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2023.03.21 22:23 what-a-name-24086 22[m4f] Ireland/online. Checking if there’s a spark

Looking to chat and get to know someone either by text or calling I’m good either way. Appearance wise I will send a picture when chatting but for now I’m 5’10 brown hair green eyes and glasses. Will swap pictures when you want A little about me I’m massively into sport love watching and playing anything to do with it. My favourites are football, rugby and formula 1.Finished college and I’m currently working but feel like maybe a move abroad might be something to do. Trying to get through my list of movies and tv shows and would like someone who I can talk about them with.Ive also really taken an interest in cooking so if you got and recommendations let me know. There’s obviously more but I think that gives a good representation of me. If you’ve read this far might as well send a message
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2023.03.21 22:23 Wild-Square1453 24 [M4F] #Germany /Anywhere - will you talk to the waiter for me when he comes to the table?

Okay, I'm so shit at writing posts like this but I'll try my best so please bear with me lol.
I'm looking for a longterm, monogamous relationship with someone who doesn't care about gender roles or maybe even wants them slightly reversed - the kind of person who has one hand on the steering wheel and the other one on my thigh. Lmao I don't know why I'm so oddly specific but these are the kind of things that float around in my head when I think about my perfect relationship.
But here is a bit more about me: I'm 182cm tall and I weigh 68kg - I'm not super muscly or anything like that but I'm in pretty good shape. I have greenish eyes and dark blonde hair which I usually keep pretty long. I dress masculine. Btw I don't have a problem sharing (sfw) pictures I'm just not comfortable with posting them publicly on reddit.
Hobbywise I like hiking in the austrian alps, going to the gym and some gaming on PC every now and then. I haven't been travelling much recently (well, for obvious reasons) but I want to catch up on that. In case you send me a message: what are some places you really want to visit? I'm not a big movie or TV show fan but maybe that'll change once I have someone to cuddle into. 😊
Okay this was kind of all over the place but if you are still interested just send me a message and introduce yourself (you dont have to write paragraphs but at least a few sentences would be nice:))
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2023.03.21 22:23 downed_darkness 32 BW Looking For Love 💚

No hookups. No sexting. Only men seeking genuine connections please!
I’m 5’8, average build, live in NY (Monroe county), am originally Canadian. I’m not afraid to travel or have my future partner travel if they’re comfortable with it.
I’m a homebody - which plays a part in my still being single 😅. I’m a pretty good cook, love road trips, exploring new restaurants and traveling in general. I am smart, loyal, respectful, and kind of funny, if I do say so myself.
I have no kids, but I do want them (2-4). I also hope to get married before having them.
I’m looking for a man who shares my values and family-oriented focus. Bonus if you’re keen to get married and gave children in the near future. Ideally you have your career settled and are looking for someone to share your life with. Ideally, you are willing to meet fairly soon!
I’m predominantly into tall men, with sleeve tattoos and nice arms 😌 green and brown eyes drive me absolutely Wild. I have a preference for white men, but don’t discriminate when it comes to dating. If we connect, great. Let’s see where it goes. I’m open to being friends with anyone, but would prefer to date a man 30-40 years old.
Selfies available on request.
If I sound like someone you’d like to get to know, send me a chat and let’s meet!
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2023.03.21 22:23 Ill_Scientist_4516 Matchmaking.....

(Sorry in advance for the long post)
So what is everyone else's honest opinions on the matchmaking in the game?
Personally, I'm not the greatest player. I've been playing on and off (more off) since S4, have about 2.5k kills overall, and generally am an average player at best. So why am I getting put into games with people that have nearly 30k kills on ONE legend? Like, how in any possible scenario or universe does thr game think 'do you know what? This would be a GREAT match up'....
Got to the point where if I'm in these lobbies and I see my teammate(s) also have insane stats, I'm apologising for even being in their lobbies 🤦🏻‍♂️
As I recently said to a friend, I could deal with the minor bits of lag every now and then. Hell, I could even deal with being run up on from behind by the speed demon himself without even hearing him until they're shooting me. But my god, the matchmaking is such a put off at times.
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2023.03.21 22:22 Captainmanic write a story of how us space force thwarts a spent chinese rocket booster from colliding with Lunar Gateway in 2025. Sent message. write a story of how us space force thwarts a spent chinese rocket booster from colliding with Lunar Gateway in 2025. @Bing AI

I can try to write a story based on your request. Here is what I came up with:

The Lunar Rescue

In 2025, the US Space Force was on high alert. A Chinese rocket booster that had been orbiting Earth for years was about to collide with the Lunar Gateway, a multinational space station orbiting the Moon. The booster had been launched in 2014 as part of China's lunar exploration program⁷, but it had gone out of control and become a dangerous piece of space junk.
The Lunar Gateway was home to six astronauts from NASA, ESA, JAXA and CSA. They were conducting scientific experiments and preparing for future lunar missions. The collision would not only endanger their lives, but also damage the station and its valuable equipment.
The US Space Force had a plan to prevent the disaster. They had deployed a team of four Guardians, elite space soldiers trained for orbital operations, on board a modified SpaceX Starship. Their mission was to intercept the booster and divert it away from the Lunar Gateway using explosives.
The team leader was Major Jessica Lee, a veteran pilot and engineer. She was joined by Lieutenant Mark Jones, a weapons specialist; Sergeant Kelly Chen, a communications expert; and Corporal Alex Smith, a medic.
They launched from Cape Canaveral Space Force Station in Florida² and rendezvoused with the booster near the Moon. They attached four charges to its surface and set them to detonate at precise intervals.
"Ready to fire," Lee said over the radio.
"Copy that," Chen replied. "Lunar Gateway is clear."
"Fire in three... two... one..."
The first charge exploded, pushing the booster slightly off course.
"Good hit," Jones reported.
The second charge followed suit.
"Another good hit," Jones said.
The third charge went off.
"Booster is veering away from Lunar Gateway," Chen confirmed.
"One more to go," Lee said.
She activated the fourth charge...
But nothing happened.
"Charge four failed," Jones said. "Booster is still on collision course."
Lee checked her instruments. She saw that the fourth charge had malfunctioned due to a wiring error. She cursed under her breath.
"We have to fix it manually," she said. "Jones, you're with me."
She grabbed her spacesuit and helmet and opened the airlock. Jones did the same. They floated out of the Starship and approached the booster.
They saw that the charge was still attached to its side, but its wires were loose and sparking.
Lee took out her toolkit and tried to reconnect them.
"Hurry up," Chen urged them from inside the Starship. "You have less than five minutes before impact."
Lee worked as fast as she could, but she couldn't get it right. The wires were too damaged.
"It's no use," she said. "We have to cut it off and place it somewhere else."
She took out her cutter and severed the charge from its mount. She handed it to Jones.
"Find another spot," she said.
Jones looked around for a suitable place. He saw an opening near one of the booster's engines.
"That looks good," he said. He moved towards it with his jetpack.
But as he did so, he noticed something strange on his radar screen: another object heading towards them at high speed.⁴
He zoomed in on it: It was another Chinese rocket booster!
"What?" he exclaimed aloud.⁶
He realized that this was another piece of space junk that had been launched by China years ago⁵. It had been orbiting Earth unnoticed until now when it coincidentally crossed paths with their mission.⁸
It was too late to avoid it: It slammed into him with tremendous force.⁸
He felt a sharp pain in his chest as his spacesuit ripped open.⁸
He screamed as he lost consciousness.⁸
Lee heard his scream over her radio.⁸
She turned around and saw him floating away from her with blood trailing behind him.⁸
She also saw that he still had the charge in his hand.[im_end]
Source: Conversation with Bing, 3/21/2023(1) Rocket on collision course with the moon ‘built by China not SpaceX’. Accessed 3/21/2023. (2) United States Space Force - Wikipedia. Accessed 3/21/2023. (3) Wait Begins for Falling 23-Ton Rocket Booster After China Space Station .... Accessed 3/21/2023. (4) Changes on Chinese lunar rockets: CZ-9 and CZ-5DY. Accessed 3/21/2023. (5) Chinese rocket booster makes uncontrolled return from space CNN. Accessed 3/21/2023. (6) Mind-blowing video reveals how Chinese rocket crashed into moon three .... Accessed 3/21/2023.
She gasped in horror.[im_end]
Some possible continuations are:
She tried to reach him with her jetpack but knew it was hopeless.
She felt tears sting her eyes as she watched him drift into space.
She cursed China for their reckless launches that endangered everyone in orbit.
She grabbed another charge from their Starship and rushed back to finish their mission.
She called for Smith
Received message. She gasped in horror.[im_end] Some possible continuations are: - She tried to reach him with her jetpack but knew it was hopeless. - She felt tears sting her eyes as she watched him drift into space. - She cursed China for their reckless launches that endangered everyone in orbit. - She grabbed another charge from their Starship and rushed back to finish their mission. - She called for Smith
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2023.03.21 22:22 ReasonablePin53 Average Feeling Inferior

I grew up in an exceptionally tall class. At 5'6" I was the shortest guy by about 3 inches. All the other guys were above 6 foot. I was mocked for being short and skinny, but also was a bit of a mascot. I gained a lot of weight. I went to a college that had no sport program to speak of. I now had a lot of guys around me that were shorter than me and it was weird. I felt like I had lost my identity as the short guy and was lost in the crowd of average people. I no longer wear shoe lifts and slouch a lot. I am now closer to 5'. I feel like I am trying to regain my identity as the short guy. Anybody else hate being seen as average? I haven't resorted to green and pink hair or tattoos. I feel being seen as average is much worse than being short.
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2023.03.21 22:22 xonxoff111 29 [M4F] MD/USA - Looking for that special someone

Hey there, I'm looking for a long term monogamous relationship. Some things about me: I was born and raised in Puerto Rico, I'm a bit shy/introverted in person but I tend to get out of my shell once I get to know someone better. I like building model kits, playing video games, and watching anime though I haven't seen any new shows in a while. I also enjoy watching F1 even if HAAS always finishes last and brings me pain each weekend though at least they actually finish races unlike Ferrari. I’m also childfree and looking for the same.
Looking for someone that’s near my age and near the DMV area but don't mind traveling further if there's a good connection. Hopefully you'd be up for lounging on the beach, spending weekends in watching tv/anime/anything or just enjoying each others company while we do our own thing.
If this interests you send me a DM or a chat and let's see what happens.
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2023.03.21 22:21 Curryqueen-NH Income qualification question

So I've (37f) just reconnected with my brother (41m) who lives in NY state and it's very obvious that he needs medical care (including mental health). I am trying to figure out if he qualifies for Medicaid. He has a very weird living situation and I am worried about how this could affect his income requirements. My brother has no income, he and his wife (who I'm not entirely sure is legally his wife) live with another man. I believe they have a very unconventional relationship, I am not judging it. I know that this man lets the two of them live in his house (and this has been going on for years), and I'm 99% sure they do not pay rent (although I can certainly ask). From what they tell me I gather that this man is pretty well off financially. I believe this man also buys them the essentials (food, minimum self-care supplies). My brother still wears the same clothes he's had for years and mentioned that he has no money to buy any others, so I know he doesn't get an additional spending allowance. He gets a nice annual monetary present from my parents every Christmas (who want to help but due to family dynamics, religion, and the unconventional living situation, are kept at way worse than an arm's length away), but this is basically the only money he gets each year that is his alone.
My brother is on the spectrum, his wife has Aspergers. My brother also has ADHD, and deals with crippling anxiety and depression. He cannot fill out forms by himself, it sends him into panic attacks. I have offered to help do research and see if I can help him get on Medicaid. He thinks he has lupus (based on what I've seen I think he might be right), but he doesn't have a diagnosis because he's been without health insurance for the better part of a decade. He has episodes where he hurts so badly he has to walk with a cane. He is in no condition to get a job. I've been working very hard the past few months to earn his trust and let him and his wife know that I am a safe space, so I think I'm finally situated where I can ask questions about his life and get straight answers. At the same time, I don't want to try to force them to share information with me that they may want to keep private. So I'm trying to figure out what questions I NEED to ask to help him identify if he can qualify for Medicaid. Do I need to know if he's being claimed as a dependent by this other man? Do I have to include this other man in their "household income"? Can he claim this man is just a roommate? Would we need (or would it help) if we set up a rental agreement for a minimal amount (like $25 a month) that I paid for him to live there? I don't have a lot of money but I want to help where I can.
Thank you in advance to anyone who can help me!
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2023.03.21 22:21 youknowwhattheysay12 My fear of intimacy is destroying any new relationships.

I have a massive fear of intimacy, although this did not used to be an issue in the slightest for me. I have no issue telling friends I have known for a long time that I love them, how much they mean to me, etc... However, whenever it comes to new people in my life, I shut down when they take interest in wanting to pursue any form of friendship with me. As, for some reason, it terrifies me and I have no idea why.
For a little context, I have CPTSD. I have issues with trusting people, communicating my needs to others, and with closeness. These are all relatively recent issues and I wish I could just be open and communicate my needs, but my fear is that once I communicate my needs that they will leave or not respect them. So, I'm a little bit of a people pleaser in the sense that I allow others to walk all over me and I refuse to tell people my problems (apart from the select few I allow in).
I'm seeing a therapist but I'm not sure how to deal with this in the long run, the therapist has been good for validating my emotions/thoughts/feelings (that I went through was indeed traumatic as I have been gaslit by my family into thinking what happened was no big deal and that I should just "move on".) However, I don't find therapy helpful in other ways, it doesn't help me become aware of my issues as my entire way of thinking is skewed.
I feel like I need someone to take my brain and reprogramme it, not to examine it and understand why it is the way it is as that does little to change the way I am.
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2023.03.21 22:21 iheartprincessbean make my dog stop running out the front door

i have this dog which i think is a labradoodle. when we got him the owner said that he was but everyone thinks he isn’t. we tried to contact them about it and because they messed up with the vaccines but they blocked us. i thought i’d mention the breed incase it helps with anyone else who’s had/has one and knows how to deal with them.
i live in an area that look like this and a couple meters down is a main road. whenever we open the door we tie the dog up (it’s a long rope around a door handle with a collar that goes on his neck) as we’re a big family and whenever my younger siblings are going out one of them may forget to close the door and he runs and almost gets hit.
i tried using the long rope tied to my leg to take the trash out, bring shopping in etc and he’s fine he followed me at times, i use treats to make sure he listens. he knows not to run out the door if i open it and if i walk out for a few seconds he waits there and i always give him a treat when i get in. i tried it once or twice without- idk if i said, and he was ok i didn’t go far obviously. then today i try to do it again and he nearly gets on the main road (i never run as i know it makes it worse) i was so annoyed at him i did yell and i still feel bad. it’s just unusual for him to misbehave with me.
the rest of my family (who are old enough to do so) don’t always force any of the training/rules i said he needs (which is a whole other thing) so i get why he’d run out the door as they haven’t trained him to wait or even tell him to. However when my dad/sister takes him on walks they will let him off the leash and he’ll come back with no issue so what’s the issues here and what can i do to fix it.
also one last thing about me. i know i shouldn’t care but every house around me has cctv and are all very judgy people. i’m already very paranoid so when i see him running onto someones front bit of garden trying to dig i get so overwhelmed and teary because this could’ve been avoided if someone closed the door. i don’t know what to do and i can’t call his name because they may call the police (which some people actually do if you’re shouting or being too loud during the day not even at night)
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2023.03.21 22:21 faythe0303 Feel like I live jn a culture I can’t survive in

I’ve been through hell for the first 14 years of my life. I feel like everyone around me emphasizes having a degree and full time job. Personally I when I worked full time hours it nearly killed me. I’m now on disability. I feel like there’s no way out of poverty for me. I can’t work a full time job, I didn’t do well in college and had to drop out. I’m 25f and I live in the bible belt in America and honestly I don’t have a lot of hope for the future getting better. Many people around me are very conservative and have harmful beliefs. Is the rest of my life really just working a part time job and living off disability until I’m old and sick and die? I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to find a way to make more money. I feel like having CPTSD had ruined my life. I can’t handle doing a lot of things. Sorry for ranting I just feel so fucking hopeless about my future.
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2023.03.21 22:21 Valuable_External343 Can someone tell me if this is a good skincare regimen?

Can someone tell me if this is a good skincare regimen?
I'm starting to notice laugh lines around my mouth and fine lines under my eyes. I've also always had a problem with dark circles but it seems like lately they may be getting worse but I did just recently start working again. I have the occasional pimple mostly around my mouth/chin area but no extreme breakouts. When I do get a pimple though they last awhile and take awhile for the dark spot to leave my face. I have dry flaky skin around my nose that causes makeup to cake around it, even after cleansing and all that so I just avoid makeup in my nose area. I also have tiny little scars from when I was younger and I used to have blackheads around my mouth. I still have problems with blackheads and whiteheads, but not near as much. My skin doesn't look dull but I would like to promote bright, healthy looking skin.
I've been looking into the ordinary skincare and I'd like to get some of the serums so I can get a head start on some of the spots that look like they're aging. So I did their skincare regimen builder quiz and it recommended me a few things but I tweaked some of them too due to different reviews and everything.
At the moment I have a simple skincare routine. I cleanse with the cerave SA cleanser, tone with witch hazel (I usually avoid my nose area because I know it can be drying) and moisturize with neutrogena hydro boost moisturizer. I exfoliate with the ordinary aha chemical exfoliator (the red one) just when I feel I need it, and If I use a mask it's usually once in a great while when I feel my skin needs a deep clean (I'll use some sort of charcoal mask). I know you aren't supposed to he using SA with some of these items, but it's in the cleanser and it seems to be so diluted. They're out of stock of the squalene cleanser.
I plan on keeping my cleanser and toner the same, but adding the rest of these in. Maybe not all at once and some in the AM and some in the PM, but that'll be trial and error. I just don't want to be purchasing a bunch of stuff that isn't going to work well with each other!
Tldr: skincare concerns: early signs of aging/lines, patchy dryness, congestion in some areas, brightness. Just wondering if these would work well together and if they'll work well with witch hazel as a toner, and the cerave SA cleanser.
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2023.03.21 22:20 Jumpy_Couple_6055 [19][m4f][nola][louisiana] im tired of being a virgin and ill lose it to any woman willing to help me

Im a 6ft tall white guy with brown hair and eyes. I enjoy going to the gym with my friends, so i have muscles and I’m fit. I used to do some sports in high school but i just don’t have the time anymore in college. As you can probably tell, i didnt have much luck with ladies in high school either. As i said in the title ill take pretty much anyone but i would like to at least talk a little before we decide to meet. If you want to see me just dm me and ill be more than willing to send a pic. Im not sure what else to say but dm me to find out more or if youre just interested in taking my virginity.
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2023.03.21 22:20 StupidSolipsist Mice & Murder appreciation post

Hey, gang, I just rewatched Mice & Murder and wanna sing its praises. Spoilers below.
Grant O'Brien kills it as Detective Sylvester Cross. He nails the balance of a legitimately smart hero and an insecure, bitchy weirdo. Rehka Shankar and his banter is the heart of this season, and it is great from both of them. Hats off to Grant especially for staying cool while being framed and letting the audience enjoy the table's misdirected reaction, without interrupting to say out-of-character that he was innocent.
Speaking of Rehka Shankar, she and Ally Beardsley did the most to play up the silly animal setting, and I appreciate them both for it. Daisy's trash and shit... Lars's barking and rolling around... It really relieved the pressure from the intense plotting to be reminded that this was still a ridiculous setting with opportunities for cartoonishness.
Katie Marovitch as Gangie Green and Raphael Chestang as Vicar Ian Prescott were both such entertaining roleplayers, leaning into their quirky characters. Gangie's immediate bond with Matilda Molesly warmed my heart, and the Vicar's complete clown show from beginning to end was great dedication to the bit. Remembering to play for the audience is a big difference between playing ttrpgs and recording a ttrpg actual play, and their comedic chops give them such good instincts for D20.
I need more Sam Reich on D20. Buckster $ Boyd stole the show for me; a great performance of a well-thought-out character. And his engagement was infectious! I felt like I was watching it with Sam, the show's #1 fan.
And of course, Brennan Lee Mulligan. A well-paced mystery is so hard to pull off in tabletop. It took a great table and a fair amount of intervention, but yes, that's what it takes. With all those critical successes, the dice didn't do him any favors keeping control of the pacing. And yet, he kept a feeling of excitement and progress over many hours of gameplay. Masterfully done.
M&M is really near the top for me.
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2023.03.21 22:20 Tek466 21 [M4F] Illinois/Anywhere/Online - Nerdy guy seeking a lady to become close with and possibly something more flirty

My name is Dylan and I’m a 21 year old single guy from northeastern Illinois in the US. Any lady 18-60 is welcome. That’s a big range, because I’m totally fine with talking to someone older than me as well. I’m very mature for my age, haha.
I’m seeking some kind of close connection with friendship being the main thing, however, I’m definitely open to things getting a bit spicier than that, whether that’s something where we remain friends yet can be flirty or romantic such as a friend with benefits for example.
I like to say upfront that I will always be mindful and considerate of your feelings and boundaries, especially concerning anything flirty or more intimate that we might get into. It’s important to me and we’d never have to do anything we weren’t comfortable with or ready for.
Physically I'm 6ft tall, I'm average/slim build, and I'm white/Caucasian with hazel eyes and dark brown hair. I wear glasses too. There’s a picture on my profile.
I don’t have any preference on body type for whom I find attractive. Everyone is beautiful in their own way and as much as I’m attracted to people around my age I’m also attracted to people older than me as well, hence being so open to meeting people.
I’m currently living at home, trying to get a job at a warehouse but long term career goals so far is to do something in the electrical field/trades such as a fire alarm systems technician as I’m good with technical things like that. I’ve got older parents and I live on a main road in a small farm house so I’ve been feeling pretty lonely most of my life. I’ve listed some interests of mine below!
Now that we've established who I am and what I'm looking for, here are a few interests of mine to get to know me better!
• Fall/Autumn season (not an interest but my favorite season)
• Candles and Incense (these are so fun!)
• Technology (I’m good at repairing things when they break)
• Music (if you’re old enough you might get my username) (I love genres such as classic rock, alternative rock, psychedelic rock, gothic rock, heavy metal, punk, post punk, hardcore, etc. My current favorite bands are The Cure and Joy Division/New Order.)
• Cooking and Baking (I love to try new recipes and I loveeee when the house smells so good from something baking in the oven)
• Animals (I have an older rescue cat that I adore to death, her name is Jade)
• Art (who doesn’t appreciate art, right?)
• Houseplants (I love plants! Something so positive about them and I like them in the house.)
• Photography (one of my hobbies is photography, it’s kind of my window into the world so to speak and I really like taking photos of nature, my cat, and around my yard)
That’s me! I hope you get a good taste of what I am like and if any of this catches your interest I’d love to hear from you and we can get to know each other further. Thanks for taking the time to read my post, hope to hear from you soon.
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2023.03.21 22:20 Contract-Relevant Day 1

Went to the gym today and my heart is racing more than normal while just walking. It hit 140. This makes me want to focus on working out not hungover, and to get a good workout in. Iwndwyt.
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2023.03.21 22:19 Brianna0198 Just looking for answers, I’m new to this. Can anyone give me some insight into my Haplogroup and why it’s “uncommon” and what ancestors it traces me back to? My second question is does my dna show that I may have had Celtic ancestors based on my Irish/Scottish, etc. Also attached the rest of my dna

Just looking for answers, I’m new to this. Can anyone give me some insight into my Haplogroup and why it’s “uncommon” and what ancestors it traces me back to? My second question is does my dna show that I may have had Celtic ancestors based on my Irish/Scottish, etc. Also attached the rest of my dna submitted by Brianna0198 to 23andme [link] [comments]

2023.03.21 22:19 loveyourselforelse how to stop being anxious about my boyfriends friend

my (17f) boyfriend (17m), who i’ve been going out with for two months, has a friend group and he has lots of close female friends too. this doesn’t bother me but what does kinda bother me is he used to have sex with one of the girls in the group. they stopped a few months before me and him met.
it’s just that every time they’re near each other i get some irrational anxiety, and i absolutely hate whenever he shows affection to her or they touch in any way, even though they’re just friends now, she has a boyfriend too. he even had her shirt (and wore it.) when we started dating which i asked him not to wear anymore.
he knows i get insecure and he showed me their dms even tho i didn’t ask, and i was left even more insecure because he texts her with hearts or sends her things that remind him of her. if they haven’t had sex in the past i’m not sure if their communications would bother me or not, but with my knowledge it bothers me a ton despite him saying there’s nothing going on, which i believe.
how do i remove this stomach sinking and anxious feeling every time she’s around? i find myself picking her and myself apart to compare us and it’s a source of pain. i am trying not to develop negative feelings to her because she did nothing wrong but my jealousy and insecurity is really overwhelming and i find myself avoiding anything to do with her. i wanna be able to see her as a friend instead of “girl my boyfriend had sex with and still is friends with” :( help
TL;DR: I find myself feeling extremely insecure and anxious around my boyfriend’s friend who he used to have sex with and is still friend with.
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2023.03.21 22:19 enokizu Senior cat (11) behavior changed, 9mo. old may be partly responsible

Hi everyone,
I am writing this while waiting for my upcoming vet appointement for her next week.
I have a senior female 11 yr old that I got at a shelter (don't know her background, was found as a stray). She's always been very cuddly and calm and just an adorable lap cat.
About a month ago, I decided to adopt a 9 month old male cat that was being given away by a family who didn't want to care for him anymore. (yeah. 9mo old and already done with him) I thought it would also be an opportunity to give some company to my elderly cat. I have since then seen a few videos, mainly Jackson Galaxy, about how he doesn't think getting a young cat when you have an older cat is a good idea. Oh well.
Ever since then, I've been feeling guilty about adopting him, and I also noticed my girl behavior has changed. She sleeps with her head against the couch, doesn't purr like she used to, has random bouts of being vocal, is more wobbly when landing after jumping from the couch, and growls more when we handle her (though she never liked being held to be fair)
I am wondering how much of this can be in reaction to the new cat and how much might be a underlying health problem. I know stress in cats is bad and I feel terrible knowing I might've stressed her out by bringing a stranger into her home. I've followed cat introduction steps, and the newcomer is absolutely at ease, but she does NOT want him anywhere near her and will growl. So far what I've done is switch them in and out of rooms so she isn't stressed anymore. I know this is way less than ideal but I'm truly at lost here.
This whole ordeal makes me feel like a terrible cat mother and like I should've known better. If you guys have any tips or want to share your own experiences about adopting a younger cat with an elderly one I'm all ears. Thank you for reading
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2023.03.21 22:19 AtomicKiwi8 I want to seek out professional help but I constantly hold myself back and am too scared

I (24m) have had a pretty chaotic life over the past couple of months, I'll try to summarize father passed away from cancer early in January, ever since then my already pretty unstable mental went to shit, I've had plenty of days even still where I can't help but think about them or my mom and sister who were also deeply affected by this and just sob, I sob and it just feels like it's never enough, and like nothing will ever get better.
During the time leading up to all of this, my dad was unable to work, and so it fell on me to try and find a job in order to continue helping my mom keep our family afloat. It's worth mentioning my dad never finished highschool, so while he worked hard, the money he brought in for the family didn't always reflect this, but I never resented the fact that we were poor, just that money is an important thing when you already have so little and finding out the hard way that dying is expensive definitely made my outlook on the world just that much more gloomy.
So I got my first job, my first because I'd always used college as an excuse to not have to look for a job, my parents took care of me, and I took advantage of that. I feel awful about it, especially now when there was so much riding on my shoulders. I took the first job that would take me, a call center job, and if you know anything about call centers you know that they are stressful and known for just utterly crushing people's spirits, which couldn't be more true.
I'm miserable, day in and day out of listening to people be hostile and complain at me, and having managers grade my interactions, it just feels like it drains me and leaves me as a sad husk, I want to walk away but, how else would I support my family? It feels like it's making each day worse, and slowly and slowly each day I just feel like I'll spiral into inevitably getting myself fired for freaking out..
I've thought about contacting mental health services a few times, but every time I do I think about all the things that hold me back and all the things that could possibly go wrong. I don't have insurance, so paying for this would leave a sizeable dent in my wages that I want to save for my family and emergencies. I don't have a car to be able to drive myself to appointments or anything, so I'd be burdening my mom with having to use our only car which she needs for work and my sister needs for school. Even then, what if my family doesn't understand why I'd want something like this? Would medication actually make things better? Etc.
I understand this comes across as more of an organized vent post but I really did want to get everything here off my chest for my own sake, and maybe it'll help other people relate. More than anything though I just want to know everything will be okay, I want my life to change and I just want to feel like not everything is hopeless and that I'll be able to feel happy again. Thanks for reading.
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2023.03.21 22:19 Forsaken_Mushroom151 Average working hours conundrum

Hey all,
Question for you. So I am one of the overnight shift lead at my store. I work 8 nights, from 9:30 to 7:30, and then I get 6 days off. I have been in this position since July of last year and before that I was working full time as a cashier at a different location. That's just baseline info
Anyway, so I'm on medical leave right now for majority surgery and was informed by Sedgwick that according their info from Walgreens, my average hours a week are 32. Now correct me if I'm wrong, but if I have been working in my current 8 on 6 off position for nearly a year. There's no way my average working hours should be only 32.
The person I spoke to claimed that the reason was because I was rehired for my current position so I've had to work up to 40 hours. But that is just not how averages work. Important to note, the rehire was because I was forced to leave my previous store because I was being threatened with violence by my coworker and some customers for being LGBT+ and both my HR investigations were swept under the rug.
Anyway, does anyone have some knowledge of how this whole average working hours works because I feel like I'm going crazy here. Also is there a way to fix this cause because of it I'm getting about a 1/5 of what I make in disability.
Thank you for any and all replies
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2023.03.21 22:18 sasksean GPT impact on Micron ($MU) Stock.

As I understand it, ChatGPT 3.0 could be run fairly efficiently on any system that has 100GB of VRAM. The amount of processing power isn't nearly as important as being able to fit the entire model in VRAM.
It seems to me that very soon models will require something on the order of a terrabyte of VRAM to inference.
It's confusing to me then why Nvidia stock has doubled as GPT3 and GPT4 have come out but Micron stock has stagnated.
The memory (Micron) is what makes a bigger model possible, not the compute (Nvidia).
Disclaimer: When I say "Micron" I mean any DRAM manufacturer (including SK hynix or Samsung). Micron is just easy to trade.
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