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2023.06.01 08:27 KaleidoscopeThink731 Awkward and difficult therapy session + fallout

I recently started ACT but I'm struggling to... relate? to the homework/worksheets. E.g. the text stating there's virtually no physical threat left in the modern world and the threats we perceive are purely psychological. As a survivor of DV and SA I obviously disagree.
I tried to talk about this with the ACT therapist but found it hard to explain because I was sort of beating around the bush. He asked me if I could give an example of why I didn't relate to that particular piece of text and I ended up blurting out the SA. Then I got asked about my boyfriend and the tone of it made me feel like he as trying to conclude that the SA wasn't impactful because I have a boyfriend now. I told him that I talked about it with my boyfriend. Therapist asked whether he then makes sure I'm okay and doesn't cross my boundaries and I answered yes.
I'm on the waiting list for some form of trauma therapy (to be determined) because there is a number of negative events/memories that's so strong that I can barely even cope with thinking or talking about them. And this ACT is meant to keep me from crisis while I'm on the waiting list, but it's already making me dig up memories that are basically not safe to get into... one activates the other and they're all related to a shitty, unsafe, violent childhood that could've been prevented if even 1 person stepped up. I tend to get in crisis when they get activated/triggered strongly, which is the opposite of the therapy's goal.
[Disturbing nightmare description ahead, only in this paragraph] I've been feeling out of sorts since the appointment at the beginning of this week and last night I had a nightmare about my GP forcing herself into my room and saying she doesn't believe me and starting to undress me.
Woke up panicked and with a headache. Usually my nightmares come in series, I'll wake up with them for like a week straight. I've had so much chronic stress that I get shitty physical symptoms (even saw a psychosomatic physiotherapist after being checked for basically everything) and I've been out of breath and headache-y recently already. Now I just woke up out of breath and with a headache, instead of it starting later in the day. (Please don't tell me what physical disease I could have. I've been very well checked over for years and been taken very seriously)
This ACT feels wrong to go into when the therapist doesn't know anything about my trauma and also because I start to dissociate a bit (foggy mind, can't think, can't remember what the other person said) so the appointment got very blurry and confusing towards the end. This therapy was supposed to help me stabilise but I feel actively worse than before the appointment and I have had 0 tips (ever, aside from 'distraction!!!') on how to cope with with everything coming back
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2023.06.01 08:27 gieri_ Roma fan here…

Hi guys, I won’t write about how much I’m disgusted from yesterday refree’s.
I’m here just to warn you, yesterday we played against a Spanish team with an English refree. One of the most robbed match in the history.
You will play against an English team with a Spanish refree. I cannot think about this is a simple coincidence.
I hope you will win the cup, but I’m scared that they will rob you too.
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2023.06.01 08:26 CreamPieSpaghetti How do I not feel scared I might lose a friend

Me and them (not going to say their gender) we spent the whole day yesterday just chilling out on discord it was the first time that ever happened to me, and I really enjoyed it, we were discord friends for a couple of like months but we didn't really talked a well I did but sorta stopped didn't want to seemed pushy, but then yesterday they messaged me first which I would usually do didn't think much of it so that's how our discord hang out day started, it was so fun and I really enjoyed it. But I don't know I'm just scared I might lose this friend like I had a lot of people who made friends with me online but ended up ghosting couple of days later. I'm not saying this friend will do that I shouldn't judge or assume but I don't know I'm just scared it might happen, like I'm scared the way I talk to them might be wrong or something not to say their sensitive is just me telling myself that. I always think the people that left me because of me, like I'm too boring or just not friend material. So what I'm saying am I just worrying for no reason like I'm scared if our chemistry don't match I'd lose this friend. Can you give me advice on what I should do and maybe advice on how I can make our friendship more interesting. Sorry if my English is bad
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2023.06.01 08:25 Sephronar B1533 - Cornwall Bill - Second Reading

B1533 - Cornwall Bill - Second Reading

Due to this bill being too long to fit in a post, the Bill as amended can be found here.
This Bill was written by His Grace the Right Honourable Sir Sephronar KG KCT GBE LVO PC MP MSP FRS, the 1st Duke of Hampshire, 1st Marquess of St Ives, 1st Earl of St Erth, 1st Baron of Truro as a Private Members Bill.
Opening Speech:
Mr Deputy Speaker,
Members of this esteemed House, the Devolution of powers to the proud people of Cornwall has been a great ambition of mine for many years now - devolution of services, of fiscal autonomy, and of a proper democratic voice. I initially drafted this Bill in 2015, taking quite a different form then - albeit with similar aims. So I am pleased today to reintroduce this Bill to this House. I have worked hard to get this right for weeks, and we hope that we can rely on this House’s support to help it become law.But first, please humour me in allowing me to give you a brief lesson in Cornish history - The area now known as Cornwall was first inhabited in the Palaeolithic and Mesolithic periods. It continued to be occupied by Neolithic and then by Bronze-Age people. The first written account of Cornwall comes from the 1st-century BC Sicilian Greek historian Diodorus Siculus, supposedly quoting or paraphrasing the 4th-century BCE geographer Pytheas, who had sailed to Britain:
The inhabitants of that part of Britain called Belerion (or Land's End) from their intercourse with foreign merchants, are civilised in their manner of life. They prepare the tin, working very carefully the earth in which it is produced ... Here then the merchants buy the tin from the natives and carry it over to Gaul, and after travelling overland for about thirty days, they finally bring their loads on horses to the mouth of the Rhône.*From the Roman occupation until the 4th Century CE, to the split from Wessex in 577 AD - we have always had a proud sense of national identity. The name appears in the Anglo-Saxon Chronicle in 891 as On Corn walum. In the Domesday Book it was referred to as Cornualia and in c. 1198 as Cornwal. Other names for the county include a latinisation of the name as Cornubia (first appears in a mid-9th-century deed purporting to be a copy of one dating from c. 705), and as Cornugallia in 1086. The 1508 Charter implicitly recognised Cornwall's ancient elected Stannary Parliament and accepted its right to veto English law that was prejudicial to the interests of the tin-mining Cornish people - who comprised much of the local population at the time - and to their heirs and successors in perpetuity. By including this veto in the 1508 Charter, the English monarchy was, in effect, guaranteeing a substantial degree of control over Cornish affairs to the Stannary Parliament. Indeed, in 1977, the British government acknowledged that recognition of the Stannary Parliament and its right of veto has never been withdrawn. Cornwall County Council commissioned a Mori poll in 2003 which showed 55% of Cornish people in favour of a democratically elected, fully devolved regional assembly for Cornwall. The people want this to happen, and we are elected to represent the people - who are we to deny them their freedom? Malta, with only 400,000 people, is an independent state within the EU. Why not Cornwall?My point is that Cornwall has never simply just been a ‘part of England’, our Celtic nature has always stood strong and prevails to this day - although I understand that our biggest hurdle now is convincing many of you who rather see us remain under the overlordship of England. However I implore you to reconsider this position, and give us the freedom to decide our own destiny - as we do with Scotland, Wales, and Northern Ireland. Allied with this economic impoverishment has been the centralisation and transfer out of Cornwall of decision-making institutions and government offices – together with the skilled jobs they entail – to various undemocratic and faceless south-west England regional quangos, which are run by unelected, unaccountable London appointees. Westminster's frequent concern for poverty and under-development in the north-east of England is not replicated when it comes to the relative lack of state resources earmarked to tackle deprivation in Cornwall. Successive London governments have shown little respect for distant Cornwall, or its people, identity, history or culture. It is a far away place about which they know little and about which they seem to care even less. How else can the decades and centuries of neglect be explained?Please, give us a chance to decide our own fates.
His Grace the Most Honourable Sir Sephronar KG KCT GBE LVO PC MP MSP FRS, the 1st Duke of Hampshire, 1st Marquess of St Ives, 1st Earl of St Erth, 1st Baron of Truro.
With special thanks to KarlYonedaStan and miraiwae who assisted with researching and drafting this Bill before they became members of the Quadrumvirate, as well as SpectacularSalad for their check and support particularly with Schedule Two
Lords can debate and submit amendments by the 3rd of June at 10pm BST.
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2023.06.01 08:25 Tabletop_Spartan Security Breach Base Remake Theory

Theory; Steel Wool will release a reimagined version of the base game of Security Breach. The original game completely fixed, reimagined with revamped story and gameplay.

Here's why I believe that is the case;
(((don't feel like finding some sources or links, so if im wrong about some info PLS let me know)))
background info; there are several DOZENS of youtube videos dissecting the release version of the game where A BUNCH of content was removed or unused. So it's clear that the game was really meant to go in a different direction. What the game was originally meant to be (and what all these unused files were made for) I'll call the OG DESIGN. This OG Design of the game was still in development and was NOT ready for release yet.
Steel Wool was pushed by PS4 and the toy merchandising companies to release their game early. This caused Steel Wool to create an alternate version of their game, where several parts of the game were simplified and cut out. I mean, just play the game and try to see as many plot holes are in one run. This game I'll call the SIMPLIFIED one.
Releasing this SIMPLIFIED one seemed like a terrible idea because this was met with criticism. I think it's pretty obvious how bad it is so I won't talk about its faults in-game. However, releasing this Simplified game was a risky strategy, because...
The Simplified game isn't the real game. It was released mainly to please all the companies pushing its release (and to finance Steel Wool). It was risky because it could potentially have had big losses. EXCEPT, It was a commercial success, which made the risk worth it. Now that the game proved to be a success and has the finance now, they can actually work on the OG Design again.
I want to bring this announcement up;
This announcement they gave proves that they had the capabilities to expand their team up to twice their original size. Wtf that's a big leap.
Now, so far, based on my points so far, it can be argued that Steel Wool is now focused on the Ruin DLC, and has no intentions of working on the Base game anymore. Which would be actually disappointing if that actually becomes the case.
read this announcement
The last patch ever released was 1.11 . This announcement said that despite being content with 1.11, they still had plans to improve the game more and more.... this patch was like a year ago. Even finished games still get small quality of life updates over time, especially if they were commercial successes.
So what does that mean. The Base Game is abandoned? Abandoned in favor of Ruin?
I think it means that the Simplified game isn't what they want to finish. Sure, they could patch out the bugs that are still left in 1.11, but why. They're working on the OG design (at least that's what this theory is trying to prove). The OG design is the game that they prefer to be working on. that's what's been taking their time. this is the version of the game that all that unused content was made for.
Ruin was announced May last year. I believe that when they announced it, it was mainly a strategy to keep the fans interested in them for as long as they needed to. I mean, the 'game' already came out so they have no more deadlines or anything. They could release any future stuff whenever they wanted to, but they still need their fanbase.
It's been a year since the Ruin announcement, and I genuinely believe that that was enough time for them to work simultaneously on both Ruin & OG Design. It's said that they only managed to almost-double their studio size in November 2022, but that still means that they had 6-7 months after that to work on both base and DLC, not including June.
So yeah, that's my theory.
The only thing that really kinda leads me to believe this isn't the case is the reveal of Help Wanted 2 which is apparently being released in late 2023 fsr? It discourages me because that means that they are comfortable working on projects other than Security Breach. I really hope they weren't too content with 1.11 of the base game... Help Wanted 2 revealed could also be a good thing as maybe they are getting more efficient with their new increased studio. or maybe it proves that they still have a problem with setting unrealistic deadlines for themselves.
anyways, if my theory is correct, then it leaves a small question; would the OG design be released alongside Ruin, or at some point in June to prep the fans and build up hype.
also, the reason Steel Wool has never made any sort of announcement for this OG design remake thing is because it was all part of a calculated plan they made when they realized they needed to make a simplified game years ago. The simplified game was just a front while they worked on making/fixing the OG design, meaning the OG design was kept under secretive wraps until it was fully ready to be revealed, in order to not build up too much unnecessary hype. I believe that the reveal of this OG design release will be happening soon, around the Ruin release.

------aafgggggghfijkgvkdfgch my theory is so biased and pitifully hopeful. i just really want the OG design to be real and worked on. i would be so disappointed if the base game was just left alone the way it was. i dont think the ruin dlc could possibly be enough to make the 40 dollar game worth it on its own.
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2023.06.01 08:24 MrChilliBean I'm getting stuck obedience training someone else's dog.

My parents recently bought a new puppy half a year after our previous dog passed away. This new pup is adorable, for sure, but he's such a little bastard. I know, that's just how pups are, I could deal with that for the most part. My problem is his training has fallen to me, even though getting the dog wasn't my choice.
I've been trying my absolute best. He had trouble settling down at night, so I did some research and found that getting a crate would be beneficial. It has been. Toilet training him outside was difficult, so I did some research and found taking him out at regular periods on a lead would help. It did. He kept finding things around the house that he shouldn't be chewing on, so I started shutting all the bedroom doors so he wouldn't wander and it's done wonders. When we left him home the first time I suggesting getting him something to chew on to distract him, and when we got home he wasn't crying, he hadn't chewed on anything in the room we left him in, he was fine.
But because he gets easily distracted on walks and carries on if he's not going the direction he wants to go, I'm not doing enough. ITS NOT MY DOG.
This is a familiar pattern with my family where they get pets, but caring for them falls to me. My mum a while back bought lorikeets without doing any research into them whatsoever, then complained that they were too noisy, they needed too much attention, she didn't have the space for them, etc. So because I own some birds, she dumped them on me until "she could find something better". That took almost a year. When our cat became old and incontinent, it was me who had to clean up after him, me who had to take him to the vet, me who had to research what we could do to help.
Back to the dog, I'm mainly getting frustrated because everyone else is teaching him tricks. Shake hands, speak, roll over, that sort of thing. That's great and all, but am I wrong in thinking obedience training should come before all that? Shaking hands is cute and all, but I'd prefer if he didn't try to jump on every single person we pass in the street, often frightening them. Again, I know he's a puppy, but these cute tendencies can quickly turn into bad habits once he reaches adulthood.
I'm rambling, and I'll probably delete this in a bit, but I'm just so frustrated right now. I work from home, but have been struggling to do so when almost every waking moment has been spent babysitting and training, because on the weekend everyone else is only interested in teaching him cute tricks.
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2023.06.01 08:23 asting00 Make me feel better about choosing Auburn

Over the past month I've been ridiculed by relatives, friends, and teachers because i picked Auburn over UCLA, I made a post last week that i deleted in the ApplyingtoCollege and I was kinda getting clowned on. I mean my parents are happy because I'm staying close to home and it's cheaper but I kinda feel like I made a mistake because UCLA is a great school I mean it's the #1 public school in the country and the opportunities post grad is endless over there. Plus Westwood is absolutely beautiful. Idk maybe I'm just letting others affect my thinking way too much and I'll admit that my enthusiasm about going to Auburn has been a bit down as of late
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2023.06.01 08:23 Basedscarf Possible overlap between The Pixar Nest and Mort Theory (FEET = BNL, Ratatouille is the center of both universes)

The Pixar Nest nearly fell through due to Horst. Theorizer mentions that Horst realized that something was off, killing the CEO of BNL and creating a hole in the ozone layer over France and robbing a bank
We also know the importance France holds in the DreamWorks theory. It can be seen as the stronghold and origin of FEET itself
Here is where things tie in. Horst was capable of killing a man with his thumb: This connects to forced-evolution and strength. We also know Remy is capable of cooking: This connects with intelligent animals rising up slowly, as the other rats begin to help Remy with his cooking. I'd also like to note that Skinner is short, likely showing that Pixar is in the later stages of the Sky Gods' assimilation if humans grow weaker and are forced harder at the end of the timeline. Horst, also causing a hole in the ozone layer, would show supernatural or intense capabilities from one man or his actions
These are all motifs that point to something relating to Mort or The Sky Gods all at once. It's likely that Skinner only was against Remy cooking and was suspicious because he wanted to end another intelligent beast from rising up. The restaurant at the end might have even been shut down not for contamination issues but because FEET wanted Remy gone, using contamination as a cover-up (Remy also is shown to be clean and is smart enough to wash his hands) Horst was not as aggressively against Remy. This could be why he killed the CEO of BNL and tried to destroy their funds. These funds would also be the one thing holding them together, besides The Sky Gods blessing them with divine supernatural powers, as they would require proper advancements to evolve themselves or exterminate animals (and remember, we see a short exterminator as well located in France). Due to being the closest to intelligent animals yet likely a member of FEET, he would be chased as a rouge member. Remember, someone like Dubois is above the law. The fact Horst was arrested means that FEET might have bailed him out with ease (and money). But after realizing that France can move forward with intelligent animals like Remy, he killed their CEO with his bare thumb, using force-evolved brutal tactics
He then would've tried to drain their funds, which would include funds for weapons like the ones that Dwayne used that was hinted ar being used to kill Mort. This could explain the hole in the ozone, perhaps it was used as a last-ditch effort against a rouge footman who was trained to kill a man with his thumb
Another few details I noticed are things like Remy being a four-letter named rodent like Mort (hinting at a future host from another universe?), the themes of cooking that don't hint at sacrificial food yet, and that other connected universes could tie in well. We see intelligent animals in Up (the dogs, and we can add that Charles Muntz is quite well at fighting for an old man who lived in isolation AND whose only job was to HUNT a specific animal), Finding Nemo, and we see memetic control through BNL's alleged plans to air Buzz Lightyear cartoons. And consider how much music also ties into movies like Ratatouille, as well as France's culture itself. Maybe they're honing in power from The Sky Gods even further. FEET could even be trying to use BNL to destroy the Monsters' society in Monsters Inc because they fall under the category of intelligent Beasts
Here is what I think is happening: Along the events of the later DreamWorks universe, FEET reached out to another multiverse to anchor themselves in another France. This is BNL, and this is their back-up plan or practice of sorts. They are also trying to rebel against intelligent animals, evolving humans and creating the Supers we see, using memetic control via Easter eggs and attacking the most powerful and intelligent beasts ever: Monsters. However, one of their footman sided with yet another rodent of intelligence with four letters in their name. At the heart of France itself, this footman tried to remove every back up plan they had to collapse their corporation. However, this forced FEET to work harder, cementing themselves into the multiverse. This is because if FEET isn't native to Pixar and they go completely broke, they also cannot fight back in their home DreamWorks universe, losing to Mort. This is why their endgame DOES show lazy, fat, short humans, but also a lack of any intelligent animals. Any that exist, exist through the Monsters Inc universe that they use for energy. They exploit these intelligent animals as well, such as the giraffe too, so they can travel back home if anything happens. Bridging the Pixar multiverse allows them to travel across it and back to DreamWorks with ease, using this experience and/or energy to finally defeat Mort by draining an entire multiverse dry This means FEET is at the top while BNL is the franchise they introduce into Pixar that takes over. BNL is merely a hand that FEET (ironically) uses to test their plans in a new multiverse
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2023.06.01 08:23 Planet-Dharma How to Awaken Faster in One Easy Step: Moving From Self to Service

How to Awaken Faster in One Easy Step: Moving From Self to Service

Moving from Self to Service

When we aren’t meditating or working, what are we doing? Too often we are focused on ego preferences – the food we like, the people we like, the movies we like or dislike. But moving one’s focus from self, to service, is fundamental to the deepening of enlightenment.
In this post we share how the greatest benefit to your awakening occurs when you strive to benefit other beings.

On the Spiritual Path, Yes First Work on You

When you initially come into the Dharma teachings, who you are is central to the practice. Therapeutic concerns—your emotional hang-ups, psychological defilements, clingings, and hatreds need to get sorted out.
But there’s a place quite soon into the teaching, two or three years later, when consciousness becomes more or less rooted in the wholesome -it’s more or less focused on growth, unfoldment, wisdom, compassion and so on.

Then, How do You Spend Your Energy?

Really it comes down to what do you do with your time. This is where karma yoga comes very much to the foreground.
You have your profession: you might be a tree planter, a businesswoman or a computer analyst. That’s where you’re focusing your practice when you’re at work. But then how are you spending your free time, how are you engaging with the world? What is your consciousness involved in when you’re not actually sitting / meditating?

Karma Yoga is a Vital Spiritual Practice

We think this is where karma yoga becomes very principal to the modern person’s development. Are you hanging out with friends in coffee shops talking about spirituality? Or are you cleaning the temple floor, sweeping the street or in some way using your realization of the nature of human struggle (dukkha) and the illusory nature of reality to actually benefit beings in your society?
This is where we begin to see the gap between more fully realized beings and beings who could be, but aren’t. It’s just how they spend that in-between time. I guess you could say its about what they’re dedicated to.

What’s Outside of the Meditation ‘Capsule’?

Meditation is excellent, but most of us don’t spend all our lives on retreat. When you leave retreat, then what? Formal practice is good, and important – but it’s in a kind of capsule. You get in this capsule, this contained environment, and meditate. And then when it’s over you go back out into the world.
You might still have a daily practice, but somehow the insights are gone because your action, your involvement, your actual engagement with life isn’t geared toward greater understanding and service.

Your Involvement with Life is to Bring Awakening into Your World

Your involvement with life is about bringing the Dharma, the awakening, in whatever guise you personally cloak it, into your world. Your action, your behaviour and your involvement with others will show the fruit of your meditation practice.
Active participation itself will bring you greater realization, much faster, than meditation practice alone.

Karma Yoga is for the Welfare of Beings

Karma yoga is the determination to foster the welfare of beings rather than just getting through social situations. This is what pulls the consciousness deeper and deeper, benefiting you, while bringing much more benefit to beings.
Look at people who have been on the path of awakening or in the Dharma for twenty, thirty, forty years. Their realization and understanding might be very similar, but the real difference between them is how they’ve chosen to serve.
Some practitioners focus on “my life, my world, what’s in it for me? do I feel like it? do I not feel like it?”. And then there are others who have gone beyond themselves in order to serve humanity in some way.
We encourage you to explore the practice of service, and to build the muscle of shifting the focus from one’s self to others. Not only it is incredibly rewarding, fruitful and liberating, but you get to benefit the planet and other beings. Yay!
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2023.06.01 08:23 wickedastrology actively ignoring how I truly feel

For context, it’s been nearly 10 months since I lost my ex boyfriend. Some days are definitely better than others, but I’m starting to realize how much I’ve been actively ignoring it. I know that I can’t allow myself to be devoured by my grief. I can’t let it completely derail my life, even though there’s a huge portion of my brain/soul/whatever the hell it is… that doesn’t have a grasp on what happened, that I lost the person I’ve loved the most in my entire life. For majority of the past few years because we were broken up and moving on from each other, I’ve convinced myself that I no longer cared or loved my ex… but now i can’t hide from that fact that I did love him and did nothing!! I think that’s why I’m ignoring it? It’s like I have all this grief for someone i lost, but also on top of it, I’m recognizing that I was constantly hiding my feelings I had about someone I could’ve maybe saved if I just admitted it to him. Of course I know that I couldn’t change his decision, but who knows…maybe I could’ve helped him feel like it wasn’t his own option… instead I was running away from him and being distant, when all I actually wanted to do and in reality was show him the love I’ve always had for him and would never be able to just throw away, no matter what sort of shit he put me through. The happiest moments I had with him are now the saddest.
It’s just really overwhelming and I don’t know how I’m gonna manage this the rest of my life. It was really hard for the first couple months but I feel like I made friends with the grief. But now it’s starting to turn into a super complex monster that reminds me of every bad decision I made and unspoken thought that I should’ve just told him. Today I couldn’t wrap my head around that I just have to continue becoming an adult. I have to continue on my life.. there’s no way to take him with me. He will forever be just somebody I was madly in love with when I was 17. He can’t be someone I can call up right now. He can’t be someone I enjoy my 20s with. Or my 30s. Or my 40s. Ect.
It’s hard being so intimate with someone and realizing in the worst way possible that they decided that their life wasn’t worth it anymore. I wish you could’ve seen yourself the way I see you!
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2023.06.01 08:22 DetectivePokeyboi Should I leave my friends?

I (21M) am a really really really bad person. I am narcissistic, sadistic, and extremely selfish. I make the lives of the people around me worse. Normally I would just push through this and just keep my friends because they are amazing and I feel happy being around them despite the pain I cause. However, 2 months ago me and my ex (19F) had an extremely messy break up. For the next few weeks I basically made my ex's life absolute hell. I would constantly text them through fake numbers and emails and everything basically just begging her to come back. It was really bad. I even went to her shifts at work and made a huge scene.
By the end of it, she ended up responding and messaged me saying that because of me they felt unsafe going to classes and work and just leaving their dorm in general. This made me realize how badly I have affected her life so I respected her wishes for the rest of the semester and didn't contact her. I didn't look at her socials, I have her number deleted so I wouldn't even be able to text her even if I wanted to, and I tried my best to stay away from her because I didn't want her to live her life in fear and I hate that I did something so vile and unforgivable.We both have the same mutual friends. Our friends all absolutely love her because she's a great person but I was the one who ended up keeping all the friends since she cut them off (idk if it is because of me or not). If my friends knew what I did then I know that they would all leave me which is fine its what I deserve.
I feel so immensely guilty about the entire situation. Its been over a month since I have tried to contact her or see any mention of her (I don't even know if she's alive I really really really hope she is but there is no way for me to know at this point :( ). This past 2 months, she's been pretty much all alone and I was the one left with friends that I didn't deserve.
I love my friends so much, but I love her more and she deserves them more than I do since she did nothing wrong and I don't deserve my friends at all. I wronged her so much I pretty much ruined an innocent person's life and am part of what is wrong with society. Should I leave all my friends so that she feels safer and has people to go back to? My other option is to transfer out of the school so that she wouldn't ever have to deal with me anymore but that's all really complicated.
Thanks for responding. In the mean time, I will work on not being such a terrible person so that no one else has to be hurt by me.
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2023.06.01 08:21 grundlesweat April and Darlene, the Rave Mamas

I love a wholesome rave story as much as the next guy, but I’m not so sure I believe. This is a “guy who’s fun at parties” post.
April and Darlene have a wonderful message to deliver— “you’re never too old to rave”. I agree 100%. Between 2009 and 2023, I’ve attended 13 EDCs, and will attend 13 hundred more if modern science permits.
Over my 13 years doing this, I’ve seen community members reach viral fame for their undeniable uniqueness. To name a few, we’ve got extraordinary shufflers like @ecruz_n, a guy who applies deodorant to unsuspecting ravers, and another who literally chugs sriracha in the crowd. Granted these are people who put effort into content creation and pushed themselves to get where they are, I find it odd that a story as sensational as April and Darlene’s hasn’t yet been told—by neither themselves nor others. I’m not saying I’ve seen every single post on Instagram ever, but I spend a pretty alarming amount of time on social media, and I’ve never heard of them.
To me, April and Darlene’s story (in all its high-production regalia) feels like a campaign to normalize geriatric raving. Perhaps now you’re feeling more comfortable with the idea of grabbing ol’ gran’ a GA+ next year? Maybe you’re picturing yourself at the basspod closing set with your great aunt Barb? Which, hey, I love the idea of—don’t get me wrong. I just don’t like being lied to, that’s all.
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2023.06.01 08:21 xkwex I’ve (27F) been feeling overwhelmed with my relationship with my bf (39M) lately.

We’ve been together for two years. Everything was good. We been thinking of getting a house and been on the conversation of having children ourselves. Everything seemed perfect.
But i’ve lost my sister recently due to an overdose and I haven’t been taking it well. I’ve lost weight, my sleep schedule has been fucked, and I haven’t been taking time for myself, or my bf.
My bf has been trying to encourage me to get into therapy. But I haven’t fully agreed on it. I told him I would get therapy.
Honestly, I feel like I have lost all motivation on this relationship. I’ve been feeling doubtful about the future. I don’t feel like I’m good enough for him and that he deserves better. I feel like I’m draining him of his happiness right now with my grief-ridden self. I feel like I’m too much for him.
Before everything I wanted to move away, he didn’t because he has a son (11M) and his job that he loves. But now he wants to move away with me to start anew (his son included) and I can’t help but feel guilt because it feels like he is only doing this because my sister died.
Is it alright for grief to make you feel less motivated in a relationship?
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2023.06.01 08:21 CharacterGloomy6426 Am I wrong for taking a heart react too seriously?

A single friend of mine (31m) met a person in October (31f) out of state on his travel job and got her number.
They started texting and in early December started talking on the phone. I asked him if he was romantically interested cause she was FB official “in a relationship” with another guy at the time.
He said yes and that the girl didn’t want to hurt the other guys feelings so he was giving her time to deal with it.
He travelled to her home and spent the last weekend of December with her and every opportunity after that.
Somewhere early January her FB official status with the other guy ended and near the end of January her and my friend became FB official. He has since moved up there (essentially in with her though still traveling for work).
I tried to gently suggest to him that it was weird she didn’t just break up with the other guy to begin with (before my friend started going up there) but he said he understood cause he’s done stuff like that in the past.
So cue to the present. This other guy was someone she had met in fb dating around the time she met my friend but she said she had gotten involved with the other guy because he lived nearby and she didn’t believe my friend when he had said he was going to move up there.
She has remained friends with this guy.
My friend is now saying that he wants to propose to this girl (which I think is awesome if it’s a good thing!)
But just this past week the other guy posted a pic of going to the beach and the girl heart-reacted along with some other (not obviously flirty but still…) comments.
I guess what I don’t get is what’s the point of staying “friends” with some stranger you met on a dating site when you are now with another guy?
But even that I can kinda get, but I can’t get past the heart react.
I will heart react to guys’ pics of them and their kids, and them and their girl/wife, but a heart react to a guy in that situation to a pic of him shirtless on a beach?
Even if it’s innocent it seems disrespectful to my friend. (He doesn’t know about it I only accidentally found out cause of my “people you may know”)
Am I reading too much into this?
I likely won’t say anything to him regardless cause he’s SO in love with this girl but it made me feel icky and I’m hoping it’s just cause I’m not a heart-reacting kinda person to shirtless dudes but anyone else would find it totally innocent.
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2023.06.01 08:21 Background-Face-7623 My partner (25nb) lied to me (24f) about who they met up with today.

For the sake of privacy I will be changing minor identifiable details (people involved frequent Reddit)
My partner(25nb he/they) and I (24f) have been in a relationship for a little less than a year (we hit a year in September) after we first split the previous year. We were in a serious relationship for 3 years and we originally split up because they believed I was too controlling and they wanted to be friends with whoever they wanted. I admit that I did not approve of their friends (group of 4) because I had only met them twice briefly during the 3 years we dated, and they were very different from us. They were the type of people who partied a lot in college and were always drinking/on drugs. My partner would become a completely different person from the person I knew when they were around their friends and my partner never wanted to bring me because “they have known them since they were kids and didn’t want me to feel left out because they have inside jokes.” I was hurt by this and would get a pit in my stomach every time my partner was with them. During our split all my friends came through for me for the most part except for my supposed best friend. She (now 22) had been private messaging my partner and when my partner expressed that they were upset over my behavior, she suggested that we split up. My partner ultimately agreed after going back and forth, and they dumped me the following week. My best friend kept all of this from me and acted supportive for a couple of days until she informed me that my partner had invited her to the beach with a couple of mutual friends. I begged her to not go as it had been 2 days since the split and I needed her support since I was the one who was dumped. She went anyways and didn’t answer any of my calls so in an angry teary rage, 22 year old me, blocked her number and instagram. This wasn’t the first time she had done something like this as at the beginning of our relationship she also kissed my partner “as a joke” and would constantly try to make me the third wheel. She would be mad anytime I touched him or he touched me and would wedge herself between us. I had finally snapped and if she was truly sorry she would’ve never gotten involved in the first place. She then proceeded to block me on everything else, from Snapchat to Gmail and went as far as to block me on MINECRAFT. She showed no remorse and I was heartbroken to have lost both my best friend and my partner within the same week. My partner and I eventually went from FWB to getting back together officially after a year. As far as I knew, my partner had not seen my ex best friend in almost a year and a half and when we first got back together, they promised not to see this person again. They have also since, parted ways with the friend group and we were on good terms. Fast forward to this year and I am over what this person did to me and my significant other. I think it’s in the past and while I have personally gotten over all of it, I have no intentions of pursuing a friendship with them We have many mutuals, so on occasion we are invited to the same gatherings. The times we have been invited to these gatherings and I’m able to make it, I haven’t seen her but I’m told she was invited. I just assume she still holds resentment but don’t care enough to look into it. My partner and I have different schedules, so we don’t see each other for more than a week for the time being. Yesterday I gave them a call after coming home from work, and they casually mention they are meeting up with 2 of our friends for a day trip out of state today. I’m thrown for a loop since my partner has a good memory and almost always lets me know what they are doing as soon as plans are made. It seemed strange so I made a small fuss over it and almost asked if I could come but I didn’t want to intrude on these plans since my partner likes the time alone with friends ands doesn’t really get out much. I had the day off so it seemed strange my partner didn’t ask me to come since we were both off and we usually spend those days together. The day of the trip arrives and I go about my day and occasionally check my partner’s location to see what they are up to so I can send short videos or thoughts that cross my mind. At first they are responsive. I decide to run errands and do a couple of more things including a quick therapy session. After my session I decide to scroll through Instagram and I notice my partner has posted an Instagram story. I open it and see both the friend they mentioned, but a blur of a 3rd person before the story ends. I replay it and hold down before it fully blurs and I see none other than my ex best friend. I don’t bother thinking and swipe up to reply “wow.” The more I sat and thought, the more I grew angry. They lied to me. I send them 2 more texts asking why they broke my trust and that they should come see me if they want any chance of repairing our relationship. I admit I could’ve worded it better but I was hurt and could not think straight. I didn’t hear back until hours later when my partner arrived home and was alone. I expressed my thoughts and they called me manipulative and selfish saying that they spend all their time with me and sees no problem in hanging out with other people. I tearfully explain that I’m more hurt about the lying, lack of communication, and the boundaries I set being broken. They reply back that they knew I would react this way and that it would’ve resulted in the same fight. I disagree and say that I should’ve been invited by them because I don’t trust her and while I am over what she did, I am not comfortable with my partner befriending someone who’s friendship broke us apart the first time. They then say they never get to go out with their friends and has missed out on previous outings because my bff was going to be there. I ask why they hadn’t communicated this to me and they told me that since they said no, it didn’t feel important. I feel that they resent me for it. I tell my partner that they can go out with friends but they are mutual friends and i feel as though this day trip could’ve easily involved me since another mutual had brought their girlfriend who was not part of the group. My partner then says the plans were made by our mutuals and when they found out ex best friend would be there, they knew I would tell them not to go so my partner chose to hide the people who were attending. We argue back and forth and I claim that I’m over this person and my partner says I’m not because of how I reacted and that our mutuals don’t know that so that’s why I wasn’t invited in the first place. I should be taking it up with the mutuals instead of taking it out on them. I communicate That I did last year during an event BFF and I were both invited to but bff chose to no longer attend. My partner says nothing and tells me they are tired and will see me tomorrow. I want to make things right and don’t want to make them feel as though I’m controlling but I also don’t feel comfortable with this friendship they want to pursue. I want to give them space to spend time with friends but they are my friends too and I see them less often than my partner. If it’s a large group outing I would like to be included as well. I would like for us to be able to compromise. Does anyone have advice on how to deal with this issue?
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2023.06.01 08:21 CardiologistUsed1103 masking??

ok so im 19 f and i have just recently, as of last week, been diagnosed with autism, my autism its very ,, light? (sorry english is nit my 1st language) and mostly only affects how i socialize, like my face is flat im bad with eye contact and dont emote much
i live with my aunt and we had the theory of me being autistic for almost a year now, and since that 1st "hey what if" to now, she says ive gotten worse, especially this week after my diagnosis. she says I've gotten worse at communicating, that my body language it's stiffer and that I'm using my diagnosis as a way to be rude to people and then excuse myself by saying "I'm autistic" I haven't made any conscious change to my personality as far as I can tell, but maybe I have?? I think I just, that I'm forgetting how to mask, cause I did it unconsciously I never learned how to do it and now when I wanna do it it just, doesn't work
has anyone else experienced this?
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2023.06.01 08:20 Beezlebublover 20 [M4F] Turkey/Istanbul – Searching For a New Friend<3

Hi there! Hope everyone's having a lovely day. I'm recently-turned 20 year old soon-to-be English Language and Literature student from Turkey, Istanbul. It's my first time posting here, so I'm honestly feeling a little pins and needles and I apologise if I seem to be prattling on. That being said, I'll try and be as straightforward as possible.
I'm by no means a pessimist, but lately I've been starting to feel vacant, bored and admittedly emptier than I ever have before. With stress of the upcoming university exam, overwhelming academic pressure, my family and other certain things all piling on top of each other; I'm led all the way here in search of some breath of fresh air.
I think what I'd like is some sort of company, a new person that I can get to know, talk, laugh and form some and any kind of friendship with. I can pretty much converse about anything and there really isn't a subject that'll make me shy out of a genuine conversation. I'm more than okay with starting off online and if we happen to click, end up taking things a little further like meeting up in person or whatever else we might feel comfortable doing at that time.
A little bit about me:
• I'm 5'9 (1'73 cm), weigh about 143.3 pounds (65 kilos) and I have long black hair that falls just slightly below my shoulders (Yes, you can braid it.) Though not always, I do like to kill time doing makeup or to occasionally paint my nails just for the hell of it.
• I listen to any and all kinds of music, though Dream Pop is definitely the jewel in the crown for me. Can't help but love Ethel Cain.
• I write here and there as a hobby and I absolutely ADORE reading. Some of my favorite writers happen to be: Cormac McCarthy, Virginia Woolf, Fyodor Dostoevsky and George Orwell.
• I LOVE horror & thriller movies, though I'm seriously a huge coward when it comes to actually watching them. Definitely the kind of person you'd catch covering his eyes 5-6 times throughout the entire movie 😭
• As "cheesy" as it may sound, I've gotten along better with girls than I have with guys my entire life, in both the romantic and social aspect, and I found that it's healthier for me that I stick by that. I just overall feel more comfortable around them.
• Though I don't like to make it my entire personality, I'm definitely left-leaning and have been an atheist since aged 10. Çomarlar siktir olup gidebilir yani ❤️
If you happen to be in the age range of 18-27, reside in Istanbul/Turkey and feel we might have a solid chance of getting along, do feel free to shoot me a DM in either English or Turkish. Introverted, venter, extroverted, alternative – no matter who you are, you won't be ghosted. <3
If you prefer or find it more comfortable to chat outside of Reddit, I also use Discord and Telegram so just lmk.
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2023.06.01 08:20 crab_balls Need tips for an 18 month old with no training yet and bad sleep habits, co-sleeping

Hello, father here.
My son is 18 months now and we've never sleep trained him. My wife and I are at our wits' end so I'd like to hear your advice.
Sleep situation:
He seems to have separation anxiety, even while awake. If my wife leaves his sight for even a moment he goes searching for her and cries if he can't find her. This seems to be getting a little bit better, but only if he is distracted by something like the TV or a new toy.
During the daytime he usually has a nap or two. Sometimes the nap is just 30-60 minutes (usually in the car), and sometimes it's a few hours in the bed. Kinda depends on if he will nap or not. My wife tries to keep him busy by taking him out and doing stuff, going to the park or play center. He whines if we try to force him to nap sometimes too.
We think the biggest problem is he won't eat. Ever since we started solid foods at 6 months he pretty much refuses to eat, and only eats a pitiful amount. This is still going on now at 18 months. We've talked to multiple doctors about it, but they all just say he's still (barely) within the boundaries of a healthy baby for his age, and he's energetic, so there's no cause for concern. He won't eat much for a snack either.
Anyway, since he won't eat much for dinner he's got to be absolutely starving, which is why we think he wakes up so much at night for breastfeeding. I feel like this is only part of the problem, but perhaps a big part of it.
I've read that for a toddler this age, the extinction method is recommended, but since they're co-sleeping it's not really an option. I suppose my wife could sleep in the next room with me instead, but what do you think? Is it worth trying, or are there better methods for his age?
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2023.06.01 08:20 Gianna37 My sister drank our expensive bottle of wine

I (27f) live with my sister (30f). My mom is dating a really great guy, Robert. Robert and I bonded over our interest in wine. I worked at a fine French resturant for awhile and particularly love French reds. My mom came to visit my sister and I bringing two bottles of Bordeaux from Robert that he had in his cellar. I looked up the bottles and one sells for $300 and the other $1,200. I will never be able to afford that. My mom and I decanted and started drinking the cheaper one and it was AMAZING. My sister (who doesn’t care about/know much about wine) came home and we poured her a small glass. I was talking about how delicious and expensive they were and how I wanted to save the other for a special occasion. She took one sip and spat it out.
So, a day earlier, the day her period was supposed to start, she took a test and found out she was pregnant, she told my mom and I (along with her boyfriend) just after she spat out the wine. She also said she was worried because she was bleeding a bit. The following day I left for a planned long weekend with friends 2hrs away.
More context: my sister just started trying to get pregnant the month before she actually got pregnant. I have a lot of worries about this relationship, but, I’m trying my best to be supportive. I texted her a lot over the weekend asking how she was doing. Turns out she was having a miscarriage.
So. I came home Tuesday and found the $1,200 bottle opened and half drunk. I was so upset. I texted her ‘are you fucking serious’ with a picture of the half-drunk bottle. She said she had been drinking all weekend, just had a miscarriage and wanted to taste it; since the bottles had been given to both of us and I had the 1st bottle, she had every right. (She later admitted that she opened it because she wanted to keep drinking and there was no other alcohol in the house). I think I’m more upset because she often dismisses my feelings and takes advantage of me in other ways. I told her she was a selfish AH who only thinks about other people’s feelings when it suits her. She said I was an insensitive POS.
Notes: 1) I drank the rest of the bottle, but it’d been open for 48h at that point and was basically ruined. 2) She doesn’t have a drinking problem, but occasionally drinks too much (same). 3) I’m not trying to be judgmental or downplay her feelings by mentioning it was ‘early’. I don’t want children, have never had a miscarriage and can’t imagine what that feels like.
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2023.06.01 08:19 KrazyK726 What band or artist would you consider a sellout ? Also who would you say never has

By sellout I don't mean a band or artist that has sold a lot of records or made a ton of money. By sellout I mean that they completely changed either as a person, their music, what they stand for, etc. I would say Jay Z but I really am questioning now if he was ever who he portrayed himself to be. On the other hand 50 cent has been the same guy as he has always been I think. No matter how much money he made or famous he got, he never seemed to take himself too seriously and would always call out and make fun of any rappers who did some stuff that didn't line up with the image that they were putting out there to the world
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2023.06.01 08:19 yaboiblackcheeseboi How worried should I be about my dad and his home infection?

M60, about six feet tall, weight unknown. He is on gabapentin as well as other medications I done know the name of. History of alcoholism, smoking cigarettes, drug abuse, and liver damage caused by hep C (I think.)
Three months ago he was hospitalized with necrotizing fasciitis that started in his arm. I don’t remember the exact bacteria but i remember it also being one found more commonly in toxic shock syndrome. It spread to his back/ chest and he had 9 surgeries to clean out the open wounds created and also to close them up. He did have a skin graft put onto his forearm because they took too much skin and couldn’t close it properly.
He nearly died, and was bed ridden for about a month in the ICU. Once he left the hospital, he was in a lot of pain and we chopped it up to not having access to heavy opioids anymore and the body healing. About three weeks ago I found him passed out and barely coherent on the bathroom floor along with a needle. He had tried to use heroin to help with the pain and the paramedics gave him narcan. He was sent back home the same night. 6 days later the same thing happened again but I found narcan I’m my house and was able to administer it.
A few days after this my dad was very out of it, hardly able to stay awake and my mom gave him narcan but he just threw up. Brought him to the hospital, they gave him more and he vomited again. This time at the hospital they found an infection in his back bones, but I’m not sure which or how many are affected. They also found 2 compression fractures in his spine.
I guess my questions are how serious is a bone infection? Is it easily treatable? Is there any chance this was leftover bacteria that wasn’t wiped out the first time? According to my mom the hospital prescribed a 6-8 week IV antibiotic course and he doesn’t seem to be getting worse or improving. Should I be worried about him passing?
I would appreciate any input.
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2023.06.01 08:18 KurtB2 It's a mess, I think.

Well I went and had a moment and said those magic three words to a man I've known for six years. Only problem, he's, "hanging" with another guy.
For context there was something there when we met though memory can be funny... but being 22 at the time, still unsure of my sexuality, and grieving a recent death of a first love. We became friends, I set that boundary. He just turned 40, not that the gap is a problem for me, context. But we would hangout sporadically when i was in town, visiting from the military and A bit more when I eventually moved back to the same city.
Just around the middle of covid, it finally clicked why I didn't really have much desire to date nor really clicking with guys i met, at first I figured it was still the grief, but I realized it was cause I wanted him. So there goes a year of trying to find the right time or way to say it an honestly not really seeing each other much. Life, blah, blah. An when i finally said eff it just do it. He's dating Or sorta, so he says.
And I held my tongue, until i couldn't.
Couple months later there I am telling him about my baggage and my feelings for him, in the most candid way I could manage, God I was shaking.
First words out of his mouth were "that's it?" If you know him its actually funny.
But ultimately he said he's always enjoyed spending time, and that we would make more, but he didn't know how he felt right now. if I had to describe his demeanor he seemed plesantly surprised.
I took that for what it was. Now weeks later, he's canceled on a tentative plan. With no raincheck in sight, And made note to tell me he's "hanging" with the guy why his verbiage changed I dunno.
I dropped the love bomb like the big dummy I am and now I'm in some weird limbo with this man.
Should I stay, should I go? Or should I just shut the heck up and be patient, the anxiety is out in droves tonight
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