First on initiative, the wizard. Spawns a bloody Flaming Sphere right on top of the Monster, lighting him up and instantly discovering his weakness to light. Second on initative, the Goliath Path of the Giant Barbarian charges through the door like the Kool Aid man, frothing at the mouth with full rage on and grown to large size rushes the monster while screaming incoherent obscenitys and grapples the monster to the ground. The next two rounds concist of the barbarian pinning the monster to the ground while everyone else takes turns kicking the ever loving darkness out of him while the rest cheer them on.
The image is best portrayed by one white die surrounded by 6 black dice. Those who know they know. The monster did a total of 0 damage those two rounds. He took 116. I mean i know, action economy yadda yadda but jesus christ I did not expect this. This wasn't epic at all, it was a light warmup after breakfast. I made sure the damage output would be enough to down the casters in one hit and the tankier ones in two. With 2 attacks and the fear aura i was hoping to at least put some fear into them before skeddadling away with or without the poor child.
After the two rounds a few people had to run and we called it. The following 4 weeks were canceled due to scheduling conflicts before we gave up and went back to the original 5 players. Please help me make this a memorable experience.
This is the party as it stands
Path of the Giant Barbarian with GWM and dreams of becoming a Luchadore.
Banneret Fighter with 19 AC whose greatest joy is to hear my childlike waaaaaaaah as I miss.
Draconic Sorceror with 16 AC and Silvery Barbs ready to ruin every crit i get on the reckless barbarian.
Circle of the Moon druid who likes Bear form.
and finally a Evocation wizard who seems to always light things on fire by misstake.
So my plan right now is that the the wizards lights the orphanage on fire. Thats right, i prefer them to feel terrible over feeling bored. While everyone is trying to contain the fire she has started, again, the monster slips away.
Now, how the hell do i make this memorable. I have a few ideas.
1: Raise str or dex to escape grapple, possibly inherent disadvantage due to being actual darkness.
2: Give him a few lair actions when he retreats to his cave
- Summon smaller shadowmonsters to even out action economy. Im thinking kobold statblock or something similar with pack tactics so a few of them can take down the casters if left unattended
- An action that snuffs out all light sources
- Spellcasting once as a free action
3: Legendary actions
- Succeed a saving throw
- Envelop the room in darkness. Blind everyone and can only see him when adjacent for X turns. Can only be done once (Despite there being 2 of the monsters)
4: Make the lair cave larger with a few fights vs smaller shadowmonsters to drain the party of their resources.Twisted statues coming alive as crooked figures. Twisted paitings with deranged characters in them stepping out to attack the adventures. (I know this is the most reasonable choice but i would prefer not to make the lair a 3 session ordeal, and even then i would need your help to balance him)
5: Higher AC? Higher HP? Just prolong it long enough to get a few hits in and make them work for it?
6: Do nothing because there being 2 of them would be hard enough for 5 level 4 PC?
7: Base him off another monster entirely?
Please help me put the fear back into them =(

As the title says, i’m wondering if you can change the building type for evo2. I made my park on dfw buildings thinking it was cosmetic, only to realize late game that it locks heavy fences. Any help?

Has anyone had any experience with soundproofing a Crosstrek? The road noise is pretty loud so wondering if soundproofing the flooring and doors would help? Would really appreciate finding out the expenses for DIY or having someone else do it?
Living in North Carolina it seems like every two lane and expressway is under construction so the road noise is even worse.
Just released a book on one of the state parks here and will be doing book signings all over the state so would like to listen to podcasts and tunes on the long drives to sell books.

Hi all,
I'm from Australia (23 F) and my parents and I have booked return flights to Seattle. We're not interested in LA or SF, so Seattle seemed like a great option for its proximity to nature/mountains/Canada. We'll be there for 21 days, two of those are getting to/from airport. So 19 days of actual on-the-road sight seeing. Parents have been to USA before, I haven't.
We're heading over in August, and we're planning on hiring a car and doing a road trip. While we also want to check Washington (the state) out, we are also interested in seeing Vancouvesurrounding areas and Montana or Wyoming for the national parks there.
Some things we like:

• Mountains, rivers, nature, places that are walk-friendly and we also love hiking (though nothing too difficult)
• Beaches (happy to not swim... but picturesque beaches)
• Interesting cities (Seattle and Portland seem a lot like Melbourne - we like this vibe)
• Good food and cafe culture
• Small picturesque towns
• Very curious about the more absurd side of American culture
• I'm into photography

Things we don't like:

• Theme parks/Movie related stuff (like in LA), nightclubs lol

Anyway my main question is... what would you suggest for a 19-day road trip in the north west that somewhat pertains to the above? Any cute picturesque towns you would recommend, or nice nature related stuff? Do national park permits get booked out quite in advance? Should I be worried about bears?!?!
Olympic National Park looks awesome, but so do the national parks in Montana/Wyoming. We've got a fair bit of time and are used to driving long distances.
Thanks all!

Hi all,
I'm from Australia (23 F) and my parents and I have booked return flights to Seattle. We're not interested in LA or SF, so Seattle seemed like a great option for its proximity to nature/mountains/Canada. We'll be there for 21 days, two of those are getting to/from airport. So 19 days of actual on-the-road sight seeing. Parents have been to USA before, I haven't.
We're heading over in August, and we're planning on hiring a car and doing a road trip. While we also want to check Washington (the state) out, we are also interested in seeing Vancouvesurrounding areas and Montana or Wyoming for the national parks there.
Some things we like:

• Mountains, rivers, nature, places that are walk-friendly and we also love hiking (though nothing too difficult)
• Beaches (happy to not swim... but picturesque beaches)
• Interesting cities (Seattle and Portland seem a lot like Melbourne - we like this vibe)
• Good food and cafe culture
• Small picturesque towns
• Very curious about the more absurd side of American culture
• I'm into photography

Things we don't like:

• Theme parks/Movie related stuff (like in LA), nightclubs lol

Anyway my main question is... what would you suggest for a 19-day road trip in the north west that somewhat pertains to the above? Any cute picturesque towns you would recommend, or nice nature related stuff? Do national park permits get booked out quite in advance? Should I be worried about bears?!?!
Olympic National Park looks awesome, but so do the national parks in Montana/Wyoming. We've got a fair bit of time and are used to driving long distances.
Thanks all!

I dated a guy in high school and college for about 3 1/2 years. He had a LOT of really life-altering mental health issues start showing up in that last year and a half and though I really did try, I just couldn't handle taking care of him anymore, and we broke up in late 2002.
He had never been abusive in any way when we were together. Didn't say mean shit or hit me or anything like that. But the stalking and harassing began immediately after we broke up. He'd leave gifts of money and my favorite candies in my mailbox or have his best friend call and tell me how much he missed me. But then he'd also personally call my parents and tell them what a whore I was. He would park at the end of my 1/4 mile driveway and just sit there for half an hour. He had some girl I hadn't ever even met send me threatening calls and emails. He started some pretty abhorrent rumors and turned a lot of our friends against me. He stopped by my work several times, he conveniently ran into me in public...he was just a constant factor in my life (and like I even need to say it, the cops were no help).
This went on for TWO YEARS before it finally started tapering off. He slashed my husband's tires on our wedding night in 2004, and then I didn't hear from him again until he called me at my mom's house a year and a half later (how the hell did he know I was there?) to congratulate me on having my daughter.
Since then, it's been about every 2-5 years that I hear from him. He'll find some way to contact me online or I'll have old high school friends warn me that he's snooping around and asking questions about me or he'll make some deranged post about/to me on facebook (I obviously have him blocked and have my shit locked down tight) and people will send me screenshots. And every time, I'll get on edge again, wondering if this is gonna be the time he finally snaps. We dated for 3 1/2 short years. But he hasn't left me alone in 21 years. I'm so tired.

I am planning on being around campus during the summer. Are there lots or places to park that are free/not ticketed for the day?

Hi everybody y’all can call me rose my nickname since grade school! I’m here because I’m lonely and tired of the constant failures of relationships I find myself in using tinder and bumble and others apps so now I’m here hoping to maybe just maybe find something real. Lasting and exciting full of twists and turns like a real like fairy tail for this hopeless romantic who is constantly dreaming that Prince Charming will rush through the door and grab me up off my feet an Wooster me away to a fairytale just like on the Disney movies! Huge Disney fan love love Disney love Disney world all parks been to one on cali, Florida and Japan if you love Disney it’s bonus points! Total kid at heart. I love other things too I also love any movie that has Kevin heart or Adam Sandler do theses two have a bad movie??? I’d love to see them in a movie together! Ok. Let me tell you guys about me now.. I’m 18 years old just turned 18 actually 2 days ago I still have baby fuzz on me I know I know I have medium length brown hair and poop green eyes I hate my eyes why do they have to be poop green ugh. I’m about 5 foot 7 inches and weigh around 115lbs I believe. I’m white if that matters to y’all I grew up a military brat and don’t really have a home I’ve traveled so much but I was born in Illinois and currently live in Nashville Tennessee the country music capital of the world! I do love me some hardy and Morgan Wallen, hank, Kane brown, koe, Zach etc etc the list just goes on and on I like lots of different music! I’m a very clean person I shower twice daily and wash my hands frequently and brush my teeth some people skimp on hygiene and that’s just gross I jerk myself well groomed and clean I have 0 health conditions. No criminal record! However a turn off the sure to make most of the loyal readers up to this point jump ship which I 100% understand I’m a MTF pre op however I don’t wish to use my maleness. I enjoy playing games on my phone and reading in my spare time I can also cook and lovvve to bake! I don’t know what I seek just tell me about you in detail please! I don’t care about age or race got it’s nice to know!

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Helping Women and Society Escape Violent Relationships

Women exist in a "domesticated" combat zone. On any given day in the United States, an average of 480 women will be raped, 5,760 women will be assaulted, and 4 will be murdered by a [cis] male partner. Domestic violence [against women] is an assault on women's bodies and minds by those who claim to love them and love to claim them. The success of this violence depends on the complicity of community. If we intend to bring about true liberation, we must foster explicitly antiauthoritarian behavior in both personal and political life. No hierarchy is acceptable and no domination is justifiable—not even "behind closed doors." Because one in four women will be assaulted (likely including someone you love), we must wage war on domestic violence. We serve to empower our communities best by fighting the violence and hierarchy closest to home… or in the home.

Ingredients

• Outreach materials
• Shelter
• Childcare
• Basic safety materials—pepper spray, whistles, deadbolts, phone
• Knowledge of local resources
• A network of safe communities/spaces for women
• Personal dedication to the complete annihilation of authority
• Instructions

Stage One: Helping Her

Educate yourself. Domestic violence (DV) is rarely a single instance of battery, but instead a pattern of power and control. It may involve sexual or physical violence, or it may be a complex web of threats, property destruction, isolation, and emotional, financial, and mental abuse. Understanding this will help you recognize abuse if it comes without physical bruises.
If you are truly ready to have your mother, friend, or daughter tell you what is happening in her private life, invite her to come to you. If you are speaking against violence and rape, she will know you are ready. Wheatpaste neighborhoods with posters about domestic violence, hold street fairs against violence in residential neighborhoods, plaster infoshops and collective homes with signs that invite women into a safe space. If she, her children, or her animals are in immediate danger, however, you may need to approach her. Never approach the abuser: most abusers are paranoid and will quickly assume their victims have exposed them, and may retaliate against them.
Follow her lead. The most important thing you will do is be there for her, even if you feel useless. Trying to be a hero can only undermine her autonomy. Let her make her own decisions, even bad ones, and never tell her what to do. Give her back control: refuse to dominate her and recreate the abuse.
Give her a phone number or a way to contact you or someone in the community. Best is a cell phone that will always be on, or a collective house's number where someone is usually awake.
Let her talk. Don't wince or gasp: tales of [rape] and strangulation are not easy to listen to, but they are harder to tell. Survivors are often terrified of either tainting someone else's world with their trauma or not being believed. Tell her you believe her. You will be changed by what you hear; thank her for that. Confirm what may seem obvious.
An abuser spends a lot of time telling her she is crazy, and that no one would believe her. Tell her that you are listening, and offer eye contact and physical closeness if she is comfortable with it. Assure her that the way she feels is okay. There is no "normal" way to respond to abnormal acts of violence. Understand that the shield of invulnerability has been shattered (41% of rape victims and 89% of domestic violence victims expect to be assaulted again). She may be hyper-vigilant; the best way to help is to make her feel safe and legitimize/recognize her fears.
Focus on practical and immediate concerns. Where can one buy mace? What organizations work with DV issues? Ask her what she needs in order to leave: shelter? transportation? a job? childcare? money? Help her find these resources. Then ask what she needs to stay out of the relationship. For most women, it takes seven to fourteen attempts to leave their abusers. If she doesn't have the resources to stay gone, she may return because he can support her. Many abusers manipulate these needs. This is what makes DV such a pernicious crime: the perpetrator is the person who knows her best.
Address her immediate safety. If she is living with the abuser, make sure she has a plan to get out during a violent episode (contact your local coalition against DV for safety plans). Offer to keep personal papers and a packed suitcase for her and some extra money. Make sure she has a phone. An old cell phone without service can still dial 911 if charged. Consider establishing code words for her to use if she needs help, or other signals—a porch light off, for example, could let the neighbors know they should contact the police. If she doesn't live with her abuser, offer to find someone to stay with her or nearby. Do a safety check: make sure phone lines can't be cut, doors have deadbolts, and windows are nailed shut. If she wants to stay in hiding, help her cover her tracks by getting all mail sent to another address or post office box; offer to put your name on utilities. If she rides a bus or bike, find a car for her to borrow. Find community members who can do errands with her, pick her up from work, watch the children, etc. 90% of stalking cases are former intimate partners, not strangers.
The anti-DV movement started as an underground railroad of homes. Consider where she stays carefully. If the abuser knows where she is staying, she can feel like a sitting duck, especially if she stays with a [cis man]—an abuser's insecurity and suspicions can easily turn to rage. The majority of extreme violence and murder occur when the woman tries to leave, because the abuser feels he is losing control of her. Taking a survivor into your home is a serious commitment; unless you are prepared to internalize her constant vigilance and your home is very secure, she may be safer with someone else.
If she wants, help her use the legal system to file charges, obtain a protective order, file for custody, or get a divorce. Discuss the pros and cons of this in relation to safety, not politics. Until we develop an alternative, we cannot criticize a woman for using "the system." It is imperative, however, that she doesn't invest her safety or emotional wellbeing in the criminal justice system, as it often fails.
The community might want to deal with or "out" the abuser. Some communities have ostracized abusers, boycotted their businesses, refused to speak to them. You could make posters of his face, or spray paint his house. You can run abusers out of town, though understand this has the potential of resulting in his abusing someone somewhere else. You can threaten him with violence. No matter what is done, it must be acceptable to the survivor, because her well-being is at stake.

Stage Two: Helping Us

There are many steps we must take as communities and collectives to be welcoming and radicalizing spaces for survivors. At the same time, we must each take personal responsibility for shifting the public conscience toward abhorrence for violence. In a patriarchal state, violence toward and the rape of women prop up sexist oppression and exploitation. We cannot transform "rape culture" without committing ourselves to resisting and eradicating all patriarchy.
We must redefine sex and relationships away from terms of violence, power, domination and status. In our relationships we can try to create a new vocabulary that [prioritizes] consent and equality.
[Cis] men in particular need to organize. [Most] DV is a [cis] man's problem—women just suffer the consequences. A radical [cis] heterosexual male must give up the privileges of his gender—only then can he be approachable, only then will he be capable of offering meaningful help to a survivor. You cannot aid a survivor while allowing for other forms of sexism to prevail. [... Cis m]en can unlearn their gender construction and undermine patriarchy; imagine if every boy grew up around men who were struggling against patriarchy and violence.

Account

Taheera called the police after Mark had threatened to take their five-month-old baby, Juan. There were bruises on her neck from a previous incident, and Mark was arrested. It had been Mark's idea to move to the city when Taheera was 3 months pregnant. Taheera started to go to a low-cost clinic for prenatal care, but stopped going when Mark accused her of sleeping with the doctor. The first time Mark hit her was after she made a list of baby names. He was jealous of the attention the baby was getting.
I am a social worker, and an agency referred her to me. When we first talked, Taheera kept looking behind her. I suggested she push her chair against the wall, and promised her that I would keep checking down the hallway for Mark (even though Mark was in jail and wasn't going to be coming).
She was scared of Mark and of what he might do to her and the baby, especially now that he had been arrested. Mark's job was their only source of income, and he might be fired if he didn't get out of jail soon. She had a lot of questions about the legal system and was curious to know if I had talked to other women who felt like she did. We talked about local groups and shelters that could help, but mostly I just listened. I gave her my number and a 24-hour crisis number. Taheera chose to bail Mark out, using all their savings, but not to speak with him. The state had Mark sign a "no contact order" telling him he couldn't contact her or move back home, so he got an apartment upstairs from Taheera and made a point of bringing lots of "bitches" home so Taheera would see. Taheera didn't show up to court and the case was dropped.
Two weeks later, Taheera called and said that Mark was upstairs, Juan was asking for him, and that she was trying to resist going up to him. She missed him. I simply listened, and told her, as best I could, that her feelings were normal. She kept asking, "What's wrong with me?" I tried to refocus on Mark's problems. Taheera finally agreed to walk downtown and sign up for a support group that had childcare. But she never did, and instead went upstairs to Mark.
Eight months later, Taheera called from a payphone. Mark had held a gun to her head because he was angry that they now lived together in the upstairs apartment but he still had to pay for the downstairs apartment. He cut the phone cord so she couldn't call out. Things had been okay for a while: Mark had let her get a job and was being a "good daddy." Taheera told me that she had left several times, but each time he had found her or threatened her family Taheera felt too tired to leave, and just wanted things to "stay sane."
Taheera decided to save up money. We met for lunch one afternoon and made a list of what to do, which I kept so Mark wouldn't see it. I also gave her an old cell phone to call 911, which she hid in a cabinet. She got a separate bank account and started funneling part of her paycheck into it. She told a neighbor what was happening and gave the neighbor a packed suitcase to keep for her. I researched Section 8 housing in her hometown, and had the papers sent to my office. Taheera asked me to look up domestic violence resources in her hometown on my computer, because Mark made a point of checking out which websites she had visited when he got home from work. Mark grew suspicious, probably because Taheera seemed to be happier. Mark started calling her work and hanging up, and kept this up until she was fired. He bought her a cell phone so he could call her repeatedly any time she was out. He started not letting her leave the house with Juan, so that she would have to come back. He took her car keys. Eight months before, Taheera might have given up, because Mark seemed to be catching on.
I don't know all the details, but one night Taheera got someone from her church to park outside the apartments and start shouting. Mark, easily annoyed, went out to shut them up, and she and Juan got their suitcases from the neighbors and left through a back door, where the church friend picked them up.
I don't know if Taheera's story is a success story, but it is a real story. Since then, Mark has found out where she lives and has gained visitation rights to Juan through a court. Mark has also assaulted her twice since she left, once running her and Juan off the road. Taheera, however, has broken her connection to Mark and broken the cycle of abuse. Sometimes I think about her friend from church and the neighbor, and wonder what would have happened without them.
Recently, she read an article about my being arrested for protesting and asked what I was doing. I told her that I fight violence and hierarchy on all levels and she muttered, "Oh." But yesterday she left a message saying she was reading a lot and did I have any favorite authors? I'm thinking Emma Goldman or a little Naomi Wolfe.

This is a general post to obtain an information. I am looking for alternative agencies to Law Enforcement to report Antisemitic harassment and hateful behavior directed at Jewish community members in a state of Kansas. Large Jewish immigrant community from USSR, families immigrated in the 1990’s settled in Overland Park KS, few reporting harassment , inappropriate behavior and threatening comments towards them while incorporating tactics such as stalking, malicious defamation and slender at frequently visited businesses. If anyone else heard similar stories in different states or have a similar experience I would love to hear more on this topic so we can combat this issue together. Just need a little direction. Thank you!! PS … I am aware of ADL but what other agencies do similar work …..

Recently broke my windshield, and had it replaced and boy what a journey. I have a 2021 Volkswagen Arteon, tons of safety features in the car so I needed to also have it calibrated. I asked a nearby Volkswagen dealer if the windshield needed to be calibrated at the dealership. Tech said yes it takes a few hours but we can get it done. My insurance said to work with safelite as a recommendation. Safelite assured me they could calibrate my car. They successfully replace the windshield, and calibrate it. Off I go, 45 minutes later, I’m driving down the road and turn into a parking lot. All my assist lights came on. 7 lights in total. My locks unlocked and my windows went down half way. Had them redo it, I waited in the waiting room for what they told me 45 minutes took several hours. Only for them to say we tried both systems we have and we were unsuccessful. We can’t get passed the airbag light. The dealer will have to do it. I end up breaking my windshield on the same highway 2 days later before I can get it calibrated. Had windshield replaced again, hood was dented in the process, and they scratched the mirror during installation. Whatever it happens and their insurance took care of it. Went to the dealership and they said during calibration they found the ABS module was faulty, and it was connected to the windshield replacement, and that it would cost almost 600 dollars to fix. I sent the repair order to safelite and I’m awaiting the claim.
Should I be going through this much trouble for a windshield? Thank you

Sorry if this is long. I feel like I need to get the context out to really make this make sense. I was dumb and when my ex and I were 18, I got her pregnant. We quickly made plans to get married. I got a better paying job, we got an apartment, and after 9 months she had our healthy baby girl. I really didn't know what I was doing legally and didn't have much guidance (besides her family) and we signed my name on the birth certificate, etc.
Our relationship fell apart pretty quickly after the baby was born. When the baby was a year old her mother moved out and she took me to court for custody and we arranged for 60 / 40 with me also paying child support since I make decent money. The arrangement has been fine for the most part and our daughter is now 5 and she's my world. My only complaint is her mother has frequent boyfriends and she always tries to get our daughter to call them "dad". This has been a point of contention for a long time.
Some time ago, through various rumors from mutual friends, I started to question if my daughter was biologically mine so I requested and paid for a paternity test. I was crushed to find out my daughter is not actually mine. Since then we've been going back-and-forth legally, but I've promised to continue being her father since I'm the only one she's ever known consistently.
She had a graduation ceremony when she finished pre-K recently and I went with some flowers. Our daughter was confused and didn't want to be around me much. Her mother was livid and berated me in the parking lot. I asked her what the deal was and she said after the paternity test she told our daughter that I'm not her real dad and that she wasn't going to be seeing me again. She said I'm an AH for coming to the ceremony after proving I wasn't her father and she wants to know what the point in me doing it was. I told her I just needed to know for my peace of mind, but it doesn't make me want to be any less involved. I'm really not sure what to do legally to make sure I can stay in her life and continue to help raise her. I'm working on that. But AITAH for getting the negative paternity test and then going to the graduation?

Imagine. Oasis springs. With all those lots to build residents on, and a giant park right in the middle just BEGGING for kids/teens/adults/elders to do sick flips and hurt themselves enough to warrant a doctor visit. I also feel like a whole “skate” pack would be cool with inline skates, roller blades, long boards, etc. would be so fun. Not to mention the FASHION skate/punk style is always at least in rotation. Maybe just me screaming into the EA void, but I personally see a lot of potential with some kind of “skate life” pack.

I will try to keep the backstory short, but basically my ex and I met through a hookup app when I was 20 and he was 25. He was my deepest/longest relationship, all in all we were together for about 1.5 years and lived together for about 6 months. Looking back, I now realize that moving in together is when the relationship started to fall apart. However, when it was happening, I was hopelessly codependent. A couple of months after moving in together he suggested a break, which he then quickly dissolved… A few more months pass and he breaks up with me. I knew a breakup was on the horizon, but the physical event location/timing caught me off guard. Well anyways, that was 10 months ago.
Since then, I have put a lot of time and effort into growing as a person. I’ve been prioritizing platonic love & connection vs romantic. I recognized that when I was in that relationship, I didn’t know who I was. I had no sense of self or identity. Now I do, I enjoy the way I look, the way I act, the things I do, etc.
My ex has the tiniest whisper of a social media presence, so I can’t exactly indulge myself in the occasional instagram stalk. Today though, I found out that I can still see his location through Snapchat. I know I should have stopped the train right there, but I obsessed over it all day. This evening I saw he was at a bar in a busy part of the city. Before I could even take a deep breath and look at the situation, I’m driving towards the bar. Let me be clear, I had no intention of hurting him or even confronting him. Something inside my brain just wanted to see what he looked like now.
(Admittedly, I also had a major relapse in the “needing validation from others,” department and I felt as though I needed him to also see how good I looked.)
I was driving to find a spot to park when I spotted him, walking directly towards me with one of his friends. I don’t know if he saw me, logically it’s possible, but I didn’t see any indicators. I parked my car and started walking around, hoping to pass him on the sidewalk, or catch his eye through a window.
Surprise, I didn’t. I circled the block, talked some sense into myself, and went home.
This has me a little concerned. I don’t believe I would ever act violently towards anyone, let alone someone I loved so deeply. So that’s not really my worry, I guess I would just like advice on how to proceed. Most of the articles I’ve come across concerning codependent recovery are either patronizing, or geared for heterosexual relationships. Two guys living together and slowly growing distant is just a different vibe. I have unfriended him on Snapchat, so I can no longer see his location. Thankfully, I truly don’t think I would have enough information to do this again. So I guess my question is, does anyone have any advice on how to sever deep ties formed in codependency?
TLDR: I (22M) found out I could see my ex’s (27M) location through Snapchat and tried to “randomly pass” him on the sidewalk today. I unfriended him (no more location), but I need guidance on how to breakdown my lingering codependency.