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2023.06.07 08:38 hnqn1611 TOP 10 Things to do in LISBON - [2023 Lisboa Travel Guide]

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Here are our top 10 picks:
Number 10: Belém Tower The Belem Tower, part of UNESCO World Heritage, is one of the most recognizable tourist attractions in Lisbon. Built in the 16th century, it was considered the gateway to the nation’s capital, strategically located at the mouth of the Tagus River. It was initially built as a fort to protect the city from incoming raids along the river. The tower is also a symbol of Europe’s Age of Discovery, also known as Age of Exploration, a period in the 15th and 16th century where some European nations, including Portugal, began exploring and conquering the world. Did you know that the tower once stood on an island, but the earthquake of 1755 shifted the river’s course, moving the island closer to land? Don’t skip nearby attractions including the statue celebrating the Portuguese Age of Discovery, and Waterfront Promenade Belém with a fantastic view towards the beautiful 25 de Abril bridge
Number 9: Old-style forms of public transportation In the late 18-hundreds and the beginning of 20th century, Lisbon came up with several ingenious transportation solutions to help locals and visitors tackle the city’s steep hills and enjoy its magnificent sights. Trams are a popular way to ger around the city, nowadays especially amongst tourists. These small nostalgic streetcars have been a part of Lisbon’s streets since 1901. Ride the renowned tram number 28 that passes through the old city and other famous parts of Lisbon. By the way, did you know that before 1901 trams ran as a horsecar line, but due to Lisbon’s steep slopes, the horses were eventually replaced by a more efficient cable-driven transport. Funiculars are another fun way to explore Lisbon. Ascensor do Lavra, city’s first funicular, was inaugurated in 1884. There are others, like Elevador da Glória famous for its colorful street art, or Bica funicular that will take you through the picturesque part of the city. Ride the neo-Gothic vertical lift Elevador de Santa Justa connecting downtown and Chiado, or take advantage of the modern ones, like Lift Castelo.
Number 8: Castel of Saint George Castel of Saint George, initially surrounded by a wall to form a citadel, is now an iconic historical complex that played an essential role in the history of Lisbon. The fortification dates back to the 1st century AD and was occupied by different civilizations, however, the area was inhabited long before. The site was eventually conquered from the Moors by the Portuguese military action in the 1147 Siege of Lisbon. In the 13th century, the castle became a fortified residence for the kings. Today, visitors can enjoy a walk-through of castle’s expansive grounds that include the ruins of the royal palace, a permanent exhibition with objects found in the archaeological area, and several platforms with amazing panoramic views of the city and other attractions. Of course, you cannot miss funny and loud peacocks roaming around the castle complex, a sort of unofficial castle permanent residents. Check our Lisbon walking tour to get the real feel of the castle and the entire city. The link is in the description. https://amzn.to/43uwwz0
Number 7: Mercado da Ribeira and other food destinations One does not fully explore Lisbon without tasting the city’s unique cuisine. Mercado da Ribeira is one of Lisbon’s oldest markets and has been around since the 13th century. From the early beginning, the market has undergone several upgrades. The market hall, which features iron interiors and a large oriental dome, was opened in 1882. The area is divided into the traditional market that sells fresh produce and a modern food hall with over 30 stalls and bars serving top-notch Portuguese cuisine as well as food from other parts of the world. In 2014, the Time Out Market, a venture of Time Out magazine, took over the food hall part of Mercado da Ribeira. Don’t skip other markets and food destinations across the city, like the bohemian Lx Factory situated in an old textile factory complex, now full of trendy bars and restaurants, quirky shops, independent art studios and Livraria Ler Devagar — one of the most unique bookstores in the world. Walk around cobblestone streets, sit down in one of many bars or restaurants, and soak up the atmosphere. Explore Alfama and other districts with traditional taverns and restaurants, some even offering live fado, a unique genre of music that originated in Lisbon. Check our travel guide for more suggestions. By the way, our mobile-friendly travel guide covers the top 20 things to do in Lisbon and things to know before you visit, including maps, opening hours, links to buy tickets, itinerary suggestions, and other information. By purchising our travel guide, you are also helping us sustain this channel, so a big thank you for that!
Number 6: Carmo Convent Built in the 14th century, Carmo Convent used to be the largest church in Lisbon. But the Great Earthquake of 1755 destroyed the building, along with much of the city. Today, visitors can admire its grand arches and the carvings on the walls that have survived for centuries. A small archeological museum located at the sacristy features archeological finds from Portuguese history, including fountains, tombs, and architectural relics from different styles and areas. The museum also features a 15-minute interactive video projection describing the convent’s history.
Number 5: Lisbon Zoo No matter your age, a trip to the zoo will always be fun and memorable, and especially so at the Lisbon Zoo. The zoo founded in 1884, is the first park with various flora and fauna in the Iberian Peninsula. Today, Lisbon Zoo is home to over 2,000 animals from 300 different species from all over the globe, including dolphins, tigers, reptiles, primates, and other animals. The mission of the zoo is also scientific research, conservation and breeding of endangered species, along with the recreational activities. Embark on a unique adventure and explore the zoo from a different perspective and jump on a fascinating 20-minutes cable car ride.
Number 4: Museum of Art, Architecture, and Technology Visit The Museum of Art, Architecture, and Technology or MAAT opened in 2016. As the name suggests, it is home to exhibitions in art, architecture, and technology. Its distinct design stands out, with its prominent location on the banks of the River Tagus. The museum’s rooftop offers a fantastic views of the 25 de Abril bridge and the city. Instead of permanent collections, visitors can explore temporary exhibits by contemporary artists, and other creators like architects, both national and international. Don’t skip Tejo Power Station, situated in a former thermoelectric power plant, now a permanent exhibition venue. Lisbon has a long and rich history, and this is reflected in its numerous museums. Check our travel guide for more suggestions.
Number 3: Jerónimos Monastery Construction of this massive monastery and a church for the Order of Saint Jerome began in 1501 but was not completed for another 100 years. Jerónimos Monastery replaced the old church used by monks providing assistance to sailors in transit. The monastery is a prime example of Manueline architectural style from the 16th century. This Portuguese late Gothic style originated in the Portuguese Renaissance and Age of Discoveries. The style incorporates richly decorated maritime elements carved in limestone discovered on expeditions of Vasco da Gama and Pedro Álvares Cabral. Stroll along the two-story cloisters and the Church of Santa Maria, and it will be easy to understand why Jerónimos Monastery is considered a symbol of Portugal’s immense wealth during the Age of Discoveries. The monastery, now a UNESCO World Heritage Site, is also a burial place of King Manuel I, and other prominent figures, like the famous Portuguese explorer Vasco da Gama. Did you know that the recipe for the world-renowned Portuguese custard tarts known as pastéis de Nata also called pastéis de Belém was created by the monks of Jerónimos Monastery? This video is sponsored by Beeyond, helping you save space when you travel and organize your suitcase. A revolutionary new way to organize your luggage consists of a set of small and large packing cubes. Once you’re done packing, just close both zippers, compress the air out of your packing cubes like this, and voila, your clothes are compressed, and your luggage is organized. We use Beeyond packing cubes on our travels, and they are even designed to fit your carry-on. Visit Beeyond’s Amazon page to get your own compression packing cube set. The link is in the description.
Number 2: Oceanário de Lisboa Oceanário de Lisboa is the largest indoor aquarium in Europe, home to over 16,000 marine animals and plants from 450 different species, including sandtiger sharks, cute sea otters, funny penguins, and other fascinating animals. Walk around this unique aquarium and experience four different natural habitats and learn about animal life in their natural environment through information panels. The oceanarium’s main exhibit is a large tank with glass panel windows strategically placed in various aquarium parts, creating a unique visual experience. Oceanário de Lisboa is just one of the famous landmarks located in Parque das Nações, the former site of Expo ’98. While in the Expo district, admire the majestic Vasco da Gama bridge, the longest bridge in Europe, or the beautiful Torre Vasco da Gama. Hop on the cable car to get a nice view of the entire district.
Number 1: Commerce Square Praça do Comércio or Commerce Square, overlooking the Tagus River, served as a transportation and commercial hub, and is now the seat of some of the most important Portuguese state offices. Walk along Cais das Colunas or Ribeira das Naus to enjoy a historic waterfront area. One of the most famous attractions in the square is Arco da Rua Augusta, a stone building commemorating the city’s reconstruction after the earthquake in 1755.
Climb the arch to enjoy spectacular views of the square and the city. The arch entrance reveals Lisbon’s main pedestrian area, Rua Augusta, a bustling street full of shops and restaurants. The nearby Rossio Square has been one of the main squares in Lisbon since the Middle Ages. Sit down in one of many cafes or restaurants, like the historic Café Nicola, and admire traditional Portuguese pavement style “calçada” and the plaza’s baroque fountains and neoclassical architecture. And here is the bonus that we promised. If you have some time left, explore Almada district with Cristo Rei National Sanctuary, a favorite destination for those looking to spend some quiet time with breathtaking views towards the river and the city. If you find it familiar, it’s because it resembles the Christ the Redeemer statue of Rio de Janeiro. Thank you for watching. We wish you an amazing trip to Lisbon!

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2023.06.07 08:36 Ok_Experience_3677 I brought back a kitten to where i found it, how to deal with guilt?

Yesterday in the morning i found a kitten alone, he was mewing very loudly and was relatively close to the street (about 5-10 meters), so i brought him home and wanted to keep him. When i got home my mother started to act hysterically and saying i should take him back and leave him on the street. I begged her to let me keep him until i found someone who can take care of him, but then she got angry and ofcourse started to to talk about how her life is miserable and it's my and my brothers fault. (I also felt guilty for not anticipating this kind of reaction, my mom is usually a nice person, but has a lot of moments where she just sneps if something trigers her, I don't know why i always forget that)
Then i read that the kitten maybe wasn't abandoned, but the mother just left him while she searches for food. Then i started to feel guilty that i moved a kitten from a good and normal environment unnecessarily, while also not being able to keep him because of my parents.
I planed to bring him back the next day to where i found him and see if the mother will take him back, there are also some other cats in the neighborhood and people that take care of them, so i hoped that at least someone will take care of him.
I was forced to bring him back in the evening, i left him in front of someones house, and went today at 5am to see if his okey, but he wasn't there and the box was still in the place i left him but turned ower and the hoodie i left him in was outside the box, so I'm assuming that he didn't leave alone, and I'm hoping that a cat took him.
I can't stop thinking about everything i did wrong and what I could have done differently to make his life better. I feel i just made his life harder even though i wished the opposite. I can't stop imagining all the scenarios that could have played out after i left him and I can't stop thinking that he can be dead and it could have been prevented if i just let him be.
I just wish that i can know where he is and what really happened, is he alive or not, beacuse I can't stop thinking about it and feeling guilty. I didn't eat yesterday and slept for 3 hours. I can look for him every day because i work near by, so maybe I'll meet him when he grows a little (i think he's around 3-4 weeks old, he has fangs and can walk and play and groom himself) if he isn't dead.
I wanted to get this out and ask someone for an opinion because I don't know how to deal with the guilt.

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2023.06.07 08:36 11cat Calm breeds to help with mental health challenges?

Introduction
1) Will this be your first dog? If not, what experience do you have owning/training dogs?

First dog as an independent adult. I have experience in my early teens refining a senior lab's super basic obedience skills (sit, lay down, etc), and in my late teens/early 20s training a golden retriever from 8 weeks onward in obedience.

2) Do you have a preference for rescuing a dog vs. going through a reputable breeder?

I'm a little torn on this. I would prefer to go to a breeder to know what I'm getting with temperament, health, know the parents, know what the first 8 weeks looked like, etc, and to get the dog at a young age so that I can be their primary training influence and acclimate them to my cat early. But I wouldn't be opposed to finding a unicorn rescue dog either.

3) Describe your ideal dog.

A mostly calm dog that is loving and loyal. A dog that would be happy to go for long nature walks, play in the yard and house, and cuddle on the couch. I'd like them to be bonded closely with me. Protective but not aggressive. Low prey drive and/or socialized with my cat from a young age. A dog that is trainable, eager to learn and please, and enjoys having a job to do. I'm hoping to owner-train some psychiatric service tasks (will never be able to afford pro SD training) so it's important to me that the dog be in tune with me and my emotions and have the ability to occasionally be a grounding, bombproof presence. I'm also a big sucker for a fluffy dog.

4) What breeds or types of dogs are you interested in and why?

Medium to large dogs. I feel drawn to a large, sturdy dog. I'm looking for a breed that will not become/stay anxious if I am anxious. Some breeds I am interested in: Rough collie, German shepherd, golden retriever, Labrador retriever, Shetland sheepdog, cocker spaniel, beagle. I fantasize about having a St. Bernard, Old English sheepdog, or Bernese Mountain dog, but I don't think those are realistic options for me.

5) What sorts of things would you like to train your dog to do?

Obedience, being able to walk calmly on a leash, travel well in a car, be calm when faced with other dogs or when faced with strange or new things. Owner-training psychiatric service tasks like interruption of anxiety behaviors, alerting to anxiety, deep pressure therapy. I would also love to try agility someday, but that's not a priority right now.

6) Do you want to compete with your dog in a sport (e.g. agility, obedience, rally) or use your dog for a form of work (e.g. hunting, herding, livestock guarding)? If so, how much experience do you have with this work/sport?

Maybe agility someday. I have no experience with it.

Care Commitments
7) How long do you want to devote to training, playing with, or otherwise interacting with your dog each day?

As much as it needs. I have a lot of time flexibility in my life right now, so I think I could dedicate as little or as much time as my dog would need. Training: it would depend on the dog, enough time to learn/reinforce training, but not so much that the dog gets overwhelmed and distracted. I'm open to whatever works best for the individual dog. Playing: however long it takes until the dog is all played out and happy. :) Interacting: I'm looking for a companion dog, so I would be interacting with it in some capacity most of the day, every day.

8) How long can you exercise your dog each day, on average? What sorts of exercise are you planning to give your dog regularly and does that include using a dog park?

It depends. I'm at a point in life where my schedule is flexible, so I can be flexible to my dog's needs. If a 30 minute walk a day and some time playing in the yard or house suffices, we'll do that. If the dog requires an hour long energy-burning walk and some more intensive play, I can manage that too. I don't see myself bringing my dog to a dog park. Chances are unless the dog is in my house or fenced yard, I would prefer them on a long leash at the very least.

9) How much regular brushing are you willing to do? Are you open to trimming hair, cleaning ears, or doing other grooming at home? If not, would you be willing to pay a professional to do it regularly?

I'm willing to brush as often as the dog needs. Same goes for trimming hair, claws, cleaning ears. I'd be willing to pay a professional to do any grooming/maintenance I may find myself unable to do, but my preference is to figure out what my dog's needs are and then take care of my dog myself.

Personal Preferences
10) What size dog are you looking for?

Medium or large. I'm not interested in small or toy breeds, and I don't feel equipped to handle a dog over 100 lbs.

11) How much shedding, barking, and slobber can you handle?

Shedding: I have a black and white medium hair cat, I lost that battle long ago lol. I'm fine with hair and shedding. Barking: My preference would be less barking, or a dog that can be trained to be quiet/stop barking on command. Slobber: Would prefer minimal-to-none, but it's not a deal breaker.

12) How important is being able to let your dog off-leash in an unfenced area?

Not important to me. I'd prefer my dog to either be in a secure area, or under my control on a leash.

Dog Personality and Behavior
13) Do you want a snuggly dog or one that prefers some personal space?

Absolutely a snuggly dog.

14) Would you prefer a dog that wants to do its own thing or one that’s more eager-to-please?

Eager to please.

15) How would you prefer your dog to respond to someone knocking on the door or entering your yard? How would you prefer your dog to greet strangers or visitors?

I'd like them to be aware of our surroundings and bark/alert to knocking or someone entering the yard. Greeting strangers: ultimately I want a dog that is not afraid of or aggressive towards strangers, but any reaction from aloof to happy go lucky meeting strangers is fine with me.

16) Are you willing to manage a dog that is aggressive to other dogs?

No, this is something I would have a difficult time with. Some barking would be fine, but anything like reactivity or wanting to attack is not behavior I would be able to manage.

17) Are there any other behaviors you can’t deal with or want to avoid?

Any behavior that would stress or endanger my cat like chasing or aggression. Also, I'm not equipped to deal with a reactive, very anxious, or aggressive dog.

Lifestyle
18) How often and how long will the dog be left alone?

Less than 3 hours at a time, around 2-4 times a week. I WFH, I'm looking forward to finding a dog I can have around me most of the time and bring with me when I go to visit family nearby.

19) What are the dog-related preferences of other people in the house and what will be their involvement in caring for the dog?

I'm the only person in the house.

20) Do you have other pets or are you planning on having other pets? What breed or type of animal are they?

I have a 10 year old cat that is pretty mellow and affectionate. She basically thought my old golden retriever was her dog, they got along great.

21) Will the dog be interacting with children regularly?

22) Do you rent or plan to rent in the future? If applicable, what breed or weight restrictions are on your current lease?

I own my home, n/a.

23) What city or country do you live in and are you aware of any laws banning certain breeds?

USA, no laws in my town banning breeds that I am aware of, but I am also not interested in the breeds of dogs that are commonly banned.

24) What is the average temperature of a typical summer and winter day where you live?

Summer, 85-95°F. Winter, 25°F.

Additional Information and Questions
25) Please provide any additional information you feel may be relevant.

Not interested in small, toy, or brachycephalic breeds, for the most part, although I'm open to hearing if you have one in mind that sounds like a good match. I am aware of the fab 4 when it comes to service dogs and have experience with a lab and a golden. Neither were trained for any SD tasks though.

26) Feel free to ask any questions below
*I am in treatment long term for anxiety and PTSD. I have wanted a dog consistently over the past 2 years, but I worry that introducing a dog into my life could be either a really good thing, or a really bad thing (fear of being unable to step up/push through my Stuff and care for the dog the way they deserve) so I am trying to think through every single angle of this before I commit and bring a dog into my home. I love animals and I know it would bring a light into my life right now to have a dog's unconditional, non-judgemental love and companionship again, and to get into a daily routine for the dog's sake, as I've been unable to do so for myself. I take better care of my cat than myself, and the same would go for a dog, absolutely. I feel the level of care a dog requires could benefit my recovery process, especially if I am able to train the dog to help me with my symptoms and be a reason to get out of bed/out of the house. So if anyone has experience-- positive or negative-- with getting and/or training their dog to help with your mental health issues, I would love to hear how it went for you. I'm also open to any general feedback, or gentle corrections if I am misinformed or misguided about anything I've written here. Thanks for reading!

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2023.06.07 08:35 ashley2023123 New MacBook Air: The Perfect Blend of Style and Performance

MacBook Air :

M1 Chip: The MacBook Air is powered by the Apple M1 chip, which delivers incredible performance and efficiency. It combines the CPU, GPU, and neural engine into a single chip, offering faster processing, improved graphics, and enhanced machine learning capabilities.
Retina Display: The MacBook Air features a stunning 13.3-inch Retina display with True Tone technology. The high-resolution screen provides sharp text, vibrant colors, and excellent contrast, making images and videos come to life.
Thin and Lightweight Design: With its sleek and slim design, the MacBook Air is incredibly portable. It weighs just under three pounds and measures only 0.63 inches at its thickest point, making it easy to carry wherever you go.
Magic Keyboard: The MacBook Air is equipped with Apple's Magic Keyboard, which features a refined scissor mechanism for a comfortable and precise typing experience. The keyboard is also backlit, allowing you to work in low-light environments with ease.
Touch ID: The MacBook Air includes a Touch ID sensor built into the keyboard, enabling secure and convenient authentication. You can use your fingerprint to unlock your MacBook Air, make secure online purchases, and authorize app installations.
macOS Big Sur: The MacBook Air comes preloaded with macOS Big Sur, the latest operating system from Apple. It offers a refreshed design, new features, and improved performance, allowing you to work seamlessly and efficiently.
All-Day Battery Life: The MacBook Air is designed to last all day on a single charge. With its energy-efficient components and optimized software, you can enjoy up to 15 hours of web browsing or up to 18 hours of video playback.
Thunderbolt/USB 4: The MacBook Air is equipped with Thunderbolt/USB 4 ports, which provide fast data transfer speeds and support for external displays, storage, and other peripherals. You can connect multiple devices and expand your workflow capabilities.
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2023.06.07 08:33 ashley2023123 New MacBook Air: The Perfect Blend of Style and Performance

MacBook Air :

M1 Chip: The MacBook Air is powered by the Apple M1 chip, which delivers incredible performance and efficiency. It combines the CPU, GPU, and neural engine into a single chip, offering faster processing, improved graphics, and enhanced machine learning capabilities.
Retina Display: The MacBook Air features a stunning 13.3-inch Retina display with True Tone technology. The high-resolution screen provides sharp text, vibrant colors, and excellent contrast, making images and videos come to life.
Thin and Lightweight Design: With its sleek and slim design, the MacBook Air is incredibly portable. It weighs just under three pounds and measures only 0.63 inches at its thickest point, making it easy to carry wherever you go.
Magic Keyboard: The MacBook Air is equipped with Apple's Magic Keyboard, which features a refined scissor mechanism for a comfortable and precise typing experience. The keyboard is also backlit, allowing you to work in low-light environments with ease.
Touch ID: The MacBook Air includes a Touch ID sensor built into the keyboard, enabling secure and convenient authentication. You can use your fingerprint to unlock your MacBook Air, make secure online purchases, and authorize app installations.
macOS Big Sur: The MacBook Air comes preloaded with macOS Big Sur, the latest operating system from Apple. It offers a refreshed design, new features, and improved performance, allowing you to work seamlessly and efficiently.
All-Day Battery Life: The MacBook Air is designed to last all day on a single charge. With its energy-efficient components and optimized software, you can enjoy up to 15 hours of web browsing or up to 18 hours of video playback.
Thunderbolt/USB 4: The MacBook Air is equipped with Thunderbolt/USB 4 ports, which provide fast data transfer speeds and support for external displays, storage, and other peripherals. You can connect multiple devices and expand your workflow capabilities.
Advanced Security Features: Along with Touch ID, the MacBook Air includes other security features such as secure boot, hardware-encrypted storage, and on-the-fly data encryption, ensuring that your data is protected.
High-Quality Camera and Audio: The MacBook Air features a 720p FaceTime HD camera, delivering sharp and clear video for your video conferencing needs. The three-microphone array provides improved audio capture for clear voice recordings an

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2023.06.07 08:32 Sunlightmemories2 F24 M28

Should we break up?
I’ve been with my partner almost 3 years now and we’ve lived together 2 of them. In the last 2 years I’ve uncovered multiple things about them that most people would find deal breakers and leave. I’ve stuck with them through financial hardships, emotional hardships , accepted every part of them good and bad with open arms. Recently we were talking about marriage and my partner always said they wanted to wait 5 years to get married , which whatever , felt long but it’s already been 3. Recently they told me they wanted to possibly wait 5 more years before marriage. That upset me because I have an idea of how I want my life to go , marriage and children wise and I’m not willing to wait 8 years. I know for some it doesn’t matter but it hurt me that my partner didn’t feel confident in our relationship after everything we’ve been through. They are worried I will leave them when I’ve done nothing but prove to them I’d stay even when most wouldn’t. To me it just felt heartbreaking to hear they weren’t confident but couldn’t give me any real reason why. I guess I just wonder if the relationship is really worth it if he doesn’t feel confident in where we are after 3 years.

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2023.06.07 08:29 MBTHVSK I have eaten chain pizza about 5 times in my life. No thank you.

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2023.06.07 08:27 lostinthemoss1 He’s moving too fast for me, and I haven’t told him yet.

I (23X) have known this guy (23M) through a shared discord server with for a little over a year. We’ve interacted a bunch through group calls and occasionally one on one (specifically about the game the server is based around) and about two months ago, we started hanging out outside of talking about the game. Sometime around here, we started talking about him coming to visit me and my friend who is also on the server. I was very enthusiastic about it.
After a bit he confessed that he had feelings for me. I didn’t feel the same at the time but really appreciated him as a friend so we kept hanging out. Something shifted in the way I saw him and we started talking every day and flirting. I eventually told him I had feelings for him too, but because he lives on the other side of the country, I didn’t know what to do about it. He said he’s no stranger to LDRs. I said I just want to take it slow and keep doing what we’re doing and not label it.
I was so happy about finally confessing to him but here is where things get a little more complicated.
When I said I wanted to keep doing what we’re doing, I meant talking a lot, lightly flirting. But he became immediately much more affectionate. I appreciated a lot of it because I don’t get compliments or romantic attention much, but in terms of our beginning relationship it’s too much too soon.
I’m such an anxious person and a doormat. I wanted to tell him a few days into it, “this is too fast for me”. But I didn’t. Partly because of being a people pleaser, partly because I really do like him, and I didn’t want to disappoint him or make things awkward between us, and mainly because I couldn’t yet put my finger on what specifically was too much at this point.
At one point he used some pet names for me over text and I said that was just too soon for me, which he reacted fine to. But that was much easier for me to say because it was a smaller, more specific problem rather than a general thing of “going too fast”. It’s not like I want him to stop complimenting me, but he told me I’m his favorite person. And I lied and said it back to him because I didn’t want him to feel bad, but my favorite person is my sibling whom I’ve known almost my entire life, not a guy I’ve known online for a year!
He said he already wanted to move to my part of the country before he met me, but that now it’ll be so nice to be with me in person. As nice of a thought as that is, as much as I do want to date him in person, we’ve been talking for three weeks! Who says that at this point! And I completely failed us both by saying yes I do want to see you in person, giving him the idea that I’m comfortable with this type of… devotion? when we’ve never even met.
Now he says our one month anniversary is in a week. It’s true that a month ago I said I like him, but immediately after that I said, “let’s keep doing what we’re doing (i.e. just talking) and not label it”. I only ever confirmed that we were “basically dating” 5 days ago! To me, that means one month from 5 days ago would be the anniversary, but also, I never planned to put any importance on that anniversary because one month feels much too early in a relationship to celebrate any milestones. Am I alone in thinking it feels rather juvenile to celebrate monthlong ‘anniversaries’?
I’ve been giving him a completely false idea of my comfort and commitment and I have to say something ASAP because I will ruin this relationship for both of us if I’m not honest about what I want. Because though this post may not paint the best picture of him, he’s a lovely, sweet person whom I care very much about and the thought of getting to spend time with him in person delights me. But I’m going to need to take that slow as well, given the person that I am, and I’m supporting his unrealistic expectations right now by going along with this level of affection and saying nothing.
I kind of just need help psyching myself up to say something of this sort to him, and a bit of a script to begin with. Also, I desperately need someone to talk to about this, as I’m a very isolated person, and my closest friend is also friends with him and doesn’t want to be put in the middle.
TL;DR I really like this guy I’ve met online and am excited to meet him in person but I need help telling him he’s moving way too fast for me.

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2023.06.07 08:27 SilentCardiologist51 Aunties are more interesting than young girl on dating sites, my experience!

Just changed my age filter on dating apps.
Changed from my usual 18-25 to 35+ and damnn, I am chatting with some aunties.
What I noticed
Most aunties have lot of achievements, like career achievements, awards, nice careers. They are living very comfortable life but just lonely. They talk so nicely over phone, much much more affectionate than average young girl lol
To me it seems very career focused women are more likely to end up lonely.

Lot of aunties seperated Or their guy in army or other jobs remotely placed.
Some aunties husband work abroad and they take care of their parents and he only sends money and doesn't come back even after 5 years
Aunties are more interested in meeting after a conversation than young girls
Aunties are kinda lazy, sleepy, and more focused on their work life balance. So they don't talk after 10pm like most young girls who I can keep awake well until 4am in morning by just texting them nonstop?
Aunties are more sexual than young girls.

So why are you leaving all hot aunties on table?

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2023.06.07 08:26 JayHaveQuestions Who’s better,,, tiny illusion orpheus or George the bot?

(Hope I didn’t mess up flair sorryyy)
This started off as a joke between my friends but I slowly started to think “wait a minute”
So that brings us to the question,, who’s better?
George can: 1—Heal survs 2—Save survs 3—Work as a shield 4—Drop pallets 5—Decode(/open exit gate)
Tiny orpheus can: 4—Drop pallets 2--Save survs 3—Work as a shield
1: George is of course pretty helpful for healing Tracy if the others are injured or just heal any other survivor.
2: They can both save survivors, but— —If tiny orpheus gets hit, Alice gets a speed boost and she can reacue(since Alice needs to be nearby to even place tiny orpheus. However since she only has one rescue tiny orpheus, him failing could turn a win/tie into worse. —If George gets hit, it’s done deal unless another Surv/Tracy herself is nearby. Since Tracy can send George to anywhere from anywhere, George failing a rescue could easily make or break a game, just like with tiny orpheus.
3: —(referring to pallet tiny orpheus)If Tiny orpheus gets hit, Alice gets a speed boost and the Hunter gains no presence. She also of course loses one tiny orpheus. —If George gets hit, the hunter gains some presence and Tracy gains no speed boost. She also loses 50%(?) percent of her George.
4: —tiny orpheus ofc has his little timer which also ticks away as he runs to the pallet. So if the Hunter doesn’t get stunned and just flat out avoids tiny orpheus, he’s wasted. —George has no time limit he just. idk pallet stuns what else do you want me to say
5: —George can decode ciphers aswell as open the gates ofc. He can mess up the ciphers and loses some durability as he decodes.
I KNOW this is all basic stuff I just wanted to lay it all out so you could kinda Yknow
“hmmmmmminsert you reading 1-5 hmmmmmm”
But yeah!! Personally I like tiny orpheus better because I hate orpheus and getting to use him as a tiny meat shield makes my day. +and I can’t play Tracy to save my life please don’t tear me apart.
I just want opinions on the whole thing!!

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2023.06.07 08:25 astroNOT-yet Im so grateful❤️

Hi! I don't do super well with heartfelt-emotional messages. Which is why Im writing this here, at least for now. I also have zero confidence in my ability to not ramble while typing this, because I have so many thoughts in my head right now. This will likely be quite long. So heads up! I have a super complicated relationship with my parents. It's a very long story, and again, this is gonna be long enough so I wont get into it. But in result of our long, tumultuous status; I, at 23, have come out to all of my friends, my 5 siblings, my cousins/aunts/uncles (that I am close with, i have a hugeee family haha) and my grandma, (who I consider to be a second mother in many ways, I actually came out to her while living at her house with my brother.) But I have not told my parents. And its created a really odd atmosphere for many years now, as Ive had the tremendous privilege of being able to talk and act mostly openly/freedly with almost everyone in my life daily for the past 7 years, apart from when Im at home. And ONLY when my parents are here. They are both gone a lot for work and other things, sometimes for weeks at a time.
Im moving in August, from Chicago IL to Alaska. I have a job, living arrangements, transportation, a path/network set out for me to pursue further into my degree, and my finances all sorted. And I am so, so, so sosososo excited to go. I have worked so hard for this, and for the remainder of my time here of this summer Im planning to continue on working as much as possible to pay off my loans asap, and Ive even been networking, emailing, volunteering, and helping with projects with old professors and a few other folks from my school, just to secure myself as much as possible before I go. Between a few mental and physical health scares, and the stress of everything going on now, Ive been pulling my hair out 😂, but through EVERYTHING, my friends and family have remained so kind and supportive. They are truly the reason I have made it as far as I have.
I have only told a handful of people so far that Im leaving because I just recently accepted the specific job offer (and corresponding living arrangement), so Im waiting to tell most of them in person :) however, once again because of the "status" of our relationship, my parents weren't included in the handful of people Ive told about the move yet. All the folks that Ive told so far about the move have asked me what my parents said when I told them, and everyone was slightly surprised to learn that I haven't mentioned it yet. With all of the general excitement and emotions that Im feeling right now about moving, I started thinking a little deeper about my relationship with my parents. Or more specifically: I started thinking about how I want them to view me as I am. Im leaving. Im an adult. And for as long as I can remember now, my parents have been my own personal bullies/doubt at worst, or strangers at best. My relationship with my mom has been much less strained as the years have gone by, but even still, Im hesitant to go to her for anything aside of casual conversation. But Ive grown so much, and I have so much more growing to do. Im ready to start the rest of my life. And with that, I need to take that leap with no weight on my shoulders. I want to be able to be completely who I am. And I know that that could end poorly. But Im strong enough to take the bad with the good now. Im strong enough to fight for my own happiness. And I always have my family here who loves me. I reached out to a few friends in the community after I accepted the job offer, and I asked them for advice on how to come out my mom. It was the first time I was nervous to really "formally" come out. After mulling over it for quite some time, waiting for my dad to leave for work, and accepting some incredibly helpful advice and wonderful support from friends; I did it. I just came out my mom. Like an hour ago. And it went good. Not "great", but not bad. It went, well. She had a ton of questions haha, which I totally anticipated, but I stood my ground. I told her that I wasn't ready to tell my dad just yet, and she actually understood. And after all of it, she hugged me. She told me that I was her daughter, and that she would always love me. And that she wanted me to be my own person, and to follow the path that makes me feel the most myself.
Im honestly still in shock. For as awkward as the whole night ended (neither one of us really knew what to say after 😂 we don't get super personal like that *often*, as you can probably imagine atp lmao) I can honestly say that I feel 100lbs lighter right now. Im so relieved. I told my siblings immediately after, and they were so excited with me, and Im just so content right now. And im so fucking grateful. Im so, so so so sososo endlessly, beyond words grateful, to all of my loved ones, and folks from the community who have stood by me, and who came before me, and continue to support me and all others who are in the same position, there is truly not enough in this lifetime that I could do to repay all of the kindness Ive been shown.
sO, yeah very long, TLDR: I came out to my mom tonight, I feel so many things but mostly Im just grateful

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2023.06.07 08:25 ashley2023123 New MacBook Air: The Perfect Blend of Style and Performance

MacBook Air :

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2023.06.07 08:24 Zealousideal_Gap5669 Agoraphobia?

One of my son's passed away 5 years ago and since then, I don't want to leave home anymore. I absolutely dread having to leave the house to the point where it's all I'm thinking about all day on the days I HAVE to do something outside of the house. This includes seeing family or friends or just making a quick trip to the store. I work from home as well, so I'm pretty much home 24/7.
Truthfully, I no longer have friends because I have cancelled on them so many times, they don't reach out anymore and neither do I which is a relief to me. Whenever I do things with people, I'm just eager to be done with it so I can go back home. It's not enjoyable anymore although I'm a good actress and you would think I'm having the time of my life. This is why I have work "friends". We are there everyday working together, sending stupid gifs and talking shit. They live out of state so I don't have the anxiety of them possibly asking to make plans.
I just feel like I'm... here, if that makes any sense. I feel so lonely but then again, I don't want to talk to or socialize with anyone. I feel like if I do, they will ask to make plans that I know I will not attend even when I tell them "sure". It's easier to say "yes" instead of going into a whole story about how I feel off but idk why(again) and I don't think I will be there (again) and hear how everything will be ok and we will have fun (again).
My parents don't understand. They think it's because of them. I've tried explaining but no matter how you I try to explain it, i really cant. Like it ends up sounding like a "it's not you, it's me" excuse. Idk why I feel this way or why I do these things. I have cancelled on them during important dates frequently over the last few months. My mom even made a bday cake and dinner for my son a few weeks ago and I cancelled last minute. I know it is hurtful to them and I DONT want them to hurt. I have so much guilt and shame because I know that time with them should be precious and wanted just as much as it is for them. I feel like most of what I do, I do because of others wants and happiness. When I do go and visit with them, it's because they asked me but I don't want to. Its a feeling like it's "too much" and immediately anxiety kicks in knowing I am supposed to visit with them. Of course it's never as bad as my anxiety expects it to be and I have a better time than I thought I would, but if given the choice and a time machine, I would go back into time and NOT go.
Just writing this makes me feel like a selfish, ungrateful and terrible person. Main reason I came here; to post anonymously. There are people out there without family that would give anything to have time with them. I live 20 minutes from them and haven't seen them since Easter. I don't go anywhere with my 20 year old son anymore unless he's playing a show somewhere for his music. I feel like my family needs and wants my attention and time but I'm failing them all around. The urge to want to be home is stronger than all of this put together and I don't know why or how to "fix" this.
I am talking to a psychiatrist weekly and im also on anti anxiety and depression meds. I have been on the same ones for about 4 years now. The psychiatrist requested I come in for my next appointment instead of Zoom. She said she wants to get me outside of the house and out of the box. Im going to do what she asks of me, but I feel like no one understands. Like I even got kinda irritated that she asked me to come in. Like why offer Telehealth when you want me to come in. I chose you because you DO telehealth. I get it... I do... but... I don't want to.
I think I have felt this way for my entire life. To live my life how I want with my feelings and wants first. Now that I am "there" I feel worse and fucked up like it's wrong and something is wrong with me. But again, the urge to stay home with my son and our dogs outweighs everything. The only place on this planet where I am content is at home with my little family. It's almost like no one or anything else matters to me.
I have thought about this so much. I ask myself several times a day why I don't want to leave home and what do I think will happen that's so bad? I know I feel guilty for leaving but not sure why. It's like I'm deserting my family even if they know I'll BRB and don't care anyways, but it's that feeling. Like I gotta hurry tf up and get home and get back to them.
Does anyone else experience this? What have you realized/changed/or found that has helped?

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2023.06.07 08:24 MomofSlayers “Three week stall”?

I’m 4 weeks post op. I’ve lost about 15 lbs. I hit the three week stall around 2.5 weeks. I’m still stuck - in fact, I’ve actually gained a couple pounds from the lowest (albeit, highly dehydrated, weight). I feel so demoralized. I was basically starving from about day 6-day 19 because I stopped tolerating liquid protein. I thought, adding back in some calories once I was cleared for soft foods would help - but it didn’t.
I ended up with a pulmonary embolism, and am taking a blood thinner. I graduated right before the surgery and am now working full time and taking care of my kids when I get off work.
My whole life is one giant stress ball and I’m not getting enough sleep or exercise at present. I’m sure that’s contributing. But I just feel like this is hopeless - like I’ll be the person that it doesn’t work for…and I did it all for nothing. I’m sure that’s the hormones talking, but I could really use some encouragement right now.

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2023.06.07 08:24 Weird-Emu-5308 Thought y’all would enjoy

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2023.06.07 08:23 MrFourSeasons Career Considerations

Hello everyone. I have had a lot of late nights recently thinking about the next year or so of my life.
Current Situation: I am currently 27 about three years into a remote tech support role making about $60k/yr. However, it’s not “fully” remote so I’m stuck in the US. I have enough money saved up to move abroad for 1.5 to 2 years and plan to do so in March 2024 when my apartment lease ends.
Considerations: For obvious reasons the nature of my job is tedious and offers very limited upward mobility, also it’s not fully remote which is really crappy because it’s better than 90% of jobs from a location perspective but doesn’t offer what I truly want. I have a B.S. in IT and have soft-studied programming for a year or so as well. My current plan was to continue to self study until March, quit my job, move abroad and attend a bootcamp full time to push me over the edge. However, I’m nearly certain that I will be lucky just to find any SWE position let alone a remote one, let alone a fully remote one (as a junior). I have some mentors at my company that can guide my path for data analysis which I do also enjoy, but I am concerned about my lack of a degree in a quant field which many have urged is a necessity in todays job market.
The point: What would you do in my position for the next 9 months and beyond if my dream (for the foreseeable future) is to move abroad?
I appreciate everyone’s advice. Thank you.

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2023.06.07 08:22 Illustrious-Aerie-75 Any suggestions?

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2023.06.07 08:22 FlanShoddy13 Do the carb cravings ever go away?

My experience so far: I am 19 (M) and have been taking 10mg lex for around 5 weeks. Before starting lex I was around the same weight I am now (fluctuating between 160-165) but the first 2.5-3 weeks of taking lex my appetite decreased dramatically and I dropped all the way down to 151. Before taking lex I also have never had sweet cravings this bad and always tried to eat fairly clean but sometimes used sweets to cope with depression/anxiety. I allowed myself to have a cheat day when I saw I had dropped that much weight because I am very active (in the gym everyday) but ever since I allowed myself to have that cheat day I have begun binge eating fairly frequently and have been craving weed and smoking almost every day. Even when I am not high, I sleep past my alarm, have little motivation to go to the gym, very tired, and my carb cravings are unbelievable. I keep telling myself this is the last time but I always cave. I feel so disconnected with life as-well and feel numb about everything. Do these side effects wear off eventually? My relationship with food and sweets are now completely out of sorts and have caused me to become depressed and the only thing I want to do is smoke week and eat sweets. I’m glad I’ve at-least acknowledged this problem early on in my lex journey and have talked to my therapist about it a decent amount. But my self-worth is very low because all I can think about is how my relationship with food is terrible but I still want to binge and how lean I used to be before I allowed myself to have that cheat day that then spiraled everything out of control.

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2023.06.07 08:20 Ok_Low266 My boyfriend found out I used to be an escort

Hi reddit. Throwaway of course.
Me (23m) and him (28m) have been together for around a year, but we’ve known each other for a little over five years.
When I was 16-18 I was what basically surmounts to a prostitute. My mom was doing terrible mentally and I was neglected entirely— couldn’t find stable work so I did what I had to. I was desperate. It was a terrible experience. I have an incredibly low sex drive as it is— I never really wanted to do anything with the people who paid. I never enjoyed it. Clients were at best assholes and at worst life threatening, I mostly got paid by older men. People were brutal. Kids at school found out. I was always bruised to the point CPS came by my house multiple times, sometimes more than three times a month.
It just isn’t something I take pride in at all. I haven’t told anyone, I didn’t plan to, and Al the kids that knew me barely have a memory of me anymore.
My boyfriend was out grocery shopping yesterday. I usually do it but was and am sick.
Apparently he ran into an old friend of mine from highschool. This friend recognized him from when he’d pick me up or something, I don’t really know. But apparently he asked something along the lines of “oh hey how’s charlie, he’s off the streets by now right haha” and my boyfriend asked about what he meant.
When he came home the first thing he asked me was “were you a hooker?”
I didn’t want to tell him, but it came out eventually with some prodding. It started a huge fight. He was mad because apparently I shouldn’t be “so vanilla with him if I’ve been fucking old men since I was a kid”. He said that the reason I didn’t have sex with him as much as he wanted was because I already wasted myself up with whatever dick I could manage to find or something of the sort. He accused me of having all these STDs (even though before we ever had sex I demanded we both get an STD test— and HE was the one with chlamydia but what fucking ever).
He brought up very personal things and used them against me. Sexual trauma is told him about, mental issues, he even brought up my mom and said this was probably the reason my father left us.
I was so hurt. And scared. I thought he might get physical. And I’m 5’6 and weak as shit, he’s easily 6’ and goes to the gym nearly every day.
He hasn’t spoken to me since. I feel like crying, or screaming at him or something. I’ve felt like shit for my past for so long and I’ve only recently started getting better, and it feels like he’s torn it all down.

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2023.06.07 08:18 curlyheadedfaak Unsure if I’m going through a “rough patch” in my marriage or if this simply won’t work?

I love my husband dearly. He is my best friend and we both consider each other our “rock”. He has a great sense of humor, is so much fun, loves our children, a hardworker, and has been able to overcome very difficult life challenges.
In our marriage, we are both open, honest and faithful. We are able to have tough conversations about all aspects of our relationship, so we both have a very clear understanding of what needs to be worked on/repaired.
We have been married for 2 years, dated for 2 years but have known each other for almost 20 years but lost contact for 10 years, then got back in contact prior to Covid.
However, I have concerns that I’m hoping could eventually be resolved.. but I worry that due to the nature of these concerns, they may not be able to. I’m now torn between working things out or getting an amicable divorce if it appears we are not able to fix these issues we’re having.
I think it is important to note that we also have a blended family, which has its own unique challenges. I have 2 boys from a previous relationship (10 and 9) and he has 1 (7). We also have 2 little girls together that are 2 and 1.
He has difficulty managing his money properly to pay bills and habitually spends money impulsively. As a result, when we lived together, he was not able to pay his share for rent, utilities and other bills. I ended up taking out loans with a high APRs to make ends meet (my credit wasn’t great at the time). I’m now further in debt about 6k and have to pay $600 a month to pay back these loans. I should have been debt free by now. I couldn’t continue doing this to make ends meet, so we had to move back in with family, separately. I have my older 2 boys and the 2 girls with me and he only has 1 child living with him, his 7 year old son. It’s been this way for over a year. When it comes to his impulsive spending, he tells me about these purchases but it’s always after he already bought something. He would always assure me that many of these purchases could be sold for a profit but this never works out, so he ends up losing money in the long run. Last year he got a new job that pays much better than his prior job but bought a new car a month later and the car payments take a considerable amount of one if his paychecks. He will buy things through “buy now, pay later” arrangements but they add up when he does this multiple times over a few months time. He makes about 5-6k per month but somehow still ends up broke shortly after he gets paid. I don’t know how we could afford a house or a nice rental unit if he is unable to manage his money properly. I also do not want to fall deeper in debt if he isn’t able to pay his share of the bills.
Another concern of mine is that he becomes angry/upset over mild inconveniences or if things do not go his way. He takes the girls we share once a week overnight and if the baby wakes up in the middle of the night, he gets so frustrated and angry to the point of throwing things, cussing or gets mad at me for not helping (I usually stay the night with him when the girls stay by his house on the weekend). I am firm on not helping him when the girls spend the night by him, as I take care of the girls by myself 90% of the time and feel like I deserve a break . Even during the day while I work (I work remote), it was established that he would take care of the babies while I’m working . It’s easier to work alone at my place so I can get things done but he doesn’t like this, so I work at the place. I expect him to take care of the girls while I’m in meetings or anything work related (usually 5 hours a day) but he often forgets to feed and change them, so they cry while I am in in meetings or on phone calls, which effect my work and makes me look unprofessional. Or, he will go out to smoke every hour, will leave to run errands or will lay down to nap, so I’m then juggling work and taking care of the little ones. I’m now consistently behind on work or lose hours because I’m taking care of the babies while I’m supposed to be working. Mind you, I am the sole caretaker of the babies once he leaves for work at 2p until they go to sleep or if they wake up at night. He will get frustrated or snippy when he is forced to take care of the girls alone when I need to go out of town for work.
Another thing is that since we’ve been together, if he drinks alcohol, he will say hurtful things about my appearance, or will constantly talk about his exs and compare me to them. I can tell it’s not his intention to hurt my feelings when he brings this up but it does. It makes me feel horrible. And it happens almost every weekend. When I bring it up to him the next day he will either say he didn’t mean it that way or he doesn’t remember. But it still is very painful. It also worries me because he dumped me in the past or says this won’t work when he’s mad, which obviously is very hurtful to me. He gets very cold and bitter when this happens. Last time was around December of last year but it’s happened about 3 times prior to this. However, he always comes back and apologizes but it makes me feel insecure about our relationship. Especially when I’m doing everything I can and putting in all this effort towards the relationship.
There’s other things that have hurt me throughout the relationship but these things are probably my biggest concerns and I’m unsure how to move forward.

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2023.06.07 08:16 Simple_Rules The actual game flow of a Diablo 4 session is really awkward, especially in a group, especially if you don't all have the EXACT same goals.

Let's talk about an actual play session I actually just had.
We log on at 6:45pm. We sit down together, look at the map, nothing interesting going on. OK lets do a nightmare dungeon. Which one? So we debate briefly and categorize - okay we don't wanna do this affix, that affix, or that affix, so we can do any of these 8. We realize we're overthinking it, we tell Bob to just pick one and go. Bob picks one. As we open the map to figure out where I Can't Believe It's Not Hell is located, we notice it's 7pm and a hell tide just spawned. We decide to pivot - several people need gear. So let's quickly hit the hell tide.
We go do that. Finding the mystery chest takes 15 minutes, getting everyone to 175 currency takes about the same amount of time. Steve dies. Steve can't open the mystery chest. Bob and I open it. We go help Steve farm currency. It's now 30 minutes into this. We go back to the chest. It's gone. We try to find Steve the new chest so he can open it. Bob points out we'd be silly not to open the new chest too. We spend another 10 minutes getting that sorted out.
Bob and I get two chests, Steve gets one, Steve is a little bummed about dying. No big deal. It is now 7:50.
We do our first dungeon of the night. We get out, do all the awkward inventory management stuff (I'm sure you've heard someone else bitch about the towns being weird already). It is now 8:15. There is a timer for the world boss spawning at 8:30pm. We discuss. We probably can't get a dungeon done in 15 minutes, and we're all low on the world boss currency, so we decide to wait for that. We try to be efficient and pick our next dungeon, but we already had a couple lined up so that really doesn't help much.
It's now 8:40. We do our second dungeon of the night. We get out at 8:55. We pick our next dungeon. A hell rift spawns in. Steve says he wants to do it. We debate doing a quick dungeon before we go, but Steve points out he already missed out on a chest tonight and the hell rift seems to reset the mystery chest at the halfway mark, so if we do another dungeon, we won't be able to get both mystery chests from this hell rift.
We do the hell rift again. Finding the second chest is hard, because it's a variable spawn timer. We start looking at the 30 minute mark but it actually doesn't appear until the 45 minute mark, so we spent 15 minutes literally running around going "our map must be incomplete" and doing nothing at all productive.
We are frustrated and in a hurry. We agree to just spam sigils until we have to call it for the night. Two dungeons in, we fire off a sigil that has "crits deal 60% less damage" and "monsters regen 1.5% of their max health per second" and "monsters enrage when another monster dies near them" (or some other shit like that, I forget the exact combo, but I want that 30 minutes of my life back) and we all agree never to just spam sigils without fucking reading them again because fuck that shit.
We end our play session at 11pm, having played Diablo for 4 hours and 15 minutes, and having done one world boss, 2 ish hell tides, and 5 dungeons. We collectively spent well over 90 minutes either standing near the world boss, walking to a dungeon, or walking around the hell tide looking for something that doesn't show up on the map and only appears on the minimap when its basically on your screen.
Diablo 4 has more waiting in it than any other ARPG I've ever played, and nowhere is it more pronounced than in a group where people don't all agree on exactly what the top priority is.
Too many things are on long timers. Too many things only happen once every X hours. Too many things happen every other hour BUT there's an inflection point in the middle where you lose a bunch of value if you haven't already done the thing. Too many things require you to be standing there when the thing starts, or else you miss out, so you can't do anything else while you wait for it.
It's not so bad in solo play because you can just do what you want. But in a group where everyone has slightly different goals and each goal requires a very different activity to get it done optimally, this feels awful. You can't compromise and do a little bit of what everyone wants, because everything that people want is on competing timers. If there's a hell tide up right now, you can't do "just one more dungeon", because in 25 minutes that helltide's mystery chest is despawning and you lose half the value of the helltide if you don't get it done now. Likewise, your friend can't just "wait for the next helltide", because if it's the 9pm helltide, the next one isn't STARTING til 11pm or later, and your friend is a normal person with a 9-5 job he isn't STARTING a project in Diablo 4 at 11pm. So either you do this hell tide or he doesn't get a hell tide done today.
Even in solo play, getting jerked around like this is fucking weird for an ARPG. You can't ever sit down and just vibe on an activity, because either the activity has a forced end point (two mystery chests per hell rift/30 minute wait between legion invasions/4 hours ish between world bosses?) or the activity is open ended but it's deeply suboptimal to miss out on all the timed events that happen during your play session because almost all the timed events have badly needed upgrade currency you can't get from anything you can grind 24/7.
And all of this doesn't even mention the simplest thing that nearly everyone who hits WT3 immediately stubs their toe on: Every single active whispering tree quest resets at once on a 90 minute rotation, so if you are doing whispering tree stuff, every 90 minutes there's an awkward 10 minute dead spot where you can't really start any whispering tree quests because you won't finish them before they reset and any in-progress quest or dungeon won't give whispering tree points. So you literally get forced by the game to stop for 10 minutes out of every 90.
I understand a lot of you aren't in endgame yet but man, seriously, this shit is outright weird. I've never played an ARPG that seemed to go out of its way to shove a stick into my spokes like this one does.

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2023.06.07 08:16 zorkle22 RuVamped All-Stars 5 Ep. 3 "Get a Room!"

Shea valued her teammates, but she valued the competition more. So basing it on track record, she chose Ongina.
Shea Coulee, congratulations, you have assassinated your Prey and earned yourself $10,000!
Ongina, I'm sorry my dear, but Sashay away.
Ongina cried but professed how life, is a celebration.

RuVamped All-Stars 5 Ep. 3 "Get a Room!"

Top All-Star: Jujubee
High: Blair St. Clair, Mayhem Miller
Safe: Alexis Mateo, Miz Cracker
Bottom: India Ferrah, Mariah Paris Balenciaga, Shea Coulee
As a Lip-Sync Assassin, Jujubee could eliminate anyone. But, will she play fair or will she take a chance against Shea?
Lip-Sync Song: Juice
Poll: https://freeonlinesurveys.com/s/bMITpYKl
(Spreadsheet will be made soon)

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