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JoJo's Bizarre Adventure

2012.03.03 05:14 JoJo's Bizarre Adventure

This is the JoJo's Bizarre Adventure subreddit, and while the subreddit is named for Part Three: Stardust Crusaders, it covers all of the manga and various animated series - Our banner was made by u/ann_51 and our subreddit icon was made by u/Glacescup

2013.09.04 22:56 biesterd1 MultiWall

A subreddit with wallpapers for users with more than one monitor.

2012.08.12 04:06 ikadono18 For everything Toradora!

Toradora is a Japanese manga/anime series, featuring the kind but scary looking Ryuji Takasu who is in love with Kushieda Minori (Minorin), a care-free softball loving girl, who is friends with Aisaka Taiga (Tenori Taiga), a rich, tsundere that is in love with Kitamura (Takasu's best friend)

2023.06.09 05:39 Girugamesh69 Discuss Film

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2023.06.09 05:39 LemonadeSansSugar Upper back pain and hand spasms

Not sure if unrelated but I’ve had upper back pain twice — once 4 years ago. I thought it was a stiff neck but it was bad. Orthopedic said it was posture and to workout — went away.
Then I got it again a month ago. I was in severe pain. It all was in a specific point on the upper back but I guess the muscles were strained as well. I could find no comfortable position to sleep in. It was miserable for about a week! Not sure if it’s a pinched nerve.
Went to the orthopedic and he ordered physical therapy and an MRI. I hope my insurance approves it because I’m worried.
Note: I have scoliosis since I was a kid but no problems at all. I’m a male in my 30s now so maybe it’s a flare up?
I have also noticed hand twitching between my thumb and index finger but idk if it’s stress from work — I have a very stressful career. Part of me things it’s related and panics.
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2023.06.09 05:38 mtrevi99 Received my green card don't have ssn card yet

I overstayed my tourist visa as a child and have been living here since undocumented. By the time I was able to apply to daca it was closed down so I never got daca. I married my husband July 2021 and the following tax season I got an itin so we could file our taxes jointly. I've never had a job and haven't been working since either so on my part I haven't made any money anyways.
Submitted i485 i130 and i765 at the same time August 16 2022. My i130 and i485 got approved same day may 4 2023. My i765 was closed may 10 2023 and was never even reviewed so I didn't receive a ssn card with an ead. I believe we selected to receive a ssn for both the i765 and i485.
My i-485 changed to card being produced may 9 2023 and was mailed may 10 2023.
We had been checking our mail until about a week late our lawyer let us know she had received it. We weren't able to pick up the card from our lawyer until may 23 2023. Since she received the green card we are guessing she'll also receive the ssn card. So far she hasn't received it yet as far as we know.
Just to be safe, I called my local ssa may 30 2023 and they informed me they couldn't help over the phone unless I provided them my ssn so they could identify who I was. And that maybe if I came in person with IDs and my residency card they might be able to help. I haven't been able to go but I'm planning on going next week if I haven't heard from my lawyer yet.
I just want to know if I could start applying to jobs with just my greencard in hand and use my itin instead of a ssn, or should I try to wait until I have my actual ssn? Since I don't have job experience, a lot of the jobs I could potentially work in with no experience have a pretty fast hiring process which is why I'm waiting to apply.
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2023.06.09 05:38 JTmarvel 4 Joni Jam tickets available!

I have 4 Joni Jam tickets available and I can sell them separately or together. I also have a camping pass for the weekend I could part with for best offer! Let me know if you're looking for a Joni Jam night ticket! Wanted to take my parents but it didn't work out.
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2023.06.09 05:37 Giant_spider_233 Do I share this story with my relevant family members?

When I was 8 years old, my Uncle woke his wife up, punching her in the face in a drunken rage. She ran to my house. He came inside and tried to beat her up in our bathroom. He and my Dad fought in our kitchen as I sat on the stairs with a BB gun, looking for a clear shot. Eventually, my Dad got him into a headlock and beat his head into the wall until it split open. You can see the scar on his head, just above the hairline.
His wife went to my grandfather and asked him to remove my Uncle from the property, but was told that if anyone had to leave it was going to be her. Then, our family conspired to kidnap their daughters from their mother a couple of years later before the divorce paperwork was filed, and the girls and my Uncle lived with my grandparents until their deaths.
Years before this, my Mom urged my Dad to hire my Uncle at his bumper repair company. David spent all his money on alcohol and then lied and told my grandpa that he wasn't getting his paycheck because my Dad couldn't afford to make payroll. He also got drunk and insulted a bunch of clients, telling them the company didn't need their business.
I could go on and on about his irresponsible behavior. For example, he thought it would be a good idea to breed pitbulls with two daughters too young to attend kindergarten. I remember these dogs. He got rid of them because they became too aggressive and one of the kids almost got hurt.
Another tale is from one of my older cousins, from a different part of the family. He and my Uncle were drinking together at someone's house and as a conflict broke out, my Uncle jumped into their vehicle and drove off, leaving my cousin behind. Every member of my rather large family seems to have an "Uncle story."
I have heard time after time of tales of my grandparents repeatedly bailing my Uncle out of jail. I remember one time clearly. I was about 15 years old when he told my best friend (also a minor) about his illegal marijuana plants. A few weeks later, my Uncle was in jail for these marijuana plants. Apparently, he ordered the seeds online and the cops found out about the order.
When I was barely a teenager, before my parents were divorced, they did a trial separation and my Mom and I moved into a little trailer on my grandparent's property. My Uncle had bought a tattoo gun and was tattooing both gimself and his preteen daughter. At some point, my Dad came back and moved in there with us. I just remember a bunch of commotion one day, and it turned out that my Uncle had walked into the woods with a shotgun, threatening to kill himself.
For a long time, our family hid the fact that my grandparents got divorced, married other people, then got back together and had my Uncle, a fifth child much younger than their other children.
My mom, my whole life, has made excuses for "Baby Uncle." It tore my parents apart. It drove my oldest Uncle to move away and not speak to my mom for over a decade.
At one point, my oldest Uncle even tried to make amends and let his younger brother come from many states away to live and work with him, but my Youngest Uncle started getting drunk and causing trouble again. He started spending time with his ex-wife who lived nearby, and one day beat her up so bad she had to go to the hospital.
Now, my mom has let my Uncle move into her home. He sold his home and spent all the money. Now, some years have gone by and he is still there, but he has confessed to her how much he hates her and can't stand to be around her. He threatened to commit suicide if she sticks around.
This is her house, owned free and clear, and instead of filing eviction paperwork and residing in her own home, she would rather wander around the country at 68 years old, staying at various people's homes and living out of a suitcase.
I am not perfect and I do not expect anyone to be perfect, but I do believe in owning your mistakes and admitting when you've been wrong. I believe that if there are details of your life that you are ashamed of, then the actions you take supporting those details are indefensible.
I do not think my Uncle is trustworthy enough to be left alone with children or to be around firearms. I believe he probably manipulates and verbally abuses his daughter to this day. Why do my family members think that the solution to this latest conflict is for my mom to flee to my house? Why do my family members not think they should have him psychologically evaluated by the state? Why does my mother encourage other people to tolerate his behavior?
I do not think it would be responsible for me to pretend that this pattern of acceptance is healthy or appropriate, but I can't help people that won't help themselves.
I have no personal authority over the actions of others, but, I don't have to condone those actions. All it takes for evil to prevail, is for good people to do nothing. Indecision is a decision. Make a choice or a choice will be made for you. I can no longer in good conscience sit quietly while my elderly mother continues to make poor choices that harm her and make me upset.
The dilemma I face is deciding whether or not to share this story and risk hurting those that I care about. I think the conclusion is easy if I ask myself the right questions. Would I be surprised if he killed himself and his grandchildren found his body? Would I be surprised if he killed someone and then killed himself? Would I be surprised if he hit my mom?
Enough is enough. I have more important things to worry about than being too honest about what I think and feel because someone might like me less. I am sorry that these words may hurt some of those that read them. I hope anyone that reads this understands that at the time of writing, I am unable to see things any other way.
This man is a threat to anyone and everyone around him. He has a history of abusive and violent behavior. I would never leave my children alone around him, and I am uncomfortable knowing that he has access to firearms.
I have to now ask myself what I am obligated to do to protect my mother if she is unwilling to protect herself. To be completely honest, a part of me resents her for leading such a poor example and putting me in this difficult situation.
*Names have been edited out. I imagine I would send this to my mom, her brother (my youngest Uncle), his daughter that lives with him in my Mom's home, and her husband. They have two children ages 7 and 4 that live in the home with them. My mom has her belongings there but has not stayed there regularly for a few years. She has been staying at my house for about 9 months a year for the past few years and recently returned home. I live out of state. They have all been living in her home for around 7 years.
If I should omit anything, please advise. I doubt my cousin's husband knows her father's history in any detail so I thought he deserved to know so he could make decisions regarding his kids.
If I should do something other than present this to them all simultaneously, please advise.
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2023.06.09 05:36 ElongatedMuskrat Starship Development Thread #46

SpaceX Starship page


  1. When (first) orbital flight? First integrated flight test occurred April 20, 2023. "The vehicle cleared the pad and beach as Starship climbed to an apogee of ~39 km over the Gulf of Mexico – the highest of any Starship to-date. The vehicle experienced multiple engines out during the flight test, lost altitude, and began to tumble. The flight termination system was commanded on both the booster and ship."
  2. Where can I find streams of the launch? SpaceX Full Livestream. NASASpaceFlight Channel. Lab Padre Channel. Everyday Astronaut Channel.
  3. What's happening next? SpaceX has assessed damage to Stage 0 and is implementing fixes and changes including a water deluge/pad protection/"shower head" system. No major repairs to key structures appear to be necessary.
  4. When is the next flight test? Just after flight, Elon stated they "Learned a lot for next test launch in a few months." On April 29, he reiterated this estimate in a Twitter Spaces Q&A (summarized here), saying "I'm glad to report that the pad damage is actually quite small," should "be repaired quickly," and "From a pad standpoint, we are probably ready to launch in 6 to 8 weeks." Requalifying the flight termination system (FTS) and the FAA post-incident review will likely require the longest time to complete. Musk reiterated the timeline on May 26, stating "Major launchpad upgrades should be complete in about a month, then another month of rocket testing on pad, then flight 2 of Starship."
  5. Why no flame diverteflame trench below the OLM? Musk tweeted on April 21: "3 months ago, we started building a massive water-cooled, steel plate to go under the launch mount. Wasn’t ready in time & we wrongly thought, based on static fire data, that Fondag would make it through 1 launch." Regarding a trench, note that the Starship on the OLM sits 2.5x higher off the ground than the Saturn V sat above the base of its flame trench, and the OLM has 6 exits vs. 2 on the Saturn V trench.

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Primary 2023-06-12 14:00:00 2023-06-13 02:00:00 Possible
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Up to date as of 2023-06-09

Vehicle Status

As of June 8th 2023
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Ship Location Status Comment
Pre-S24 Scrapped or Retired SN15 and S20 are in the Rocket Garden, the rest are scrapped.
S24 In pieces in the ocean Destroyed April 20th: Destroyed when booster MECO and ship stage separation from booster failed three minutes and 59 seconds after successful launch, so FTS was activated. This was the second launch attempt.
S25 Launch Site Testing On Feb 23rd moved back to build site, then on the 25th taken to the Massey's test site. March 21st: Cryo test. May 5th: Another cryo test. May 18th: Moved to the Launch Site and in the afternoon lifted onto Suborbital Test Stand B.
S26 Rocket Garden Resting No fins or heat shield, plus other changes. March 25th: Lifted onto the new higher stand in Rocket Garden. March 28th: First RVac installed (number 205). March 29th: RVac number 212 taken over to S26 and later in the day the third RVac (number 202) was taken over to S26 for installation. March 31st: First Raptor Center installed (note that S26 is the first Ship with electric Thrust Vector Control). April 1st: Two more Raptor Centers moved over to S26.
S27 Rocket Garden Completed but no Raptors yet Like S26, no fins or heat shield. April 24th: Moved to the Rocket Garden.
S28 High Bay 1 Under construction February 7th Assorted parts spotted. March 24th: Mid LOX barrel taken into High Bay 1. March 28th: Existing stack placed onto Mid LOX barrel. March 31st: Almost completed stack lifted off turntable. April 5th: Aft/Thrust section taken into High Bay 1. April 6th: the already stacked main body of the ship has been placed onto the thrust section, giving a fully stacked ship. April 25th: Lifted off the welding turntable, then the 'squid' detached - it was then connected up to a new type of lifting attachment which connects to the two lifting points below the forward flaps that are used by the chopsticks. May 25th: Installation of the first Aft Flap (interesting note: the Aft Flaps for S28 are from the scrapped S22).
S29 High Bay 1 Under construction April 28th: Nosecone and Payload Bay taken inside High Bay 1 (interesting note: the Forward Flaps are from the scrapped S22). May 1st: nosecone stacked onto payload bay (note that S29 is being stacked on the new welding turntable to the left of center inside High Bay 1, this means that LabPadre's Sentinel Cam can't see it and so NSF's cam looking at the build site is the only one with a view when it's on the turntable). May 4th: Sleeved Forward Dome moved into High Bay 1 and placed on the welding turntable. May 5th: Nosecone+Payload Bay stack placed onto Sleeved Forward Dome and welded. May 10th: Nosecone stack hooked up to new lifting rig instead of the 'Squid' (the new rig attaches to the Chopstick's lifting points and the leeward Squid hooks). May 11th: Sleeved Common Dome moved into High Bay 1. May 16th: Nosecone stack placed onto Sleeved Common Dome and welded. May 18th: Mid LOX section moved inside High Bay 1. May 19th: Current stack placed onto Mid LOX section for welding. June 2nd: Aft/Thrust section moved into High Bay 1. June 6th: The already stacked main body of the ship has been placed onto the thrust section, giving a fully stacked ship.
S30+ Build Site Parts under construction Assorted parts spotted through S34.
Booster Location Status Comment
Pre-B7 & B8 Scrapped or Retired B4 is in the Rocket Garden, the rest are scrapped.
B7 In pieces in the ocean Destroyed April 20th: Destroyed when MECO and stage separation of ship from booster failed three minutes and 59 seconds after successful launch, so FTS was activated. This was the second launch attempt.
B9 High Bay 2 Raptor Install Cryo testing (methane and oxygen) on Dec. 21 and Dec. 29. Rollback on Jan. 10. On March 7th Raptors started to be taken into High Bay 2 for B9.
B10 Rocket Garden Resting 20-ring LOX tank inside High Bay 2 and Methane tank (with grid fins installed) in the ring yard. March 18th: Methane tank moved from the ring yard and into High Bay 2 for final stacking onto the LOX tank. March 22nd: Methane tank stacked onto LOX tank, resulting in a fully stacked booster. May 27th: Moved to the Rocket Garden. Note: even though it appears to be complete it currently has no Raptors.
B11 High Bay 2 Under construction March 24th: 'A3' barrel had the current 8-ring LOX tank stacked onto it. March 30th: 'A4' 4-ring LOX tank barrel taken inside High Bay 2 and stacked. April 2nd: 'A5' 4-ring barrel taken inside High Bay 2. April 4th: First methane tank 3-ring barrel parked outside High Bay 2 - this is probably F2. April 7th: downcomer installed in LOX tank (which is almost fully stacked except for the thrust section). April 28th: Aft section finally taken inside High Bay 2 to have the rest of the LOX tank welded to it (which will complete the LOX tank stack). May 11th: Methane tank Forward section and the next barrel down taken into High Bay 2 and stacked. May 18th: Methane tank stacked onto another 3 ring next barrel, making it 9 rings tall out of 13. May 20th: Methane tank section stacked onto the final barrel, meaning that the Methane tank is now fully stacked. May 23rd: Started to install the grid fins. June 3rd: Methane Tank stacked onto LOX Tank, meaning that B11 is now fully stacked. Once welded still more work to be done such as the remaining plumbing and wiring.
B12 High Bay 2 (LOX Tank) Under construction June 3rd: LOX tank commences construction: Common Dome (CX:4) and a 4-ring barrel (A2:4) taken inside High Bay 2 where CX:4 was stacked onto A2:4 on the right side welding turntable. June 7th: A 4-ring barrel (A3:4) was taken inside High Bay 2. June 8th: Barrel section A3:4 was lifted onto the welding turntable and the existing stack placed on it for welding.
B13+ Build Site Parts under construction Assorted parts spotted through B17.

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2023.06.09 05:36 FLOWORTHY Power Steering fluid change

Power Steering fluid change
Is this the correct fluid for a 2015 3.7? I attached a picture of my reservoir
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2023.06.09 05:36 ploobadoof I found this at Best Buy. A model of Dominic Toretto’s house from Fast and the Furious. With the 1970 GTO. Maybe should add to my small layout.

I found this at Best Buy. A model of Dominic Toretto’s house from Fast and the Furious. With the 1970 GTO. Maybe should add to my small layout. submitted by ploobadoof to lioneltrains [link] [comments]

2023.06.09 05:36 ImOnRedditHarHar Kicking it old school

I’m probably not alone in thinking and feeling contemporary movies are missing an X factor so I picked up the plex app recently and started reconnecting with some of the old school movies, some good , some I didn’t enjoy the first go around but am finding it enjoyable now like die hard 4.0 live free or die hard. Guess a part of that is probably comparing to Bruce’s recent works while he was experiencing aphasia, but this movie on its own isn’t as bad as most people panned it for being at the time.
What are some old movies that hits you in the feel?
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2023.06.09 05:34 DirtyApe420 Dog got aggressive over the past 8 months

She's 3 and a half years old, half german shepherd, the other half was a mutt mix that my sister took off someones hands, best they could tell she was mostly belgian malinois, and for roughly the first 3 years she was just fine, she wasnt perfect but she never bit and wasn't aggressive, I was living with my mom and was forced to move because they increased rent and we couldn't make ends meet, so we moved in with my older sister for a couple months and she had one of the males from the litter, my dogs brother, and he was territorial and a bit aggressive with her and she got a little reactive, after that we moved in with my sister that had my dogs mother, we had them seperated because neither were spayed, i kept trying to get them to work with me so we could socialize them together so that we wouldnt have to have them seperated, likely wouldnt have gone well anyway since it was her mother and again both intact, i had really no knowledge on how to properly train dogs when i got her and learned little things here and there but didn't realize that it would be so bad, I'm not trying to say I had no part in it, cause at times I'm very lazy but they didn't care to help socialize them, and they didn't keep them in their space securely, so there was atleast 4 or 5 times their dog got out and got into fights with mine, I wanted to move out after the first time but I couldn't afford a place on my own so all i could do was hope it didn't happen again, ended up leaving in april and I've tried a few different times to socialize her but shes just really aggressive now and i hate myself for letting it get to this point, idk what to do anymore, i just want her to have a good life and feel as tho i cant give it to her, but idk if i can rehome her cause she's very reactive now, shes nipped one of my friends and a couple family members but never forcefully bit someone, but whenever a dog is on the other side of the fence she goes at it quite aggressively, it's the last thing i wanna do but i dont really have the time or energy to put into training her properly, my mom told me growing up that training dogs is easy and its the same for every dog and i stupidly believed her, so this is completely my fault, if anyone has any advice it would be greatly appreciated, and before anyone says, I know, im a f_ckin dumbass. Sorry for the long winded explanation.
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2023.06.09 05:34 m83rocks I wish I could go back in time

I had to breakup with my girlfriend of 4.5 years. I’m so incredibly heartbroken my heart & stomach hurts all the time, like there is an empty pit of numbness. I miss her every single day, I don’t think there will ever be another person that I love as much as her, ever. Genuinely. And vice versa. But I needed to end things because I strongly felt like we were holding each other back.. I couldn’t shake that feeling no matter how hard I tried, no matter what we did, that feeling persisted. I drove us everywhere for the whole relationship and she still doesn’t drive. I was getting really tired and she showed no signs of progressing or even wanting to. I want to be with someone who has immense drive & determination to reach their goals and I didn’t feel that with her. It felt so stagnant after 3 years, no matter what we did. I did this because I want her to blossom, so bad. But I don’t think we can blossom being with each other anymore.. we were attached at the hip. Too attached and codependent. This separation feels like a part of my body is gone.. I don’t recognize myself or my life anymore. I wish I could cuddle with her one last time and smell her hair. I wish I could hold her body tight and protect her from everything. I wish I could make her laugh again. walking away was the hardest thing I’ve ever done in this life. There will never be another like her, but I care too much about mutual progress for both of us. I will always love her.
I wish it could’ve been her.
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2023.06.09 05:33 Mimikyu_Master2020 Random Object Show Character Tournament: Part 5

Blocky won Part 4. Brain vs Brick, both from AIB
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2023.06.09 05:33 Popular_Ad4331 Passed AI-900 with 916 score

So after study 4 days for it , i take the exam today. There are 33 questions in 45 mins , take 15 min to answer them all and review. The exam is very easy, just use ms learn and freecodecamp 's video on youtube and thats enough.i think the hardest part is the natural language processing , just need focus more on this part.
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2023.06.09 05:32 l2academy German Time Vocabulary Formal and Informal Way Part-2

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2023.06.09 05:32 justthanks0192 Discovering that I am disabled

I'm young and wanted a life full of exciting things but over the past 4 years or so I had a mental breakdown, was hospitalized multiple times, and recently i was evaluated and told I am disabled mentally from PTSD, / need to take years to recover and prioritize my mental health. I've really struggled opening up to people about it and there have been signs its been dehabilitating already (I have been out of school for a long while.) My psychiatrist and therapist have already told me that I could be disabled before this, too. I still have goals and aspirations, I know I won't be in this state forever.... like I dont expect my PTSD to go away but I know it will get less severe. I guess I just wanted to say this somewhere. I'm still a teenager. It makes me sad because I wish I was given a normal life without being a victim of rape and CSA, and having to deal with abuse from family etc. I'm just in a really difficult situation right now and soon will be in residential hospitalization. I feel like such a failure to my family and friends, even though they tell me they support me. A part of me has intense shame and regret for even telling people, or wishing I never talked about it to anyone at all.... But it pushed me to the brink... I'm lucky my parents support me but I just feel like a leech. I want all this to go away ... But I guess its just me now, I just need to hear some reassurance, from someone who understands.... Thank you for reading. Sorry if this was an annoying self centered vent, I just dont know where to put this
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2023.06.09 05:32 MountainMannequin Am I(31M) wrong to want to have my own savings account separate from my spouse(29F)

My wife and I have been married for nearly 10 years. We have a 1 year old together. Since the beginning of the relationship we each had only joint accounts, two checking and one savings. One of the checking accounts is for bills, so more than half my paycheck gets directly deposited to that one, then the other checking account is for spending on groceries or things needed but not necessarily bills. Then we put money away into joint savings. We each have the ability to see and access these accounts. Well over the years I’ve gotten paid more to where I more than cover the bills and necessities. My families health insurance, life insurance, and AD&D insurance is deducted from my paycheck. My wife was working part time the whole time we were married, but makes more hourly so usually made the same biweekly. We used her income to pay for wants or extra principle payments towards the house.
However, we have always been so frugal with our money and very tight, this was so that we could ensure we were set and prepared for retirement, but now I feel like we are over preparing. We will have our house paid off by the time we are 45, we each have Roth IRAs, and I have a pension and a Roth 457 account through work. Im now getting to a point in life where I want to spend a little on myself without having to have both my wife and I agree on it. I want to start moving over maybe 2-300 in my own savings or checking account for me wants. Such as on games, or speaker system, or personal projects. I told her she could do the same cuz she works right now but even though it’s been reduced from 4 days to 1 day a week and I don’t mind if she puts aside the same amount herself for her wants cuz she’s also the primary caregiveparent to our son and also deserves an award for hard work.
But she hates this idea. She doesn’t like the idea of keeping our finances separate. She says it’s how couples get in fights and it causes relationship problems. She thinks everyone else is doing it wrong this way. I told her our finances will still be connected but I think we should have our own allowances for things for ourselves where we won’t feel the need to ask the other for permission. She says I don’t have to ask permission now. But I told her I feel like I do cuz sometimes my purchases are bigger but if I was saving 2-300 a month I could save up for those. She said I could do that now with our joint savings. I said but I still feel that’s still shared so I’ll have to ask permission. Besides it’s really just an emergency savings not a fun or wants savings. She still despises the idea.
So am I wrong? I just think it’s fair for each of us to have an allowance for ourselves that’s disconnected from everything else. Our own separate savings for ourselves. Is that bad for couples?
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2023.06.09 05:32 DuttonPeabody PIMO Counselor Calls It Quits Part 4

PIMO Counselor Calls It Quits Part 4
Well, I had to wait for Part 4 because it was still playing out as you will shortly see. Much has happened since I began posting what happened to myself last Sunday. It's both interesting yet disgusting and not the way I had hoped this would conclude. Again my humble thanks for all of the comments and responses from so many here. It has been a great support and has meant so much with what I have been going through. Your comments, well-wishes and shared experiences are truly a gift for me lately!
I had a good long talk with the Bishop earlier this afternoon and we both agreed I need a break. I shared with him some "interesting" events that had transpired since Sunday (keep reading) but, we're still very much both friends, very much care how the other is doing, and are very much appreciative of each other's service. There is NO bad blood between us, and that Philia thing is quite alive and well.
And so it came to pass that on the 4th day of the 6th month in the 23rd year of the Reign of The Judges that...OK I can't keep THAT going. But seriously, after I posted Part 1 and was utterly blown away by the responses I was getting, I began receiving private messages from many folks letting me know that someone was posting a similar story to a BYU online discussion board. You may refer to the graphic I've posted to see just a few of the messages I was receiving about this. I didn't get it at first (social media isn't my thing) but slowly I began to put 2 and 2 together and realized that another member of the bishopric was posting about my departure. Remember Part 2, where I said I wondered how long it would take the ward to find out about my departure? Well, I was half right, but it wasn't the ward that was notified first, nor a spouse of a bishopric member as I had imagined, it was the religion thread of the BYU "CougarBoard" (or whatever it's called).
As you can see from the private messages I was getting, that BYU online discussion board is members-only and only they can read what is posted there. I am NOT a BYU alumnus but 2 of our Bishopric members are. As you can see from the image, the individual posting to the Cougarboard is obviously a member of the bishopric, and like the others, was caught completely off-guard by my decision to quit my calling as First Counselor. I don't blame him. Really I don't, but while I was receiving all manner of positive vibes from the replies and comments here, the discussion on Cougarboard was quite the opposite. As you can see from the image, my motives and person were being impuned on many different fronts. Since there is quite a bit of cross-pollination between this discussion group and Cougarboard, it didn't take long for this individual to find my posts and "go down the rabbit hole" on what I wrote. The funny part is he learned what PIMO is!!
Am I surprised? Absolutely not. But thanks to those who shall remain anonymous, this Bishopric member was "delivered into my hands" to turn a phrase. He knows who I am, and while I am not certain he didn't use my real name over on that discussion thread, I'm pretty sure I'm DOXXED. But that's ok. Until he reads this post, and he will, or someone else will and messages him, he has had no idea that I learned of WHAT he did, and even better WHO it was that did it. As is now quite the norm today, the Interwebs provide one a sense of security so that you can say anything about anyone and think you're getting away with it. So I'd like to pause for station identification and welcome all those Cougarboard folks to the thread! I have no intention of mentioning his name or otherwise revealing who he is. It's against the rules here (we'd be just like the animals eh Mr. Wick?) and as Captain Hook would say it's also "BAD FORM!!". And this Homey don't play that.
I shared this tidbit with my wife and, like me, she was furious. We have both been struggling with many things including where we both individually stood regarding our faith. It's been a helluva year and she was just beginning to consider returning to church again. So while I have endeavoured to keep my posts anonymous and centered on my thoughts/feelings/experiences, I believe I would describe the posts on that other chatboard simply as malicious. I really don't think there can be any comparison to what I've posted here vs what was being posted there. Needless to say, whatever hope I had about my future involvement in the ward, I AM DONE.
So earlier today, I met up with the Bishop (he had no idea what was up) and told him that I was grateful for the opportunity to serve, appreciated him as my friend and spiritual leader, but I am sorry because I am going to lay one more burden upon his shoulders before this was done. I then handed him my building keys, told him I would NOT be attending the tri-ward social event tonight, I would not be finishing out the rest of the month as I had hoped, and then pulled out a printed copy of the graphic I posted with this thread and handed it to him.
I explained that while we were in the clerk's office, another member of the bishopric was posting to a BYU chat discussion group what had just happened in Bishopric Meeting:
Me: There were 5 of us in that meeting Bishop.
Bishop: Yes...
Me: To my knowledge, there are only 2 members of the Bishopric who are BYU alumni. [The Bishop and the Exec Sec]
Bishop: Yes...
Me: I'm pretty certain it wasn't YOU Bishop.
Bishop: Yeah, because I have no idea what this Cougarboard even is...
Me: So I want to hear who YOU think it was that was posting this to the BYU discussion group.
Bishop: Well, [long pregnant pause] I guess it would have to be [REDACTED] (the Exec Sec).
Me: We are on the same page Bishop!
Bishop: So what do you want me to do?
Me: I don't care, and it doesn't matter. My wife was this close (holding thumb and index finger close together) to returning to church but it ain't happening now. I am not returning to the ward. I do not care what you do, I do not care what happens to Exec Sec, because I am out. Besides, it's none of my business what you decide. You are under NO obligation to tell me what you decide regarding him. I am not going to inform the Stake President, but if he wants to meet after he returns stateside, I will happily answer any and all questions he may have about it. >I< know who it was that posted this. YOU now know who posted this. All that matters to me is that YOU know who it was. And it was your Executive Secretary! I really have no problem with Exec Sec, I truly do think he's a great guy, and he's the BEST dam Exec Sec I've ever seen. He's organized, his meeting notes are perfectly detailed, he gets folks in to see you- he does the job in spectacular fashion. And I know that he himself has undergone lots of challenges and that he was recently sealed to his wonderful 2nd wife in the temple, has several marvelous children and obviously spends more time with his son than I do with mine! (I began to break down at this point) But this (pointing to the printout) is EXACTLY what I have been talking about Bishop! This bullshit that is the true culture of the church! Do what you will as you see fit and as you believe the Lord directs you, I really do not care. But from this time forward, every email you receive from your Exec Sec, every text you get, every phone call, will now be a reminder to you who's knife is in my back. My wife and I won't be returning because of this. And it's already a shit-show once the ward realizes that I'm no longer around and the rumors begin to fly, then THIS (again, pointing to the printout)! Until this sort of thing changes, the church is doomed, and it's yet ANOTHER testament and witness to me that the Saviour is NOT at the head of this organization! The sign on the front of the building says VISTORS WELCOME. But are they really? No, they're not. In the D&C it talks all about enlarging our stakes to make room for all, but is there room? (SIGH)
I'm gonna stop there.
Eyes hath not seen nor have ears heard all of the things that Bro. Peabody said to the Bishop. There were tears shed. There was strong langauge used by me. And there was nothing but love and understanding on the part of Bishop. He agreed that there was no place for such in the Church and that he wished social media was banned from the face of the Earth because ultimately, nothing good really comes from it. We shared many things. We agreed on many things. He reassured me that this wouldn't change our relationship and that we're still friends. He asked if he needed to delete my Temple Recommend and I said I think I could still pass the quiz, but if HE thought it should be deleted I was fine with that. He then began to quiz me about if I "[could] sustain Russel M. Nelson as prophet seer and revelator." It took me a bit to come around to an answer but Bishop reminded me it didn't ask if I BELIEVED he was a prophet, but do I SUSTAIN him as such. "Oh, right, it does say that huh? Umm, no certainly not. I would vote opposed and was prepared to do so at our last conference because SEC/Mormom is a Victory For Satan/Let's Get Rid Of YM Presidents and Dump Youth On The Bishops/Reasons." "Well, I looked it up" he said, "and it turns out you can vote opposed with no repercussions." (Thanks NEMO!!)
He managed to calm me down and we chatted for over an hour. I really do wish I could post many of the wonderful things we discussed, but alas, those parts are quite plain and precious to me. We agreed that it was fun to watch new missionaries from the Wasatch Front arrive here and serve. Their naivete combined with their eagerness and inexperince was just fun to watch and I told him I wish I could have that eagerness again. "Maybe you will someday." He appreciated the counsel I gave and told me THAT was why he wanted me in the Bishopric, because our ward council members are just so young and inexperienced. That meant the world to me. I did explain to him what "Leadership Roulette" meant, and that I was blessed to have him as a Bishop and our Stake President as leaders over our corner of Zion.
Me: I have 2 last bits of counsel to give you Bishop.
Bishop: Sure, what is it?
Me: First, remember that YOUR top Priority as Bishop of this ward is to YOUR family.
Bishop: Thank you I really do appreciate you reminding me of that.
Me: And second, when another member comes to you doubting, with their faith in tatters, and they will come, call me. I will be more than happy to tell them they are not alone. I will not have any better answers than you will, but I will offer them support, hug them and tell them they still matter. That the hurt will lesson in time, and there is indeed life after leaving the church.
We hugged and parted on very good terms.
I'm not sure what else to say. Maybe the SCMC will contact the Stake President before this is all said and done, but that matters little to me now. I love the support that can be found here and thank all of you who've stuck around reading this diatribe of mine. I speak unto you as if ye are here, and yet ye are not!
[Cue LOTR Soundtrack, Annie Lennox, "Into The West"]
-End of Part 4-
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2023.06.09 05:31 zenbaker If you made a decision on having children, how did you make it?

This is a long rambling novel so apologies in advance if you decide to read it, and thank you for reading it.
I’ve never been good with kids, I don’t particularly enjoy other people’s kids, and they make no sense to me rationally. I’m also very sensitive to noise (I wear earplugs in any public place, and I’m glad for noise-cancelling AirPods because I can just have those on without anything playing and it’s like all the extra stimuli just quiets down). I also have no tolerance for bad or insufficient sleep. I’ll go through the whole day in a bad mood, not think well, and straight up fall asleep on a chair because I’m tired.
Anyway, kids just never made sense to me. I didn’t like them, I didn’t want them, and I had no maternal instinct. Although I’m very obsessed with our dog and will occasionally cry myself to sleep thinking of him aging faster than us and leaving us. Also, the fear of having a special needs kid had always been very present in my head. Or even the fear of a child dying.
When my husband and I were about to get married, I reminded him that i was on the fence and leaning towards no on having children and that he had to be ready to accept that if he wanted to marry me. He thought about it for a few weeks and then came around and said he was ok with it and that he would rather be with me and not have kids than be with anyone else and have them. We had talked about it before, but this was like a final warning on my part.
I still felt pressure to have kids because I felt inadequate and like I was holding him back (not because of anything he did or say) and after 4 wonderful years of marriage with him, I basically convinced myself that I would have a kid just because I love him so much, and I can’t imagine not loving that child.
The idea of having children kind of bloomed in my head and it turned into a real thing. In less than a month I went from proud, career-driven, child-free woman to fantasizing about baby names, about taking my hypothetical daughter to get her ears pierced, about doing homework with that hypothetical daughter, or going to her school play, or sports, or whatever she liked. Also, I realized I could handle kids with him for more rational reasons like how helpful he is around the house, how supportive and selfless he is, how patient he is, and how he believes in equity—sometimes, I can’t handle as much as him, and he picks up the slack. And lastly, financially, we could afford a nanny and have a good support system, so I guess it’s the best case scenario. We could give those kids a good life.
So I decided I was going to have kids with him, or maybe just one kid. Then a few days ago, as I’m mentally preparing to have this talk with him, he just casually brought up the conversation of kids, just to let me know how happy he was in our life together and how he couldn’t imagine more. He was telling me that he didn’t want children anymore, reassuring me (like he had before we got married) that he would rather be with me and not have kids than be with someone else and have children. But this time it didn’t sound like a sacrifice on his part, he was actually genuinely excited about the idea of not having children. He said his whole life he just expected he would have them, and he didn’t really see it as optional until he met me and I made it an option. He said he wanted to travel the world, retire early, and spend his time and life with me. And that the more he thought about it, the more he realized that he enjoyed peace and quiet, alone time, hobbies, and so do I—so kids just didn’t make sense.
And now I’m very conflicted. I told him I had come around to the idea of having them and pretty much gotten to the point of wanting them and after a long talk he said he could come back around to that side of the fence if I was sure. He seemed genuine about that too, and totally ok with it.
How does one even make this decision? I’m so incredibly grateful that I can question this decision without any fear or doubt for what either choice will do to our relationship.
He was brought up in a household where his parents loved each other so much that the kids just grew up enveloped by that love. They weren’t the priority, they knew their mom came first to dad and their dad came first to mom, and that produced 3 really well-adapted people. I grew up in an environment where my parents were together for the kids, and I never wanted that responsibility as a child. I didn’t want to be the reason they were together.
I think I could do better than my parents did in that regard, but I do fear what biology and hormones could do to my brain. I’m afraid of loving a baby that has had no positive impact on my life other than good chemical reactions more than I love my husband, who actually deserves that love. I’m afraid of prioritizing our hypothetical children, or of losing perspective and becoming overprotective of them, or of not loving him first.
And lastly, I don’t even know how I got to this place of genuine confusion. A few months ago I was totally sure about not wanting kids. Is this even a trustworthy desire or am I just going through a hormone spike or something?
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2023.06.09 05:30 Alternative_Sign4496 I (F 22) feel weird in relationship with bf (M20) because we started out as FWB

Yeah so it’s pretty much the title. I genuinely don’t even know how to phrase this right, and it’s worth noting that I have anxiety and I’m a bit anxious avoidant (I need a lot of reassurance lol). So diving right in here, I (F, 22) met this guy (M 19) while I was in a very painful, very bad relationship (I can’t even really call it that—the guy was just using me for sex and calling himself my bf). Eventually I put my foot down and the person broke up with me (I found out same day he was on tinder 🥲). Long story short, me and this guy were good friends but our chemistry was insane. Literally could cut it with a knife. Here’s where it gets tricky. We have our little first kiss and dumb naive me thinks oh he wants to date…but no, he made it very clear from that minute it was just casual because he didn’t wanna be tied down. I was fresh out of a shitshow relationship so I agreed. We also agreed to be exclusive from day one, and we texted 24/7 almost religiously and talked as if we were dating. All of this situationship stuff was new to me. Fast forward I find out WHY he’s not ready for a relationship—he’s hung up on his ex (a 3 year relationship from highschool into the first year of college). That was a shitty discovery but he was transparent about it. And I was in no place to judge based on our relationship. We kept going with our FWB relationship for about 4 months and decided to drop labels, then we went official about two months later. We’re LDR other than when we both attend college so that’s hard but we make it work and overall it’s really awesome relationship. He gets me, I get him…it works. The thing that keeps haunting me is our beginnings though, and I don’t know why. I just get a nasty feeling. I don’t know what it is. Like I regret how we started even though I don’t regret us? I look back at that brief period and I feel used sorta? Not entirely but part of my mindset was I had to do certain things to keep him since our relationship was solely sexual and the rest was just our old friendship. And idk—I think those repressed feelings might finally be coming out and they’re making me doubt the integrity of the whole relationship in ways I don’t understand. I guess I’m looking for some emotional validation here that I’m not crazy and I’m not the only one going through whatever this is. Like I can’t even look at old texts without feeling queasy. Can anyone explain or lend advice? Tl;dr the fact that we started out as FWB for 6 months before officially dating makes me feel uncomfortable and insecure in the relationship
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